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#1 of 16 Old 07-19-2006, 06:44 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I didn't lknow where to post this. Sorry if it doesn't belong here.

I've never been to a christening before. We're going to our neighbor's son's this Sunday. He's 6 months old.

What do people usually give? I'm at a total loss.
MIL says usually things like silver spoons/cups etc.
But I know the mother will laugh because that is SO not her-and it will NEVER be used.

What should I do?

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I gave them a gift when the baby was born. Should I give another for the christening? AFAIK, you are not obligated if you have already given a birth gift.
But if everyone is showing up with gifts.....
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How about a nice photo frame or album?

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For our son's Christening we got a LOT of plaques and engraved frames and basically, things that will never be used because it is clutter. We have a small house and there just isn't anywhere to PUT that kind of stuff, know what I mean? I packed everything away except a hand knit blue baby sweater and nice, hardcover Children's Bible.

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For christenings, we give money or a savings bond. For our son's dedications we got mutiple bibles, cash, savings bonds, and more picture frames than we know what to do with. Oh - and crosses. We have more crosses than we have walls.

I'd go w/a savings bond and a nice card w/a note for the babe when he gets older. Can't go wrong w/money.
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When DH was invited to a co-worker's baby's Christening celebration, I found a nice nightlight for them. It came with a shade that turns as the heat from the lightbulb rises. I got them a spare shade to go with it. One shade had some Bible verse on it, but the one they seemed to like more, going by the "thank-you" card, was the Noah's Ark shade. Turns out that's the theme of the nursery.

I tend to go for somewhat useful gifts when I can.

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Go with a savings bond.

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I would give $ or a GC.

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We (finally) did ds' in January and received money(cash & money into a 529 my sis set up), gift cards and some pretty religious statuettes.
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You could get them a gc to amazon and invite them to choose a children's bible or another religious book for him.

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savings bonds are always a safe bet.

also i don't know if they do it but if the child is given a patron saint something cool like a story book about that saint or something is always fun.

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At my son's baptism, we received a couple little Bible story board books, a photo frame/album, a handmade quilt with his birth/baptism dates, and some money. But really, we got a lot of cards that were empty - and that was totally fine with me! I was just thankful that people were there (it wasn't held during a normal Sunday service - we had it on a Saturday because my husband is a pastor to two congregations and wanted to make it "fair" that people from either congregation could come).

Do whatever you think is best, but I have a feeling that the parents will just be happy that you took the time to be there for an important moment in their child's life.
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We give savings bonds for the Christenings/Baptisms. It's not the child's choice to be Baptised, so I do not give religious gifts (who knows if the religion of the parent is even the baby's religion). I give bonds which the child can decide how to use it when he or she is older.
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Perhaps you could find a nice picture book. "Happy Birth Day!" by Robie H. Harris is one idea. I know that has nothing to do with baptism, but it still celebrates the child.
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Do whatever you think is best, but I have a feeling that the parents will just be happy that you took the time to be there for an important moment in their child's life.



It hurt my feelings that my so-called "best friend" didn't show up for my second child's baptism. (She didn't bother to show up for my college graduation, either, and neither event would have meant a long trip for her.)

Some people seem to think that it doesn't matter because the child doesn't know whether you're there, or don't think it's a big deal if the child is not a first child.

I think a book would be a great gift. I love this one:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/043...lance&n=283155
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Some people seem to think that it doesn't matter because the child doesn't know whether you're there, or don't think it's a big deal if the child is not a first child.
Or some people, like myself, don't show up because they don't agree with the practice.

(I still send a card/gift if the kid is first or second tier family/friend.)
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Wink Christening gift

Hi, we had a great success with this gold pendant. Not too expensive
http://www.aljancic.com/en-detail-34...ning-gift.html
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