I'm torn on this one. On the one hand, I've read enough books and blogs and studies about violence towards women that I feel I should nod sagely and say it's very, very common. It is, so they say.
On the other hand, in my particular circles I find it very hard to imagine it happening that often. But then, I wouldn't necessarily know, would I? I don't imagine many people would volunteer the information at random. Maybe it's like miscarriage - it's everywhere once you mention it, but it doesn't tend to come up.
Personally I only have a very short list of 'indecencies'. For what it's worth, I'm not particularly attractive, definitely not curvaceous, and I don't tend to go out much, especially late at night or among drunk people. Which is not to say that those who are or do deserve 'indecencies' any more than I; just that it seems more statistically likely that they'd get them.
Let's see... I was wofl-whistled at once walking past a building site, which struck me at the time as amusingly cliched. I once frequented an internet cafe in which the owner, a Samoan guy, took a shine to me and said things like "You look like a Barbie doll - 'll put a big poster of you up in the shop" and "You should come to Samoa and find a husband, there are lots of husbands there". It was creepy enough to put me off going back - and for the record I have not ever in any way resembled a Barbie doll, even at 17 - but I didn't feel threatened exactly, just weirded out. I don't think he intended to be creepy. Then a drunk guy once shouted, as I rode home from work on my bike at night, "I like your hair; will you marry me?" Which again, was more amusing than anything.
Not a very impressive chronicle, is it? I know my older sister, who's extremely pretty, has had an awful lot of semi-creepy admirers; so I'm inclined to think creepiness, if not actual violence/rape, has something to do with physical attraction. (I've heard some people say no, it's solely about the perpetrator; but women do often specifically mention their breasts and/or legs as being commented on lewdly, and that surely requires a certain physical presence, no? I mean, I can't imagine someone loudly slavering over my B-cups, though I suppose that would indicate a certain broadmindedness in a misogynistic way... where was I heading with this?)
Among my friends, I do know one girl who had a guy she knew push her up the wall and threaten to kill her in broad daylight. Another one has had tons of men tell her on the street to 'smile!' (because heaven forbid a woman not wear a neutral expression) - I'm not sure if that counts, though. And another one has had a ton of lewd comments, but in the context of her doing burlesque acts, and I believe she views them as compliments, at least if they're positive. So, yeah. And I don't know what other incidents, if any, have happened. I think it's very hard to generalise about this from friends and family due to demographic differences.
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