|Originally posted by Ravin
Adolescence should be "adulthood with training wheels" rather than "childhood with sex hormones", kwim?
ITA with this. I was in a bad mood all the time as a teenager, and a big part of it was that people expected certain things of me, and treated me as though I was "trouble waiting to happen". I still remember being irritated every time some idiot would say "Oh, I tried to call your house, but it was busy. You must have been on the phone because you're a teenager and that's what they do." Happened all the time to me, only it was rarely me on the phone; I didn't have any friends.
Do I think that teenagers have too many rights? Not at all. Teenagers are denied basic human rights a lot of the time, and I have a real problem with that. No, I don't think that they should have more privileges
(later curfews, drinking, driving, etc) but I think that they should be afforded the same basic rights as all adults and children in society should, without regards to age. The right to be treated like an individual, the right not to be judged on their age/attire/skin color/etc, the right to privacy, etc. Yes, as parents it's our job to protect our children but teenagers, though the media will tell you otherwise, are people and really need to be treated as such.
I think that if more young children were treated with respect that they would be more respectful teenagers; that's one of the reasons I'm doing this whole attached parenting thing, and why I lean heavily toward TCS even though my son is still a bit young for most of it. He's a very small person, and he does have certain rights. As he gets older, he'll learn that he has other rights that come with some responsibility: for example, when he's completely free of diapers he'll learn that he has the right to expect total body sovereignty, and that it comes with the responsibility to keep himself clean. It's all optional, and based on his actions: if he chooses not to keep his body clean, I will help him do that but it will interfere with his right to personal privacy.
When he turns 16, he'll have the opportunity to get a driver's license, but along with that privilege
will come many many responsibilities: expenses to be paid, not using drugs or drinking, learning the law, etc. I'm hoping that long before that point, he knows 1)the difference between a privilege and a right and 2)his own capacity for responsibility. By taking him seriously, granting him privileges and respecting his rights as a child, I hope that he'll learn these things and treat other people with that same respect.