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Old 05-26-2011, 05:04 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I recently started a job at a salon.  Love the job.  The owner is about 15 yrs younger than I am.  I was giving her a "spray tan" as she requested the other evening.  Now I've set the stage, tell me if this is odd to you:

 

Her: It doesn't bother me to show my tits.  Everytime I get drunk I flash people.

Me: Does that bother your dh?

Her: No he doesn't care.  In fact in the summer we have another couple with who we go out on our boat.  We all strip down in front of each other and swim naked.  We all lay out naked together.

Me: Oh I see.

Her: In fact at a couple of partys Andrew (her dh) has shown people his mangina.

Me: His what?

Her: Oh he takes his pants off, tucks his willy and says "see my mangina".

Me: WOW.

 

 

Is that not the most bizarre conversation?  Or am I getting old?  LOL.  Is it common practice to get naked at parties now days?   

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Come on, that's totally normal and appropriate to show your mangina to friends!

 

Kidding!!  

 

Wow. That would be a really awkward conversation to have. Though probably less awkward than attending a party thrown by her dh. ACK!!  

 

 


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I don't find the content particularly odd (ie. I don't find the lifestyle tidbits revealed too odd), but I find the fact that she seems to have just spontaneously had this whole conversation a little weird.


I also don't think I'd like to party with Andrew.


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Nah.  I invite people over to our house all the time so my husband can show off his flying squirl..............

 

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yeah, some people just love to give tmi about their lives...


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Dh would never do that. He wouldn't want to make his guests feel inadequate!

I don't find the first bit odd (the boating naked) but I do find the mangina bit very odd.
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I'm just still scratching my head.  And its also very awkward considering she is the owner where I work!!!  Just TMI for me.

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She seems a little too... free with information. LOL.
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It's a totally bizarre conversation to be having with your boss. Yes TMI.

 

At least you can now start thinking up excuses as to why you can't make their next party. 

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I would never be able to look at my boss (or her dh) in the face again......

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I'm no prude and I've been known to get naked at some of our Pacific Northwest hot springs around the countryside
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that is no conversation to be having at work.yikes2.gif
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The conversation was odd. I wonder why she felt the need to share so much with her employee.

At least now you know that if you are ever invited to her home for a party to have an excuse ready.


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I find it funny that she felt the need to share all that with you, but whatever floats there boat!

I however, would not be going to any parties she invited me to. Blechh  : /


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The content is her business.  I don't necessarily want to strip down with our best couple friends so I can't relate, but to each her own.  The fact that she just offered it up out of nowhere says "NEEDS TOO MUCH ATTENTION" and I'd worry about how that's going to play out in the future.  I don't do well with attention-needy people.

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I'm finding it odd - but I don't really get out to parties these days so who knows if it's now normal.

 

 

I'd probably be weirded out (like you are) and then go home to make a lot of mangina jokes with dh about, say, how I need to fit in with my new boss and how he'll have to go around doing the same thing.  I don't think I'd be able to face her dh after that. . . moon.gif

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I'm lol.gif here.  Perhaps she was feeling awkward about stripping in front of you, and tried to settle herself by blabbing about why she shouldn't be uncomfortable.  Nervous rambling and over sharing isn't too uncommon. 

 

That said, yeah, I wouldn't want to go to parties with her DH.  Mangina?!?  Seriously.  He sounds about 12.


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I find the fact that she just randomly blurted this out to be very odd. I can understand the first part if it came up when she was undressing for the tan. But the rest was a bit much. LOL


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I don't think it's all that odd but I do think she might have been trying to shock you or saying things a bit more off-the-cuff to see how you'd react.

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It's a totally bizarre conversation to be having with your boss. Yes TMI.

 

At least you can now start thinking up excuses as to why you can't make their next party. 


 

 

Hahahaha :)

 

I agree that it doesn't seem weird in general until you get to the mangina part of the convo lol

 

Sounds like she enjoys seeing people react to her bizarre conversation points.


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Some people just love giving TMI.  I'm kind of one of them to a degree. 


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I work in a spa and do  lot of brazilian waxing, people do blurt out weird stuff because they are weirded out about being naked.

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I dont think the content is odd, but the fact that she was telling someone she barely knows is weird. I also think she was looking to get a reaction out of you when she said "mangina."

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Can you say swingers? 

 

Maybe she wants you to join? 

 

I agree with PP's about attention hounds and him being 12, mangina....  come on!

 

 


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Thats it Xantho - they are swingers and she was trying to 'feel you out' about the topic....IMHO!


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Thats it Xantho - they are swingers and she was trying to 'feel you out' about the topic....IMHO!


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Did you point out that unless he is actually turning his penis inside out, he's not making a mangina, he's making a manulva?
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Thats it Xantho - they are swingers and she was trying to 'feel you out' about the topic....IMHO!


That's exactly what I thought, too!

 

Like a PP, I worked in a day spa. I Brazilian waxed my former boss countless times, and she never spoke to me like the OP's boss  did  during her spray-tan session. I'm no prude, but this is the sort of thing I'd joke about with my friends in a bar, not with my employee while receiving a professional service from her.  I think the OP's boss behaved unprofessionally.

 

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Some people feel odd getting naked in front of their boss or having the boss naked in front of them.  It is an odd situation (My sil is in the medical career field it happens more often then you think)> 

 

The nudity comments could have been a nervous attempt to make you feel comfortable.  Or she could have been checking your openness.  Either one, in its self is not horrible. 

 

However, if she keeps talking about it after you express no interest it is sexual harassment.  The mangina is way to much information.  

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The content is her business.  I don't necessarily want to strip down with our best couple friends so I can't relate, but to each her own.  The fact that she just offered it up out of nowhere says "NEEDS TOO MUCH ATTENTION" and I'd worry about how that's going to play out in the future.  I don't do well with attention-needy people.



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