I'm going to try to be as brief as possible but this story is long.
I have this very good friend who is renting my place. By good friend I mean I am her friend, but maybe I found that she is not my friend. I was her doula, and I put my life in hold several times when she needed something. I guess you can imagine where this is going.
Let me just say that she is a single mother and she is working on her master degree.
She moved to our place since the beginning of the year. We made arrangements so she would pay only half the rent until she find a roommate. It took her almost two months to place an add. She didn't like any of the candidates, and never renewed the add. After almost a month we asked her about it, and she said she was very busy, but will try to look again. Nothing. One more month we gave her the ultimatum. This time she said fiance is moving in one more month.
So the first almost 6 mos of the year we had to pay half the rent, plus internet for her (don't ask me why). She was late in payments at least twice and still owed us one month of electricity. All the bills are still on our name, she has no money to put them under her name.
We called her and apparently get everything worked out. We get a calendar with dates when she is paying and so forth.
Comes august and the problems begin again. The day when she is supposed to pay the deposit comes and goes, and she doesn't email me. The day when rent is due comes and until midnight when I email her, she responds saying she is sorry she will try to pay me next friday. I immediately respond (through email) saying 'I need to pay the rent tomorrow'. No response, two more days and no response from her.
I send her another email asking her what's going on and she replies in a (very)short email that she will pay me on friday. In my email I'm very blunt, I tell her my feelings are hurt, not because of the lack of payment but the lack of responsibility. She is not explaining she is not telling me in advance, nothing. I feel she is ignoring me.
Friday comes and I hear nothing until 6pm, she says she couldn't get to the bank. First thing saturday the money is deposited. I make the mortgage payment on saturday as well. Weds her check is returned!! I emailed her quickly and she says she is going to the bank to check later that day. Is thursday already and she has said nothing. My account is overdraft by almost 500 and I have other payments to make.
My feelings are really hurt. Yes the money is adding stress to me, but what is really hurting me is the fact that she is ignoring me. She is so busy with her life, she doesn't even have time to email me really quickly giving me an update. I know she is in the computer, because she is available on the chat. I know she is going in an international trip in a few days. Yet I'm here being able to do nothing, knowing nothing about this money issue, hearing nothing from her.
I guess if this was someone else I would only be upset about the money, but with this friend.. uggh we are talking about feelings here.
I was her doula, she forgot about my baby's birth month (not my lo's due date, but birth month). I brought my lo to sleep in the hospital with me, so she wouldn't be alone that first night whit her lo(single mom, remember). I spent the first week of her lo's life sleeping with her (who can sleep with a newborn) and then going to work and caring for my family to later come back and sleep-not with her again. And she can not even take a 5-min.. geesh not even that, maybe a 2-min break to write a quick email and update me.
There is also all this story behind which is probably making things worst..
SOO I'm here debating whether this is any good. Should I ask her to move out, and be the villain? Should I go to debt because of her? Should I ruin my credit score for her? Should I give her one more chance??