I married outside of my cultural background twice, both times to men of the same culture (the same subculture within a culture, even) as one another. I kind of feel like these experiences have taught me a little something about that kind of dismissing of behavior as cultural artifacts.
During the course of my first marriage there were a number of things that I thought I knew about The Way Marriage Works
in my husbands' culture which my second marriage showed me more to be -- surprise, surprise -- individual personality and circumstances. You know ... just like real people
I say that jokingly, but it's also kind of serious ... "men behave badly because of their culture" edges over the line into a certain kind of ethnocentrism. "Oh, those
men categorically behave badly ... not like us with all of our enlightened individuality ..."
It's certainly true that different cultures encourage different relationship models, and that some communities may give an easier pass on misogynistic behavior than others. But when a man is a jerk then he's a jerk, it's that simple. A man raised in the most male-dominated society in the world is still just as capable of not setting about to hurt, denigrate, humiliate, or minimize women as a man raised in a more gender-neutral setting. He is also just as capable as valuing the intelligence and thoughtfulness of the women in his life. And IME one can never walk into a male-centric culture with rigid gender roles and not still find huge numbers of men who would never dream of putting their partners down, trashing their interests, refusing to take their partners' thoughts and opinions seriously, etc. One might, for example, find that it's more difficult to find a man who wishes to marry someone who plans to maintain their career, but "I really prefer a wife who is home, and if you prefer to continue working this may be a serious stumbling block for us" is a whole different ballgame from "Why would they make you president? Women can't lead nuthin'." KWIM?