Tell me about something you did unique or unconventional that you remember fondly. Please?
Could you also please add something you wish you had done differnt or skiped altogether? If there is anything of course!
It was a really special memory for us.
ETA: Congratulations! I love, love, love weddings! Enjoy this time - it's pretty special.
(My girls were supposed to be there, but their father decided to take them for Spring Break at the last minute. That would be the one thing I'd change--I'd have made darn sure we scheduled it better!)
We plan to have a "reception" of sorts this summer, hopefully also at Beason's. That will be, really, just a BBQ. There won't be a cake, but brownies instead (strange as it sounds, they have special meaning for us), and other than the first dance we don't plan on having any dancing. There will, however, be a bouncy castle and some coloring pages for the children. We decided early on the emphasis will be on party instead of on wedding (this was back when we'd thought to do the two together). That means no silliness like save the date cards or table assignments or favors.
My advice is to sit down with your fiance and decide what's important to the two of you, and realize that EVERYTHING ELSE is negotiable.
Sabra: Mama to Bobbie (3/02), Linda (1/04), Esther (10/05), Marie (11/10), & Douglas (11/12)
We rented an old farmhouse on the ocean for a week. We invited only immediate family, who all had to travel pretty far to get to Maine. We weren't living here at the time, but we knew we would be soon. So there were 20 guests. We had the ceremony outside and we had written our own vows. Everything about it was pretty DIY. I made the invitations with a little Chagall print on handmade paper. I made floral headpieces for me and the flower girl. Our "recessional" if you even want to call it that (it was a pretty informal affair) was the Grateful Dead's "They Love Each Other." The ceremony took place right next to what was once a beautiful walled garden that is now overgrown with wildflowers, so I was planning on picking flowers that morning. But a friend who ran a flower farm brought over a bouquet that morning as a gift, so I mostly used those. Dinner was on the front porch of the farmhouse, and MIL made her amazing homemade lasagna. We hired a friend to make salads appetizers. Another friend made blueberry spice cake.
Dh cut the cake with a sword, that was neat too. Our favours were little jars of honey.
What I would have done differently or skipped: I would have gotten the money together to pay someone else to take care of the food and clean up, or delegated better. I also would have skipped the favors, since we forgot to hand them out anyway.
Sabra: Mama to Bobbie (3/02), Linda (1/04), Esther (10/05), Marie (11/10), & Douglas (11/12)
It was wonderful, we were married in front of the cabin ( we brought rented chairs) in the meadow, and then had a big party with family and friends. We had little white candles set up all over the porch as night fell and the music went on. LOL Our cabin had plenty of bedrooms for the wedding party (including a private suite for us) and a pool and a hot tub. My parents rented a smaller cabin for themselves nearby and watched the grandbabies in it one night. Then after the weekend wedding Dh and I went off for a week of traveling the area on our honeymoon.
Mom to three boys 7/7/00 11/20/02 and 10/29/2011
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We really just wanted a fun, casual event and that is what we got. The big bonfire at the end of the night was so much fun!
We released butterflies, had a steel drummer playing music. I co wrote the ceremony with the guy I found on line that did the ceremony:
That's him and his site and the ceremony we wrote. He has changed it up a somewhat.
We had a Krispy Kreme donut teir with a bride and groom on top for the reception, along with Mimosas and coffee.
The only thing I would change is that I didn't have any sort of photographer, so there was no really nice photos taken.
Elizabeth wife to Matt , mom to Logan (2/21/01) , and little man Desmond (9/23/08)
Mourning the loss of her father: Robert Edward Dillon 5/31/52 - 01/03/2011
If I could go back, I would have skipped using my nephew to do the music. It was rather cheesy. We did everything on the cheap and made good decisions with other things but I thought he had a level of prowess as a DJ that just wasn't there.
Then 2 days later, my lovely mother in law threw our wedding party with all the family and friends. We wanted something small on our day, and this let us have the family celebration and still have our intimate, meaningful private ceremony. We dressed up in our wedding clothes again, so everyone got to see us. I love that I got to be a "bride" twice and wear my beautiful dress again.
We have nothing of that day - except for our fuzzy memories ( I was on an epidural) and a picture of our witnesses. The video didnt come out, I was out of it, DH was stressed, hospital green is not a flattering color on me... etc..
We've decided to do a 5 year renewal of our vows (hopefully after we're done having kiddos) and able to really celebrate our love with each other & our friends and family.
And you who seek to know Me, know that the seeking and yearning will avail you not, unless you know the Mystery: for if that which you seek, you find not within yourself, you will never find it without.
There were also people recording a yoga video in the background which was hilarious. It was nice to get married on our honeymoon and spend most of the money on that instead of a bunch of tuxes and flowers, etc. Plus having the kids involved in a beautiful place was nice.
So notes to self:
1. heavy satin with a train is not fun in the desert.
2. get a well reviewed officiant
3. make sure there's no movies/pictures being taken when you're at a state park.
AP Mom to 5
Got married in the back room of a pizza place. (We're the first, and so far only, people to do that!) Had the ceremony in front of a big "anarchy" poster advertising an art show (at the last minute, we noticed the poster that was there had a mostly-naked woman with strategically placed electrical tape--also for the art show--and management covered it). After the ceremony, we had pizza, pasta, and salad for 35 (family, out-of-town friends, and a few very close local friends).
As for the ceremony, we included a reading from Goodrich v. Mass. Department of Health (the court ruling that legalized same-sex marriage in that state), gave a necklace to my husband's daughter to incorporate her into the ceremony and into the new family, and wrote (well, more ad-libbed) our own vows.
That night--big party at our house for the rest of everyone (including the work people, neighbors, other friends, and the people you feel if you invite A and B, you have to invite C, but already that's too many people for the tiny pizza place). 90 people (ranging from infant to 70s in age) in and out over the night! We had a tent put in our yard (you know you can get a 400-square-foot tent, plus tables/chairs/patio heater/lamps, put in your yard without ever talking to anyone? Gotta love the Internet.) We hired a crepe cart to make crepes, and got some hors d'ouerves from a local organic grocery store. I made cupcakes and cookies and we bought a bunch of wine and a keg of beer. There were people in our house until 2 a.m.(!), some stayed outside and played guitar around the fire pit that someone got us as a wedding gift. Kiddo made it until about 1 a.m. and fell asleep in a friend's lap. Still managed to get leftovers packed up and in the fridge/sent with friends, the tables and chairs stacked for the rental company, and conceive our son that night.
Spouse (the political geek) * Stepdaughter (the artist) * and introducing...the Baby (um, he's a baby? He likes shiny things).
We went to a restaurant w/everyone after that and had so much fun drinking and eating and talking.
It was a wonderful day.
Second (and last!) time: I said let's go get married on an island somewhere. He said he wanted the big, traditional wedding. We decided to do it but throw a kick-ass party. Things we did I am really glad we did:
-arranged for a hospitality suite the entire weekend at the hotel - this was a huge hit as we had lots of out of towners
-arranged for transportation from hotel-church-reception-hotel for everyone
-threw a cocktail party reception: no assigned seats, no centerpieces, no cake, just a big party with lots of great food (tapas), drinks and music
-didn't do bridesmaid dresses or standard tuxes. Told everyone in the wedding party to wear black.
-didn't do big flowers, decor, centerpieces, head table, cake, etc etc etc. Didn't miss any of it!
-threw a pajama-pizza party at the hospitality suite after the reception
-we also had pipers as DS was in a pipe band at the time. We had the pipers pipe us out of the church.
My dress was purple
We were both barefoot
We walked down the aisle together
We had a small backyard ceremony, and afterwards we all went out for BBQ - at the place where we went for dinner the night he first told me he loved me (and vice versa).
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We welcomed another warrior in May 2012!!
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This is the woman who married us:
I don't know these people, but we used the same reading... except we stopped after the first paragraph:
We were almost late to our own wedding.
We (and some of our guests) laughed during the ceremony because the Registrar sounded like the priest in the Princess Bride (mahwage). We thought he was joking at first but, Nope, it was his real voice.
My mom made my dress out of purple silk. I had fake flowers in my bouquet (which I still have, and I love it). I made our wedding cake (2 tiers!). DH wore a kilt. For the reception, we had burgers and smokies, BBQ-d on site, as well as veggies and dip, salads, etc.
I loved our wedding and think it was simply perfect for us. The only things I would change are little things like my shoes and the bouquets- I put them together with no clue how to do it and they just looked very handmade. Pretty flowers though
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After the ceremony we went into the dining room of the B&B and had cake and a champagne toast. The we all headed to a restaurant that had a fantastic view of the sunset over the harbor and ate delicious Maine seafood.
I did wear a white wedding dress, nothing elaborate, but it was a wedding dress, and my husband wore a suit. Everybody else was pretty casual. There was really little planning involved on my part, our wedding planner took care of everything. She chose gorgeous flowers in all of my favorite flowers and the cake was decorated to match that. She also helped choose the restaurants for a big get together the night before the wedding, then the day of the wedding. It was the most wonderful, low-stress affair ever. I really wish we could go do it again!
The thing I would have done different? Either skipped the keg altogether or made sure DH wasn't cooking at the grill (and therefore standing next to the keg all day lol). He got pretty drunk...but at least we had fun. LOL!
My wedding was pretty conventional, aside from my dress. I wore a custom made (by my momma) rainbow dress. It was something that I'd wanted for a long time and it totally fits my personality. The rest of the decorations and everything were tied into the rainbow.
Married to my sweetie and enjoying life with our fabulous dog. Expecting #1 in August 2012!!!!