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|View Poll Results: Do big families bother you?|
|Don't much care||66||100.00%|
|It depends on the situation||155||100.00%|
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Originally Posted by SiValleySteph
I would be interested in hearing what those who plan on/have large families feel about this. Is it not important to you? I cannot have a large family and reconcile it with my feelings on conservation.
Originally Posted by bri276
it's none of my business how many, or few, children anyone has who is responsible and loving towards them.
I would never make a derogatory comment towards a mother or family with many children- no matter how many.
And while I still maintain it's none of my business, I don't like to see older siblings parenting younger ones. A bit of babysitting or housework is normal and healthy, but in some situations (like a certain tv show we've all blabbed endlessly about) it can be excessive and unhealthy to have a teen or adolescent spending the vast majority of their free time caring for younger children. This can happen with any number of children, of course. That's why I say I don't mind one bit as long as the PARENTS are responsible for their kids. All of them.
Originally Posted by mamaofthree
Duggers aside... what is wrong with older able children cooking dinner? I don't get that. Some night/days I don't want to do what needs to be done, but I still cook dinner for everyone. I know this goes against the flow of Mothering, but having kids have responsiblity isn't a bad thing.
The older my kids get the more they actually don't mind doing and enjoy it. I still don't let them mess with the stove, but my dd loves to cook (with me putting the stuff in the oven). I know my little rant is OT, but still... it is shocking to me that an adult has to "do" all this stuff whether they want to or not, but a child can say "naw, I don't want to help out my family" and everyone is OK with that.
I lucked out, as I said, because my kids help out with out much fuss. They have chores, but that is because we all need to help out in a family. I guess I just don't get it... a kid can say I don't want to help out with, let's say, cooking every other night, and that is OK? Why? Is it OK for me to say, I no longer do the wash, or cook? UGH!
I didn't have kids to make them servents, but even if I had just one child, I would expect some help around here, especially as they got older.
What are we raising kids who feel the need to be cared for without helping out? How does that benifit them as they grow up?
AP Mom to 5
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