|View Poll Results: Would this be in poor taste?|
|Yes....this is not the time to celebrate a new life.||5||5.10%|
|No....people would love to meet him||93||94.90%|
|Voters: 98. You may not vote on this poll|
I had a baby. Beautiful baby. Then my brother went missing. And was found dead. He completed suicide.
The past couple weeks have been a blur.
I would love to have a get together for everyone to meet the baby. People got to see him briefly at the service etc.
But would this be considered in poor taste, considering that my dear brother just died?
Another vote for go for it! Your family would probably relish the change to celebrate new life and a new beginning.
~Mama to my boys~ to a teen, a tween & a toddler and surro-mama to twins and their sister
Livin' in the sticks with my chicks and lovin' it!
2014: 4/52 projects 0/2014 things 0/52 books
I am so sorry! I left this thread open and DD checked the first option. (She didn't do it on purpose- just likes to use the mouse!) Of course you should celebrate your baby. I'm sure he would bring a lot of joy during a painful time.
absolutely mama. a celebration is a celebration.
sept is the month (different years) my dd was born and the month my bro also comitted suicide.
its a bitter sweet month for me.
dd and i have a special celebration together in memory of my bro.
however i will say as pp said see how your parents feel and then plan accordingly.
i knew in my case i would have to keep things low key coz my parents were absolutely devastated. they struggled to pull themselves together for the living child they had.
There was recently a death in my family, well actually 3 in the family if you are counting these past few months as recent. 2 were elderly and the last death was way too young and that person meant the world to me, everything to me, we were so close. I am still paralyzed from it very deeply.
I absolutely wouldn't have a formal get together to meet baby anytime soon in light of your recent events but that is just me. And if anyone proposed such a thing in my own family I would not go. I don't feel like celebrating or being social at all and I am not alone in that feeling among my family members.
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Yep, that. I think it might be a good idea to keep it low-key - not a big, balloony, streamers-y, gamesy type party - but absolutely not in poor taste to let people meet your baby! People might be glad to have something else to focus on, briefly. Just expect that it will be a bittersweet occasion, and probably not "all about" your baby as most gatherings of this type are - but that's OK.
How are you holding up?
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I am so sorry for your loss. As I remember correctly, your baby was just days old when your brother went missing. Im sure that must have been so very diffucult.
I cant imagine anyone thinking its inappropriate. A new baby is a wonderful joy to share during a time of sorrow. My grandmother passed when DD was just a few weeks old, and most of my family saw her for the first time at the funeral or while we were visiting her as she was dying in hospice. I think they would have loved it if I had had a post birth shower or something that they could have attended.
Holly and David
Adaline (3/20/10), and Charlie (1/26/12- 4/10/12) and our identical twins Callie and Wendy (01/04/13)
I'm so, so sorry for your loss.
I agree with the others that it would be wonderful to have a celebration for your new baby. I think it could be very healing for everyone. Congratulations on your baby!!!
(are YOU doing ok? I'm concerned that because of everything that happened, you could be at higher risk for PPD. Do you need to talk to someone? Do you need some extra support?)
but everything has pros and cons
My only caution would be is to be gentle with yourself. Your body and your emotions have gone thru *a lot* and the strain of having even a low key get together could quickly become overwhelming. Make sure to accept help when offered and be prepared with an "exit strategy" if the party becomes too much. Have a friend or your partner cover if you need to take a break.
This is both a joyful yet difficult time for your whole family but to celebrate life is a wonderful thing.
Pardon me while I
I'm sorry for your loss mama.
I voted wrong... I meant to click "no", but clicked "yes" instead....
I think having a get-together for people to meet your new baby is a great idea. In the aftermath of tragedy being around a new baby could be just the thing to bring a spark of light into the lives of those who are grieving.
Kate, mom to 7 year old Djuna and 4 yr old Alden. Missing our good friend Hal the cat who died June 2, 2010
I think a lot of people would love the chance to meet your baby.
oAlisha- eternal companion to mike:, mother to three energetic boys (02):, (05), and (07) and one sweet little girl 3/13. Two in heaven.7/21/2010, 11/05/2011 .