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#1 of 36 Old 07-23-2010, 10:48 AM - Thread Starter
 
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We're keeping DS2's name a big ol' secret IRL so I have to ask here.

Does anyone have any experience using a family surname as a middle name? Specifically, what do you think of MacDonald as a middle name? Too weird/dorky?

DS1 has a family name for a middle name (it's been a first or middle name for something like five generations in DH's family), so we'd like to choose something meaningful, but my side of the family doesn't have any "legacy" names for boys.

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I know plenty of people who do that. My DH's middle name is his mother's maiden name. My son's middle name is my grandmother's maiden name.

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My middle name and my brother's is the same -- our mom's maiden name.

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I used my mom's maiden name for DS's middle name and if we would have had more children, each of them also would have been given the same middle name.

It isn't a common practice where I live but in college, I met lots of girls that had family names, typically mom's maiden, as middle names and I thought it was so cool.

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Thanks, ladies. It's the closest thing we have to an agreed-upon idea at this point .

Me+DH+DS1+DS2+Dog=me and a house full of guys, which is really just peachy, thanks.
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All of my kids have first name, middle name, my maiden name, last name.
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My dh's middle is his Mom's maiden name, it was a way to carry on the name.

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...it was a way to carry on the name.
That's what I'm thinking .

Me+DH+DS1+DS2+Dog=me and a house full of guys, which is really just peachy, thanks.
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ds1's middle name is the last name of a dear friend. i think it's cool.

eta: actually, ds2's first name is also a friend's last name / maiden name.
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couldnt go with my moms maiden name (it would sound odd...) but my own maiden name, I would... if at a loss for a meaningful middle name.

instead we go with our parents middle names... which caused a bit of a shock for me when DH told me his mothers middle name... so both of my daughters will have the same middle name... as me...

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I'm from the south originally.. a lot of girls I grew up with carry their mama's maiden name as their middle name.
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Both of my boys have their first name, middle name, then second middle name is my maiden name, then last name.

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I'm from the south originally.. a lot of girls I grew up with carry their mama's maiden name as their middle name.
Yes. I'm one of them. But not my mom's maiden--my grandmother's on my dad's side. My cousin was given our maternal grandmother's maiden name for a middle.

I don't have a problem with the practice in principle, but I really don't like my middle name. AND, my ex's last name was the SAME as my middle name (needless to say, I did not take his last name to become Jenny Blank Blank).
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I don't see how using a family name as a middle name could be considered "dorky" or "weird." It's a very traditional thing to do.
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I have my mom's maiden name as my middle name. (my younger sister has our maternal grandma's middle name for a middle name)

I actually think I'll probably pass on my middle name (mom's maiden) to all of our kids as maiden names. rather than passing on my maiden name. I like the idea of starting a tradition (obviously they might or might not continue) of a matrilineal middle name. though I wouldn't want to hurt my dad or make him think I don't like my last name. I do.

we'll see.

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My middle name, Baker, was my great-great grandmother's maiden name. It is also the middle name of my great grandfather, grandfather, father and my son. That makes my son the 5th generation to have that as a middle name. I think it's pretty cool.

My sister's middle name, Hill, is my mother's maiden name.

I love family surnames as middle names. I think it's a great tradition.
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we thought about my grandmothers maiden name as a first name- McGuire. I though Mac would be a cute name for a boy, and Maggie for a girl.
but we went another route.
Its hard enough to agree on names. if you have found one, go for it!

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I used my maiden name for my ds' middle name as their are no boys to otherwise carry-on the name.

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I like the idea of carrying on the name. In my family we carried on the middle name. So my middle name is the same middle name that my mom, my grandma, my great-grandma, etc etc. all had.

I think MacDonald is fine! But if you are worried about it, you could maybe modify it to Donald. The spirit of the name would be there, just a bit shorter.

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I think as long as you don't make his first name "old" or "ronald" that you're golden.

If we'd had a boy I originally wanted the middle name to be my maiden name just on principle (my maiden name was Richard, so it seemed to be a perfect idea), until I realized I don't really like that name.

I'm considering my Granny's maiden name if we ever have a boy... ******.

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DS1 has my mom's maiden name as a middle.

DS2 has my maiden name as a middle.

DS3 has my MIL's maiden name as a middle.

I think it's a neat thing to do.

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All my children have the same middle name. My last name. They all have the same last name, my partner's.

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I have my mom's maiden name as my middle name. (my younger sister has our maternal grandma's middle name for a middle name)
Yes this almost exactly but for my children.

My eldest DD has her first name, middle name, my maiden name (as a second middle) and then our last name (DH's Last name)

My second DD has her first name, middle name, my maternal grandma's middle name and then our last name.

And our next children will have a family name (doesn't have to be a maiden name) as their second middle as well.

the next girl will have DH's paternal grandmother's first name as her second middle.

the first boy will have my father's middle name (which also happens to be DH's first name) as a second middle

and if we have a second boy it will have my FIL's first name as a second middle (he goes by his middle name in every day life)

If we end up having 4 girls then I have no clue what the second middle would be for a fourth girl. I might have to take to "playing" with the names of the other female relatives to find something I like and to honor them all.

Although I have always had really strong twin boy dreams and vibes and i sometimes think that one day we just might get twin boys. If that happened then the first twin would have my maternal grandfathers first name as his first middle, and then my dad's middle and the second twin would have (if my parents gave their blessing) a decessed brothers first name as the first middle and then FIL's first name as the second middle.

No I haven't thought much about this at all

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Op, you've already got heaps of responses but I'll also chime in and say that my daughter has my maiden name as her second middle name. We intend to do the same thing for all our children.

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We're keeping DS2's name a big ol' secret IRL so I have to ask here.

Does anyone have any experience using a family surname as a middle name? Specifically, what do you think of MacDonald as a middle name? Too weird/dorky?

DS1 has a family name for a middle name (it's been a first or middle name for something like five generations in DH's family), so we'd like to choose something meaningful, but my side of the family doesn't have any "legacy" names for boys.
It's a tradition in my family going back to at least my great great grandmother - except for my mother .

All my kids but one (who DH named) have maiden family names as one of their middle names (they each have 2). My oldest son has my last name and my grandmother's middle name which was her mother's maiden name as his middle names.

I personally love the idea.

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Our LO will have my grandmother's maiden name as his middle name, but I think it's a bit simpler since it's a traditional first name - Ryan.

And then on the other hand, I know a guy who's name is MacDonald!

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My dd, and I, and one aunt, have my great-grandmother's maiden name as a middle name. My ds has for his the first name of his paternal great-grandfather and maternal grandfather (same name, by coincidence).

I think it's lovely.

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My cousin (actually, my 2nd cousin) and his wife named their 3 boys the last names of people who meant a lot to them and had big impacts on their lives.

I would like use my grandmother's maiden name (Harper) as a middle name for a possible future DS.

Basically I like the idea.

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My middle name is my grandmother's maiden name!
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My middle name and my brother's is the same -- our mom's maiden name.
ditto. my 2 brothers and I all have the same middle name and it's our moms maiden (and still) her last name

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