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#1 of 10 Old 09-13-2007, 12:03 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I've searched and can't find the threads, so I'm sorry to ask this when I know it's been covered.

I'm having DS's birthday party in a couple of weeks and we're inviting his whole class plus a few friends - possibly 20+ kids to attend : . I (and maybe DS) would honestly be just fine with no gifts at all, but know that's not going to be the reality. I also know and agree with the whole "saying 'no gifts' assumes that gifts are expected." I don't know how well received it would be if I suggested something along the lines of donations to others etc.

Is there any way to suggest that we're open to whatever makes others comfortable/happy?

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We did this a lot in my old playgroup and it worked really well. Ask everyone to bring a wrapped book. You can play a musical chairs type game and that way every one leaves with a book (they get a 'present' when they are out) and your kid doesn't end up with a million plastic play sets. Another bonus is that everyone brings a 'present' so there is no weird don't bring a gift thing.
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I have yet to find a way to bring this up that doesn't offend someone.

In the past, when people ask what my kids want - and they usually do - I reply with "you really don't have to bring a gift, it's not expected. DS is just looking forward to seeing your child at the party."

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You could just not point out it's a birthday party. Call it an fall party or something and then have cake anyway..... 'cause, yum, birthday cake.

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We did this a lot in my old playgroup and it worked really well. Ask everyone to bring a wrapped book. You can play a musical chairs type game and that way every one leaves with a book (they get a 'present' when they are out) and your kid doesn't end up with a million plastic play sets. Another bonus is that everyone brings a 'present' so there is no weird don't bring a gift thing.
What a great idea!
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love that idea...hi coldfeet
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We did this a lot in my old playgroup and it worked really well. Ask everyone to bring a wrapped book. You can play a musical chairs type game and that way every one leaves with a book (they get a 'present' when they are out) and your kid doesn't end up with a million plastic play sets. Another bonus is that everyone brings a 'present' so there is no weird don't bring a gift thing.
And because everyone leaves with a present, there's not so much pressure to provide a junk bag for everyone.
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And because everyone leaves with a present, there's not so much pressure to provide a junk bag for everyone.
Exactly!! I'm so sad I moved!! It worked really great. All the kids had a great time because they played a game and 'won' yet the parents didn't end up in polly pocket hell!
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That's a great idea! How would I word it on the invitation? I literally don't know 15 of the invitees as it's his new kindie class.

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I would just state the time and place of the party. Then say" Instead of a regular gift, please bring a book wrapped up as a present as we will be playing a game together." Make it as is simple and blunt as you can.
It was a lot easier on my invites since we were all such good friends already.
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