|Originally posted by Parthenia
I could argue there are just as many benefits to having no siblings. I can't think of how my life was negatively impacted by not having siblings.
I have to plead guilty to feeling like it's better not to be an only child. Sometimes I think I could be happy with just one child if it weren't for this strong belief that my daughter needs at least one sibling. My husband had two younger brothers and said he always wished he was an only child, and he would like to limit our family to just one child. There is some benefit to knowing that you are the most important person in the world to someone, but he felt like his parents had favorites and he wasn't one of them. I think it was because his brother had a serious disease and was treated differently that made the difference. Then the youngest boy was the baby of the family, and the rules weren't equally applied.
I, on the other hand, grew up with 2 younger sisters and even though we had fights, I knew that these were my sisters and that we'd go to the mat for each other, even if there were times we were ready to kill each other. I never once wished to be an only child, and I guess I'm just basing my experience on that.
There are some only children in the neighborhood where I lived before, and both sets of parents had wanted to have another one but couldn't. The one mom told me to have at least one more and not to have an only child because her daughter always was asking for a sister and wanted someone to play with, and there were days she wished her daughter had a sister. Of course, it doesn't really work like that, I know, because having a sister is different from having a friend come to your house--the friend always seems much more fun in my opinion. But at least there would be someone else to entertain her daughter and it wouldn't be solely up to the parents.
The other mom was fine with just having her one son, although she had wanted to have another when she was younger. One of my nieces was an only child and she said she didn't like it, so made sure to have 2. I know
there are benefits to being an only child, but on an emotional level I can't quite embrace it and agree to it. I'm actually hoping to get pregnant soon, and my children will be about 4 - 5 years apart. I've decided that if I can't get pregnant, I probably will just give up on the idea and have an only child, so I can't really say that I can't embrace it since I don't know what's going to happen. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences. It's good to know that maybe I am just overreacting.