For those of you that are "hoping" the courts will decide your children would go to those they visit a lot, versus relatives, SEE A LAWYER!! A godparent or frequently seen anyone is not a legal guardian.
Please, parent(s), if you want to make the decision as to where your children would go, in the event of your death(s), see a lawyer. Wishes or the fact that someone is simply named as a godparent have nothing to do with the very real legalities of guardianship!
Different states have different laws regarding these types of things. You need to see a lawyer and have your wishes put down in a way thet will be legally binding, no matter who you choose as guardians.
We dropped our original (and, legal) choice of guardians for ds. Previously, he would have gone to one of my siblings. But, dh and I realized they live too fast a lifestyle (not a bad lifestyle, but too much about work and rigid schedules). Ds would not be happy with them. Also, they are very mainstream about medical practices and would allow ds to be vaccinated (against our wishes and against ds's medical needs).
So, we switched to very dear friends. They know about our life choices (medical, educational, moral) and would continue to raise ds they same way. We have given them a copy of our legal papers indicating our decision to name them as legal guardians. Ds is happy with them and agrees that he would prefer to be under their care, should something happen to us..
We have a separate guardian for ds's financial assets (dh's cousin). He's very conservative and excellent with money and we have complete trust in him. Ds's (very large) inheritance would be safe and be there for his care and education. He, too, has copies of our legal papers.
We each handwrote a letter explaining our decision, as well.
Our attorney assures us (with the laws to back it up), that my siblings would not gain custody of ds.
Really, please see an attorney about these things. It isn't enough to "hope" or trust an oral agreement or the religious term "godparent" or to keep your fingers crossed to safeguard your child(ren). Make your desires legally binding!!!