The mother of a boy my DS7 went to school with (we pulled him early in the year to homeschool) keeps asking if we can watch her kids.
She is a single mom and works (I think 2 jobs) so I can understand that maybe she wants to save a little on babysitting costs, or maybe her normal sitter isn't available. But the only time she texts me is to ask if we can watch her son.
I don't mind helping here and there, but she always asks if we can exchange "play dates", but then, never follows through with a play date at their house (DS has been there once).
Half the time her texts start with "hey there pretty lady" as if she is trying to butter me up.
I feel like an on call sitter for her, that isn't getting paid
I dread every time I get a text from her!
Sometimes I say yes, after all, my DS gets along with her son and enjoys having him over, but I do say no sometimes, so I'm not a total pushover.
We do have our own lives happening, and I'm not always able to watch him, or I'm just busy and don't want to add to the chaos.
She texted me this morning saying she forgot her sitter won't be available from June 1st-13th, and that she just now realized that it was June already, and could I watch her kid after school until at least dinner time because she works until 8pm.
I told her we weren't available (my DD does have soccer practice today...)
I contemplated tell her how I'm feelling that she only texts when she needs a sitter and that was feeling taken advantage of, and even started writing it out a few times, but then I erased it.
I just don't know what to say, or do I even tell her? I don't want to piss her off and have her get mad and defensive, but I'm seriously getting angry every time I see a text from her because I know she is going to ask me to have a "play date".
Where I come from, people invite your kid for a play date themselves. You don't invite your kid to someones house yourself....
Sorry that was so long, venting a little, lol. But what do I do? Ignore her texts? Just keep saying no? Tell her how I'm feeling?