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View Poll Results: Your hubby/wife forgets your anniversary......
... woe unto him (her). 2 6.25%
...not applicable, because I make it impossible to forget. 4 12.50%
... I stew until he(she) remembers. 2 6.25%
... I'm annoyed, but it's no big deal. 3 9.38%
... it's no big deal because I forgot too. 11 34.38%
... woe unto me because I'm the one forgetting! 3 9.38%
Other 7 21.88%
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#1 of 18 Old 01-31-2014, 09:25 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Just in the mood for some silliness, and I thought of this.  

 

I was reading a book to my 9yo where the mom was giving the dad a cold shoulder and it turns out her forgot their wedding anniversary. Which seems odd to me because our wedding anniversary comes and goes and I completely forget until two weeks later.  >Kiss< Happy Anniversary!

 

What about you?  Make this thread extra fun my sharing some anniversary tales with us, the sweet and the (now) laughable and the irritating (can we laugh?)

 

I included the wife option for the gals with wives, and for the dads (if you are out there?)

 

ETA:  I forgot to add plain "It's no big deal" option.  Treat that as "Other".  Sorry.  I never get these right.


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I know my mother was very sensitive about us girls remembering her wedding anniversary.  I sent them anniversary cards every year, even when I didn't send a birthday card.  Even now that they have passed, I send some flowers to the cemetery on their anniversary.  I skipped that this year due to finances and feel a we bit guilty--still!  (They left us with a sizable inheritance, I felt the least I could do was put up a dozen yellow roses once a year on the day they cherished the most.)

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I forgot about our anniversary last year hide.gif DH reminded me, and I felt so awful! In my defense, we were in the process of buying a house and I was distracted!


 
 
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My husband and I are kind of mutually forgetful - we remember it's in the end of the specific month, but we end up having to dig out an invitation to see if it's the 23 or 24th, but the 25th kind of sounds right, too?  Generally we just try to track down a babysitter somewhere in that zone and call it good.

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A cheerfully ironic "woe unto him" for DH, since we married on my birthday -- for practical reasons, but he joked that it would help him remember.

 

Our wedding day is also the day Chernobyl went up, and one year DS1 drew us a card with a cooling tower on it.

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We don't ever forget it, we were married Labor Day weekend.  However, I did put down "other" because I don't think it is a "big" deal.  We do usually try to have a date night, because we rarely do that.  On our "bigger" anniversaries, we make a bigger effort (10th, 15th, etc).  However, I don't want dh to buy me anything.  I am not a present centered person.  If he brings me a card or flowers, that is nice but most def. not expected.  I don't usually buy him anything either.  

 

Our fifth anniversary came when our oldest was 7 months old.  We were also living with my parents at the time and really wanted to go out.  We got a hotel & my parents watched Anna.  She never would take a bottle (She would eat a bit of fruit and would use a sippy cup sometimes.), so my parents brought her out to the hotel really late so she could nurse.  We came home pretty early in the morning too, but it was nice.  

 

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We just celebrated our 15th, and it's never been an issue. Mostly because it is a day after New years, and 2 days before dh's b'day, so it doesn't really stand on its own. Also, my mom talks about how all 3 of her daughters got married within 15 months and mine was the last, so she celebrates that day too! LOL!


 
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Other - it is the day after his birthday so that makes it hard to forget, but I don't think I'd care too much as we don't really do anything to celebrate.


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I only chose "woe until him" because husband is sitting right next to me at the moment, and he got a chuckle out of it. :-)


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I chose "it's no big deal because I forgot too," although neither of us really forgets, it's just that it's not a huge deal to either of us and neither of us would be mad if the other forgot.

Our anniversary is 3 days before DS's bday, so we usually have houseguests and are more focused on prepping for the party -- sometimes we shop for DS's bday gift during our anniversary date, and one year we bought a new car that night because we had a sitter and didn't want the kids to have to sit through all the boring paperwork that goes along with a car purchase. I know, how romantic! lol.gif

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I always forget, but he always remembers!  Which makes me feel bad...

 

But, it's all good, he doesn't really mind.

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He generally forgets and it's 3 days before my birthday. And it bugs me - a lot. But possibly not as much as the years he has forgotten mothers day (my first) or the winter holidays (several). I know some people don't care about those either but since he expects to be the. Enter of attention on his special days, I really would like the same.
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He generally forgets and it's 3 days before my birthday. And it bugs me - a lot. But possibly not as much as the years he has forgotten mothers day (my first) or the winter holidays (several). I know some people don't care about those either but since he expects to be the. Enter of attention on his special days, I really would like the same.


Yeah, that would piss me off too. I don't think I'd be doing anything for him on his special days.


 
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I chose the sulk until he remembers just for the fun but it's not quite true. We actually usually both remember and forget at the same time... ie. our anniversary is tues what do you want to get/do? Then tues rolls around... and we remember on Fri that we forgot about it LOL. I have had times of being pissed off about the whole deal but it wasn't just over the anniversary. He would forget everything and never make any effort for any of the "days" ... anniversary, my birthday, mothers day, Christmas, none of it. That was annoying. He has improved a lot the last couple of years so since he finally started showing any appreciation/affection/etc to me in general it doesn't really register anymore if he forgets a day. I guess it's the whole enchilada ya know?


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I rarely forget dates of any kind. DH is pretty good, but sometimes things slip. So far, he's never forgotten our anniversary, but I also don't keep quiet about it or leave it to him to remember. We talk about it ahead of time, and make plans. It was our tenth in 2012, and we booked a hotel for the night, so there was no way he was going to forget - we were making plans before the fact.

 

That said, I don't expect gifts, flower, or whatever on our anniversary. He's far more likely to do something to mark the date than I am to expect anything. I think my feelings would be hurt if he just didn't say anything (and actually had a somewhat nasty blow out on a related topic with my ex, many years ago), but I'm not sure. It's not likely to ever happen.


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Ours is NYE, so it's impossible to forget.  But I surely wouldn't snit about over it.  If he forgot, then that means we hadn't talked to each other because part of our normal conversation would be "wow, can' you believe we've been married so long?" type stuff around the holidays. 

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Our wedding day is also the day Chernobyl went up, and one year DS1 drew us a card with a cooling tower on it.

 

 

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