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#31 of 38 Old 06-18-2007, 10:31 PM
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Some people are idiots.:

OP - ignore the asses. Be happy and share with people who are happy for you. Screw the rest. Their loss of your loving happy family.
I love this advice. OP, and congratulations. We're happy for you!
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#32 of 38 Old 06-18-2007, 10:50 PM
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sheesh...i thought children are supposed to be blessings. : did i miss the memo or something?

sorta on the same topic: people made stupid remarks RIGHT after i had my DD. "so...when are ya gonna have a boy?"


i can't believe how rude and insensitive people can be.
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Congrats on your pg!!!

I have nothing furthur to add to the "snappy comebacks" discussion. It's hard to think of good things to say when pg and hormonal!

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Congratulations to you! I think your news is fabulous. I get comments all the time, but most of them are good natured. The good natured ones I don't mind so much because I know the people mean well, and they know I'm a goof. They get a little tiresome, but that's all. The mean spirited ones are unbelievable. I've told this story before, but it's not out of my system yet - When I was trying to conceive my last child, I bought a pg test in a Target near our house that we frequent. I had recently miscarried - which was heartbreaking - and badly wanted to be pg. The checker who recognized me (you know - that weird mom with THREE kids), saw the pg test, and said, "OMG, I hope it's negative." So, you're not alone. Don't let them get to you. Come here and we'll send you lots of good vibes!
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First of all CONGRATS to the OP!

Since my first was not planned, when I got pregnant with #2 (planned) I had some family members make stupid comments like "already?! geez, I would have thought you would have learned to be careful the first time!" We had been so excited to tell my parents and the ILs that we planned a big surprise to tell them. MIL's response was "another one? well...if that is what you want" :

Then when people found out #2 was a boy they all told us it must feel nice to be "done". I've not had a single family member ask me if we plan on anymore kids, they just assume that because we have a boy and a girl we should be finished. My MIL has been quite vocal that she thinks we should not have anymore kids. Its ironic that my friend who has 2 boys the same ages as my kids, gets asked all the time if she is going to have a girl soon. I truly want a third child, but we have to wait a year to TTC, I can't wait to hear the comments when we are actually expecting again.

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Um wow, did you tell her how rude she was being? I honestly think some people might stop saying such wretched things if we stopped biting our tongues when they say them.
s Congrats on your pregnancy!
"I do not care what you think your intent was in saying that. It was unacceptable."

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Who the hell raised people to respond to the news of a pregnancy as a bad thing?

The polite thing to say is "Congratulations! Do you know when you're due?" Geez, I stick my foot in my mouth all.the.time. and even I know that.

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I've learned in my 3 childless years here on MDC is that I'm to expect horrid comments NO MATTER WHAT I DO!!!

I'm 29 with no kids yet. So I get comments on how I better have one soon. If I had one already someone would have said it was too soon. If I have one kid, people are going to be asking when I'm going to give him/her a sibling. When I get pregnant with #2, people will say "is this it? are you done now?" and if I have more, I'll get even worse.

You can't win at all!

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