|View Poll Results: Would this be in poor taste?|
|Yes....this is not the time to celebrate a new life.||5||5.10%|
|No....people would love to meet him||93||94.90%|
|Voters: 98. You may not vote on this poll|
I had a baby. Beautiful baby. Then my brother went missing. And was found dead. He completed suicide.
The past couple weeks have been a blur.
I would love to have a get together for everyone to meet the baby. People got to see him briefly at the service etc.
But would this be considered in poor taste, considering that my dear brother just died?
I'm so sorry for your loss
I'm sure you brother would want you to celebrate your new baby. Hugs mama.
Another vote for go for it! Your family would probably relish the change to celebrate new life and a new beginning.
I am sorry. What a tragedy for your family. I do think you should celebrate the birth of your baby. It is a joyful occasion and shouldn't be overshadowed by a sad one.
I am so sorry! I left this thread open and DD checked the first option. (She didn't do it on purpose- just likes to use the mouse!) Of course you should celebrate your baby. I'm sure he would bring a lot of joy during a painful time.
Ummm.....I think you are in the wrong thread....
OP, celebrate your baby.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Congratulations on your new baby!
(Mama2Bug's dd, I see you know how to copy and paste, too)
I would go for it but keep it low key.
absolutely mama. a celebration is a celebration.
sept is the month (different years) my dd was born and the month my bro also comitted suicide.
its a bitter sweet month for me.
dd and i have a special celebration together in memory of my bro.
however i will say as pp said see how your parents feel and then plan accordingly.
i knew in my case i would have to keep things low key coz my parents were absolutely devastated. they struggled to pull themselves together for the living child they had.
There was recently a death in my family, well actually 3 in the family if you are counting these past few months as recent. 2 were elderly and the last death was way too young and that person meant the world to me, everything to me, we were so close. I am still paralyzed from it very deeply.
I absolutely wouldn't have a formal get together to meet baby anytime soon in light of your recent events but that is just me. And if anyone proposed such a thing in my own family I would not go. I don't feel like celebrating or being social at all and I am not alone in that feeling among my family members.
Yep, that. I think it might be a good idea to keep it low-key - not a big, balloony, streamers-y, gamesy type party - but absolutely not in poor taste to let people meet your baby! People might be glad to have something else to focus on, briefly. Just expect that it will be a bittersweet occasion, and probably not "all about" your baby as most gatherings of this type are - but that's OK.
How are you holding up?
I am so sorry for your loss. As I remember correctly, your baby was just days old when your brother went missing. Im sure that must have been so very diffucult.
I cant imagine anyone thinking its inappropriate. A new baby is a wonderful joy to share during a time of sorrow. My grandmother passed when DD was just a few weeks old, and most of my family saw her for the first time at the funeral or while we were visiting her as she was dying in hospice. I think they would have loved it if I had had a post birth shower or something that they could have attended.
Yes my brother went missing one and a half days after I had my baby. His wasn't found for a few days after that.
Thanks for the replies. I am considering having something low key.....
I'm so, so sorry for your loss.
I agree with the others that it would be wonderful to have a celebration for your new baby. I think it could be very healing for everyone. Congratulations on your baby!!!
(are YOU doing ok? I'm concerned that because of everything that happened, you could be at higher risk for PPD. Do you need to talk to someone? Do you need some extra support?)
My cousin and I both found out we were pregnant soon after our grandmother died. The family celebrated as much as possible because it was such a comfort.
My only caution would be is to be gentle with yourself. Your body and your emotions have gone thru *a lot* and the strain of having even a low key get together could quickly become overwhelming. Make sure to accept help when offered and be prepared with an "exit strategy" if the party becomes too much. Have a friend or your partner cover if you need to take a break.
This is both a joyful yet difficult time for your whole family but to celebrate life is a wonderful thing.
I'm sorry for your loss mama.
I voted wrong... I meant to click "no", but clicked "yes" instead....
I think having a get-together for people to meet your new baby is a great idea. In the aftermath of tragedy being around a new baby could be just the thing to bring a spark of light into the lives of those who are grieving.
It sounds like a lovely idea! A little ray of sunshine to help your family's pain can never be a bad thing.
I think a lot of people would love the chance to meet your baby.