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I'm off on maternity leave right now. I'm not particularly close to her, but would like to be supportive during this awful time.
Is it inappropriate to take my NB to the funeral? I haven't left her yet...
I didn't even bring my 3yo to my father's funeral.
Your co-worker will understand your absence and likely won't even notice. Send some flowers or a food basket with your condolences, and stay home and enjoy your baby.
Mama to DS (5) and DD (2)
Do you have a sling or a pouch that she can be in? She will be much calmer that close to you.
I used to have a black Maya Wrap pouch and I wore it with a black t-shirt and no one could really tell that I had a baby in there until a hand popped out.
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I personally don't think it's inappropriate to take children to a funeral - I had both of mine (at the time) at my Grandfather's funeral. We spent most of it in the 'cry room', so I missed pieces of the funeral that I would have liked to have been a part of, but I don't regret having taken them.
If, say, DH died and someone brought a baby to his funeral, I suspect I would either a) not notice, because I'd be more concerned about having just host my husband, or b) be vaguely pleased by the distraction/evidence that Life Goes On/person for people to coo over instead of trying to say sympathetic things to me. I can't imagine finding it offensive at all - in my mind, newborns go with their mother. Protracted screaming aside, of course...
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I brought my six-week-old to a funeral. It never occurred to me that anyone would find it offensive
She wasn't the only baby there either.
Mother of two spectacular girls, born mid-2010 and late 2012
if she has older children and an obviously complete family, i would bring the baby.
if she has very young children, no children, or wanted children and couldn't have them, i would not go.
imagine if your dp died, and you wanted (more) children, and at his funeral, someone brings their sweet gorgeous brand-new baby, just what you wanted and couldn't have. that would be totally heartbreaking.
There were a few babies/young children at my grandparents' funerals. I didn't think twice about it. I think one young child got upset at one point and her dad took her out, but no one found it unusual.
Pet-mom to Squirt with FLUTD & Maya the deaf wonder dog .
Honestly, I really doubt that the husband is going to notice. I really was not paying that much attention to the other guests and I know my mil certainly was not.
There are exceptions, of course. But generally, I think babies at a funeral are really really nice.
Ann-Marita. I deleted my usual signature due to, oh, wait, if I say why, that might give too much away.
I also took her at 4 months to my coworker's funeral. The only time anyone even mentioned DD was after the services as we were leaving. Everyone who did talk about the baby being there did so favorably. Like many previous posters have said, there is the whole cycle of life that brings comfort to people.
I did ask in advance if it would be ok to bring her. I really wanted her to meet the man who helped her mommy so much when we had no heat hot water or electricity when I was pregnant. However if his family had said no I would not have brought her.
He became fussy just after the service started, but I was sitting near the back and just slipped out to the lobby where there was a couch and space to walk around.
Elizabeth wife to Matt , mom to Logan (2/21/01) , and little man Desmond (9/23/08)
Mourning the loss of her father: Robert Edward Dillon 5/31/52 - 01/03/2011