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Old 02-11-2009, 08:07 PM
 
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You should have mooned him.
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Old 02-11-2009, 08:10 PM
 
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Oh my goodness. I would be completely shocked and embarrassed. I'm sorry you have to deal with this man. Hopefully your dh straightened him out.
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When I first read the comment about what he said about your son and his pants, I was thinking "Well, that's a stupid thing to say, but I wouldn't get too worked up about it. But note to self: never leave my son unattended around this man."

When I read the comment about boys not wanting to come out, I thought "Well, another stupid thing to say, but some people are idiots."

When I read the next comment I about choked. "Warm me up for my husband?!?!?!" That is just gross.
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You should have mooned him.
He would have enjoyed that too much. I have given him the benefit of the dought so many times. My other neighbor ladies have complained about what a creep he was and I always defended him. No more of that. I know better now.
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If he ever says things like that to you again (doubtful after your DH talked to him!) I'd look him dead in the eye, head held high, and politely inform him that I do not appreciate such comments, that is beyond neighborly into sexual harassment and any more comments will result in a police report being filed.
This. Exactly. Only the "politely" part may be beyond my capabilities in the moment.

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He is a jerk and your husband a keeper!
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What he is saying is inappropriate and rude. It is a good idea to avoid him or tell him directly to stop talking like that to you.
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I.am.absolutely.shocked.

I cannot imagine someone saying any of that stuff to me. I can understand that you didn't say anything back...you were probably in shock. That guy is a MAJOR UAV. I wouldn't go any where near him again...

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No, you aren't being too sensitve. He sounds like a boundary crossing creep.
yeah that.
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Old 02-14-2009, 01:27 AM
 
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Um, no. Definitely not over sensitive! At the 'warm up' comment I'd have probably been inclined to comment "Well that's pretty damn close to impossible, since I find you to be an offensive pig." and THEN turned my dh loose on him if necessary. I just totally do NOT get why any man would think himself entitled to make such comments to any woman

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That's gross. And as for the "warming up" comment, I would have raised an eyebrow and replied "Not likely."

Did I mention that's gross? That's really gross.
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He sounds like a disgusting creep. My boyfriend would kick his ass if he had said that stuff to me.

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Old 02-14-2009, 08:21 PM
 
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I just totally do NOT get why any man would think himself entitled to make such comments to any woman
I believe you have hit the nail on the head there. Due to thousands of years of women being considered chattel, many men simply feel entitled to treat women any way they want.
I'm not sure what the answer is. Having your husband set him straight feels nice, but just reinforces the idea that women are chattel, like he would have to leave you alone because your man told him to, not because there is anything inherently wrong with anything he did. Maybe what a previous poster said, just look at him and say, "You are not allowed to talk to me like that!"

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