Honestly, the health care system in this country! That someone should have trouble getting help that she desperately needs...
But I have a whole soapbox speech about that, and that's definitely not what you need right now. Be prepared, though, that as insane as it is, it may be a fact that there is little help available. Wrong, yes, but often true nevertheless.
First, remember when you talk to her and try to help her that, as depressed as she is, she is probably minimally functional and unable to help herself. Making a few phone calls to some agencies for some help may be far more than she can manage. If it's possible for you to go help her, you might want to try to do that. Like a PP said, try NAMI
. The chapter in her state can point you to what resources are available.
If she needs help with food and basic necessities, and if she's got no significant income, that may actually be in her favor because she might qualify for Medicaid, which would get her the medical care and counseling that she needs. She can apply for food stamps and TANF at the same time she applies for Medicaid. She may also qualify for SSI or SSD; you have to go to the social security office to apply for those.
For child care, the state child care subsidies can be hard to get (tons and tons of rules), but she may be able to circumvent some of those if she can prove she's disabled. BUT, SSI and SSD take lots of time and it doesn't sound like she has time. The YMCA gives child care scholarships based on income. Head Start is free to low-income families.
Obviously this is all probably going to be too much for her (it's a lot to handle when you're feeling just fine; all the bureaucracy is maddening, the paperwork, the waiting rooms, etc.), but maybe she could manage it with help, or maybe you could do it for her, or maybe...I dunno. I don't know nearly enough to throw out any more ideas.
I wish I could be more help. That's the stuff that came to mind straight off. If I think of something else, I'll PM you.
to you and your cousin.