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#1 of 12 Old 10-27-2012, 11:27 AM - Thread Starter
 
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So a girl knocks on my door at breakfast this morning.  I go talk to her.  She asks for a ride across town to her friend's house.  She lives down the street from me, I have seen her around.  Her dad punched her in the face last night, she said.  I didn't see any marks, but I don't doubt it.  I told her she should talk to the police, and she said she did already last night.  I welcomed her into my home, the kids were still eating breakfast, and after a little while we got ready to go. 

 

I considered calling the police anyway, but I decided I should talk to her alone, since I had to drop the kids off at their dad's.  In the car, I told her my parents beat the ___ out of me too, and I ran away at age 15.  True story.  I talked about having no support, being alone in the world, and getting into a bad relationship because I needed someone.  I told her things would have turned out better for me if I had contacted the authorities and was put into foster care.  I asked her if I could take her to the police station right now.  She said she already talked to them and had an appointment with someone again on Monday.  I do believe her.  They don't know what to do with her, because she is a month away from turning 18.  I imagine there isn't a good foster placement option for her.  She said she had been in jail for a few months and had just gotten out a couple weeks ago.  I didn't ask her why.  She has a job and plans to go to the community college. 

 

I told her she knows where I live if she needs anything, and I dropped her off at her friend's house. 


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It sounds like you did all the right things, go you. It is hard to figure out the right thing to do to help.

My advice may not be appropriate for you. That's ok. You are just fine how you are and I am the right kind of me.

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Let us know if she gives you an update.  I hope she gets the support she needs. 
 


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I hope she will be all right..You did great with supporting her...I hate violence:((

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Thanks, I am really hoping I will see her again. 


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Have you heard from her, or have her parents come looking for her?


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I haven't heard from her.  I probably won't.  greensad.gif


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Thanks for giving her a ride.  


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Just bumping to see if you'd heard anything from her.
 


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No, I haven't.  I'm thinking this is why it's so important to be kind to everyone, even people you only see for an instant. 

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No, I haven't.  I'm thinking this is why it's so important to be kind to everyone, even people you only see for an instant. 

 

I do hope you hear from her. 

 

Thank you for the reminder.  :)


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You can (and probably still should) call CPS in this kind of situation. You have direct evidence of what she told you, which is good. I'm glad you helped.


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