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#1 of 5 Old 08-02-2011, 10:39 AM - Thread Starter
 
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My mom is retiring this year - joy.gif And I'm in charge of her retirement party - yikes2.gif

 

My mom's giving me her guest list and I am sending the invites. I was just wondering what the protocol is for requesting donations toward a gift - I know this sort of thing happens, but I am clueless about organizing it. I can't think of a polite way to word it. I can't even decide if it's rude or not to even mention it. Should I add something like "If you would like to contribute to the purchase of a gift card to XYZ, please contact me at xxx-xxxx"?

 

I dunno. Like I said: clueless. Party planners, help me out!

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Well, if you want to follow proper etiquette, gifts should not be mentioned at all on an invitation because that would be considered rude.  If guests ask you what kind of gift your mother would like, then you can make suggestions. 

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Well, if you want to follow proper etiquette, gifts should not be mentioned at all on an invitation because that would be considered rude.  If guests ask you what kind of gift your mother would like, then you can make suggestions. 



I am old-school and agree with this.  Don't mention gifts in the invitation.  Should someone ask, fine, you can give them a suggestion.

 


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Well, if you want to follow proper etiquette, gifts should not be mentioned at all on an invitation because that would be considered rude.  If guests ask you what kind of gift your mother would like, then you can make suggestions. 



I also agree with this. I would not mention gifts on the invitation.

It might be nice to ask guests to write down a special message or memory for your mom though.

 


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Especially as her daughter, bringing up a gift at all would be really inappropriate. It would be one thing for a co-worker to do so, and hopefully they will, but I would find it totally tasteless if someone's family member suggested I could make a donation.  Chances are, most people will bring her a gift anyhow. 

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