Yeah, most likely. Or that might just be me, I dunno.
I am pretty sure my future DIL will find me quite... different. And that's okay, I am pretty out there, and I am comfy with it. I think what I'll aim for is honesty, tact, respect, and as much minding my own business as I can muster. LOL.
Embrace the learning that is happening within the things that are actually happening!
I agree that it's about boundaries.... Seeing where they are and not overstepping them. Every issue we've had with my parents or my in-laws has involved them overstepping boundaries. My kids are mine, and I don't need anyone's input or direction or demands. My kids are my chance to do things my way, my grandkids are not.
anyway, it's becoming apparent that the difference in values which we have (my parents and us) are actually far greater than i realized pre-child, and the things that annoy or bother me about my inlaws are completely insignificant when it comes to our relationship as a family.
I really, really like this sentiment. I'm sorry you've had the problems with your own family, but I love the feel of this realization.
Most of the MILs I hear about on here have done awful things to their DIL, or have unrealistic expectations of what their relationship with their son should be after their son gets married (i.e. they think they should have a say in how the children are raised, or the DH's career, or how the DIL should keep her house, etc.). If I ever act like that to my future DIL(s), I hope they'll have enough self-respect to put me in my place. I wouldn't want my son(s) to marry a doormat!
Loving wife and mama to my sweet little son (Fall 2008) and a beautiful baby girl (Fall 2010)
When a stupid man is doing something he is ashamed of, he always declares that it is his duty. --George Bernard Shaw