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My 7yo neice is having her first communion on Saturday. I assume I'm supposed to give money? What is an appropriate amount?
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I bought a cool book that was $20.
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It doesn't have to be money. The last First Communion I went to, I gave the girl a necklace. It wasn't even a religious one. I remember getting a record with a book for mine.

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I guess most people do give money but you could also give a religious book, a rosary, a bible, a religious medal, etc. I will admit I feel that religious gifts should be given for baptisms/1st communions/confirmations.

If you want to give money, I would suggest whatever amount you would give for a graduation.

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Here it's pretty normal to give $50-100 either in cash or as a savings bond.
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It's a Sacrament, a BIG DEAL! I would give a religious gift, not money.

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http://www.gifts.com/search/product/...&prodID=331139

I am not Catholic but I went to a first communion and brought the little something like that.

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My son is getting his first communion this weekend.. what is a mom supposed to give?
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They sell little pink and blue children's size bibles..

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I've never heard of money gifts, especially not from immediate family. I'd give a religious gift, like a missal, rosary or something similar.
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I just bought a Lego rosary on etsy, $20, perfect for my 7 yo boy.
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I just bought a Lego rosary on etsy, $20, perfect for my 7 yo boy.
My children got these in their Easter baskets - totally awesome!

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$50 around here.

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My son just had his first communion a couple of weeks ago. Most of the cards had a $10 bill in them.

A rosary, a necklace, or any sort of religious symbol or item would also be appropriate.

As to the PP who asked what the parent should get - We got my son a cross tie tack (went back and forth between that and a cross necklace) and a mass and holy communion book that came with a book mark, a rosary, and a pin. We thought about getting him a children's bible but didn't have time to research a really good Catholic one. We just went to our local religious store and found tons of good gift options. We wondered around until we found a few things we liked.

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But wouldn't she get a ton of bibles and rosaries? I got her a gold cross necklace at some point in the past (don't remember what it was for). A charm bracelet would be cute, but now I have to find something in person cuz I'm too late for shipping, and there are no Catholic stores around here that I am aware of.

Hmm, I'll go browsing tonight. Maybe a small gift and $20 in the card?
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But wouldn't she get a ton of bibles and rosaries?
You would think, but in my experience it rarely turns out that way. You could always go for something a little more unique (a necklace with a patron saint, for ex.) or include a gift receipt.

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Hmm, I'll go browsing tonight. Maybe a small gift and $20 in the card?

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Depending on their reading level I have given Chronicles of Narnia books in the past as well:

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When we baptised my 2 kids, they recieved (combined) nearly 1k in cash and savings bonds, 17 religious themed photo frames, 4 bibles, 2 outfits from WM, 2 piggy banks w/ crosses painted on them (???) and 9 crosses that can hang on the wall. Oh, and one of the Christening outfits was a gift, too.

Granted, this was 2 kids at one time, but really, wth is any one family going to do with *17* religious themed (some cross shaped, some square but with scripture imprinted/written on them, etc) photo frames and *9* wall hanging crosses?

We give $50 in cash. It's just easier that way...
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there are no Catholic stores around here that I am aware of.
Any Christian store might carry 1st communion stuff. Also try calling your local parish(es). Sometimes they have a small store carrying Catholic gift stuff. This is often true when there isn't a catholic book store in the nearby area.

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I got her this http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3093471/...bo=6017450&P=1 with the matching bracelet.

I'm assuming I don't need to put any money in the card?
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I've honestly never been invited to one, is that odd?
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I would get a really great book by Tommie DePaola (like this: http://www.amazon.com/Tomie-DePaolas...2715112&sr=8-1 )

My little 7 yr. old friend just had his 1st communion and the priest gave him an illustrated book of saints that he absolutely LOVES.

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That's really pretty!! No, I don't think you need to put money in the card, the gift by itself is very nice!

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My children went to parochial school, and they were given no money at their First Communions. In fact, there was a special Mass just for the second graders on the first school day after the Sacrament and the kids took their religious items to school so they could be blessed by the priest.

My kids got medals, holy cards, rosaries, crucifixes, frames for their First Communion pictures (individual and group shots), and picture books of the Saints among other things. My parents (who are not Catholic) bought them a piece to a nativity set, which they have added to every year.
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