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#91 of 101 Old 03-18-2009, 11:27 PM
 
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I think this mostly stems from waitresses not paying attention and asking my husband and I if they "can get anything else for you ladies?" Drives both of us nuts and is just insulting. Use gender neutral words or leave those things off altogether.
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I don't get this. I am not gender neutral, I am a lady. What is offensive to being referred to as a lady? Or is this the new PC stuff, that I really find demeaning to me as a person.
If you reread the pp comment, she was referring to when it is her and her husband... a mixed sex couple should never be referred to as "ladies" as a matter of course.

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"Can I get you another water, Person Wearing A Red Sweater?"
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I don't mind Miss, or Ma'am, alone, from a stranger, it doesn't bother me at all. Sweetie and Honey have ot be from the right person, and in the right context, or they bother me (condescending or sexual = not OK - otherwise, OK). BUT, I am another person who finds Miss Firstname REEEEEEEEEELY annoying. I'm not Miss Heather. I'm Heather. Kids of my friends call me Heather, it is not disrespectful at all IMO. The "Miss" in front seems sugary sweetsy fakey to me, which is probably why I don't like it.

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If you reread the pp comment, she was referring to when it is her and her husband... a mixed sex couple should never be referred to as "ladies" as a matter of course.
Missed that. Totally makes more sense now. Thanks.

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There should be a word like Sir for women, that is not dependent on whether the addressee is old or young, or married or single. Just a respectful way to address a woman who you don't know.

I don't get why we've made all of these advances for equality and yet we still have this antiquated way of addressing women. I vote for bringing back m'lady!

For the record, I prefer Miss. Even though I am married, Ma'am makes me feel old. I don't even really like saying Ma'am. It's kinda southern and I'm a yankee :P Also, I go by Missy, so it makes me feel like everyone knows me.
I actually would like everyone to address me as my dh does when I'm shaking my head at the antics of my boys. "The Dread Empress of Moronica is not pleased, and she has the 'off with your heads' look!"

 
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I actually would like everyone to address me as my dh does when I'm shaking my head at the antics of my boys. "The Dread Empress of Moronica is not pleased, and she has the 'off with your heads' look!"

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not reading any replies....

no, it does not bug me, I like it, I think its cute. When I fill out forms I mark the Miss box instead of the divorced ms. box, is that the one if you are divorced? thats that one I dont like personally

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Ms. has nothing to do with being divorced, it has to do with not wanting to be treated differently based on your marital status. I've always used Ms. regardless of whether or not I was married.
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Ms. has nothing to do with being divorced, it has to do with not wanting to be treated differently based on your marital status. I've always used Ms. regardless of whether or not I was married.
well, i am glad to learn that! thx : ) no idea where i got that from...

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it bugs me too. In my (extremely southern) area, "Miss" goes in front of someone's name, just like "Mister" does. I grew up calling adults "Miss Tess" and "Mister Joe". You wouldn't address anyone as "Miss". If you didn't know them, you called them ma'am or sir.

: This is us too. "Miss" also can seem dismissive (no pun intended ), in the same way that you wouldn't (if you're smart) call a man "boy."

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I don't mind "miss" or "honey" or "sweetheart" or any of those. Kind of like the latter ones, actually.

I HATE ma'am with a passion. Ick.

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I think I'd probably be more shocked then offended if someone called me Miss.

Ma'am would get them an ear full.
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