I've been wondering about this. Lately, my dh and I have invited several families over to eat with us, and some have said OK, but never came. Some came, but seemed to be uncomfortable. We only know one or two families who will come to our house, eat a meal with us, and stay to chat, and be comfortable the whole time! OTOH, when I needed a place to stay in Philadelphia, a friend of an aquiantance offered a room. We didn't know each other, but when I arrived, they were out and *had left the door open* for me. They have so many guests that they don't lock the doors anymore! Folks can come and go as they like. When the husband returned, he found I hadn't had supper, so he ran out and got Chinese for us. Just the whole experience had me speecheless. To be treated so well by virtual strangers!! I was inspired.
But it seems to be difficult sometimes to get people to *accept* hospitality! Some folks we know never sit down to eat with thier own families, so I guess I shouldn't be surprised that a sit-down supper, or even just afternoon tea would be odd to them.
And this is so different from dh's country, where if you stop at someone's house, you're basically forced to at least have tea and roasted grain, and you can expect to sit and talk for 20+ minutes, and have a *really* good excuse to not stay for supper!
I don't know the point of this post. Just rambling.
But I'd love to see some thoughts on hospitality!