House hunting with kids = stress for all involved
I am stressed about house hunting and am worried that our ideal home may not exist where we want to be.
Currently we live on the South side of town. We want to move to the North side because the schools are better -- esp. the high school.
In addition, the North side is a little pricier but in this market there are deals to be had. Selling our home would be a piece of cake after all the homes I have checked out with our realtor and it would also give us some extra cash for renovations of a future home.
Yesterday we visited a home that was nice -- but from the 80s. It would require a complete interior and exterior repaint and some landscaping. Yes, it would also need a complete kitchen redo, new carpeting, refinishing of floors, 2 bathrooms and the tearing out of nasty built-ins. We could get this done for sure and the house would be up to date. The roof, fireplaces, furnace and windows were all good. The garage doors would probably be replaced because....yuck.
What tears me up though is that one of our other missions for moving would be to downsize. This home would be bigger than our current home. It has a formal dining room (which I deem useless) and a formal living room with fireplace that I am sure the dog would love -- or as a parent haven from noisy kids/teenagers.
The front yard is tiny. Awesome. Easy to maintain. The backyard is a huge deck with a tiny side yard area...that would definitely be torn out and just wood chipped for the dog. So, there would be no grass back there. We currently live on 1/2 an acre. It has lots of grass. But, the only one that uses it is the dog. The rest of us just look at it and the rest of the landscaping. We do have a trampoline and that wouldn't work at this possible new home. No place for it. Our water bill would be slashed in half. Yay!
We also would have access to a swim park -- and that is kind of attractive and pretty.
I mostly like my current home but the neighbors, the neighborhood and the schools bother me a lot. My immediate neighbors have become slobs. Absolutely. Stuff spilling out from their garages; outdoor projects going unfinished; landscaping going to ruin -- it's like they have no pride of home ownership. I am baffled because we live in a pretty nice area. The surrounding neighborhood outside of my street is also hurting. Lots of vacant homes that are falling apart; neglect of landscaping; homes falling into disrepair; litter and dog poop. It's just sad. There is a park near our home and the city hardly pays attention to it. Everything is so overgrown. It's kind of an eyesore.
We also have a sociopath across the way. The sociopath has really made living where we are hell. I do whatever I can to avoid her. She's just not nice.
Anyway, I understand that no home is ideal. Even the one we live in is not ideal. But, when we moved into it, we made it work because their were no other options. Now, we have the flexibility and the time but are actually getting desperate to find something so we can just get out! We don't want to make mistakes.
Should we just take the fixer upper or wait for more homes to come on the market? Do we really need grass in the backyard when it is gloomy and rainy here so much where we live? Does it matter that we won't use the dining room that much -- or maybe we will? Will I be able to help my daughters understand the difference between responsible teenagers and spoiled bratty ones that we might encounter?
This is exciting and terrifying at the same time.
Last edited by pepin; 06-27-2014 at 09:06 PM.