I think you guys need to have a better plan in place than "some other unknown job".
Look SERIOUSLY at your current budget,m and his realistic other job options and how much they would pay. How drastically would you have to cut your budget to live off of one of those jobs? Not knowing you and your situation, I don't knwo if you are talking about changes like "sorry dear, no more vacations in europe " or more like "We can only eat OUT once pre week on the new budget" or more like "we can only EAT once per week on the new budget" if he switches jobs.
So..i woudl look at that...look at how much you guys would need to have, income-wise, to be able to live in a manner you are comfortable with, and look at what his options are for jobs that pay that.
I think it is unrealistic to say "family time is more important"
Yes, i believe it is...but money troubles can add just as much stress to a reltionship as job troubles, oyou know? You certainly don't want to trade one form of stress for another, unless you know it and willingly make that choice.
Different people "do" being poor differently.
I personally, don't "do" poor well...dh does! So, he is comfortable never being able to go out, eat in restaurants, buy things on a whim(I'm talking like $5 purchases here, lol!), have dd take community classes (dance, etc), rent movies, buy organic food, etc
I am NOT.
I don't think i have expensive tastes or whatever...but to me, being too poor to do anything ever...is ;like a prison sentence. Id rather leave dd/be apart from her in order to work 15 hrs per week, and then have money to ENJOY the other 100 hours i get to spend with her, then be at home all the time and be absolutely BROKE. i LIKE the little things that cost money..yes, i understand there are lots of things that DON'T..but i especially like the ones that DO. Like having our membership to the local zoo..we go several times a week in the summer. Being able, on occasion, to spring for a juice or even ice cream on a hot day....to have enough gas to drive to some of the nicer parks on the other side of town....to be able to let dd take the gymnastics classes she LOVES....to be able to buy her a better carseat that will keep her safeer, etc..
to me, there is a certain level of living i need to have in order to be happy....now, above and beyond that, i don't feel the need to be RICH..but i can't be dirt poor. I know that about myself.