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Although I normally complain about MIL and her gifts, this is not from her. It is from DH's grandmother who I adore. How am I going to thank her for something that is so wasteful and that we will not use (we don't really "do" time-outs, and if we do, we certainly wouldn't use this stupid bear).

Ugh. I hate this. This is a perfect example of having to say thank you for something you can't stand (and even find offensive). What do I say?

The practical side of me is coming out, too. What we could do w/ the $18 it cost her!!! Grrrrr!!! :
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Ewww that's awful ! I wouldn't know what to say to that :
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Dear Grandmother,

Thank you very much for the thoughtful gift. Although we don't advocate punitive time-outs for our child, the 60 minute timer will sure come in handy for reminding me when a loaf of bread is done or when I need to baste my roast.

With love,

Karina


(sorry, I edited to correct your name!!)
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Dear Grandmother,

Thank you very much for the thoughtful gift. Although we don't advocate punitive time-outs for our child, the 60 minute timer will sure come in handy for reminding me when a loaf of bread is done or when I need to baste my roast.

With love,

Katrina


It's karina, but I just have to say CaptainC, you crack me up. You have had some good advice about some of my "gift vents" the last couple days. thanks!
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The craziest thing is the SIXTY MINUTE timer.

OMG that's the longest time out EVER!!! Who puts their kids in time out for so long that they would need a 60 min timer?

Oh, and if the kid is sitting there staring at this, how long do you think would pass before they realized that they could just move the timer closer to 0?
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eh, I'd honestly take it as an attempt (all be it a failed one) to support your parenting practices.

Great-grandma is coming from a period where pretty much everyone spanked their children without question. A "timeout bear" looks like progress to me.

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Oh good grief! That is...yikes! I think I'd just say "thank you so much for thinking of us" and then eBay it, see if you can get a couple bucks for it.
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could you use it to make up a silly game to play with the lo instead of what it's marketed for?

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Dear Grandmother,

Thank you very much for the thoughtful gift. Although we don't advocate punitive time-outs for our child, the 60 minute timer will sure come in handy for reminding me when a loaf of bread is done or when I need to baste my roast.

With love,

Katrina


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Dear Grandmother,

Thank you very much for the thoughtful gift. Although we don't advocate punitive time-outs for our child, the teddy bear is a lovely toy and the 60 minute timer will sure come in handy when she goes off to college and needs to know when her eggs are done.

With love,
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Why is it a 60 minute timer? I thought the recommendation was 1 minute per year of age...so is Grandma going to be going into time out?
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The craziest thing is the SIXTY MINUTE timer.

OMG that's the longest time out EVER!!! Who puts their kids in time out for so long that they would need a 60 min timer?

Oh, and if the kid is sitting there staring at this, how long do you think would pass before they realized that they could just move the timer closer to 0?
Good lord! I read it sooooo wrong. Here I thought it was a 60 SECOND timer!!! :

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Can I take the bear to bed and give myself a 60 min time-out?



In all seriousness, I would write a simple Thank you for thinking of us. We really apreciate receiving a gift from you.
Then you don't even have to say thank you for the gift you hate. You just appreciate the thought.

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The craziest thing is the SIXTY MINUTE timer.

OMG that's the longest time out EVER!!! Who puts their kids in time out for so long that they would need a 60 min timer?

Oh, and if the kid is sitting there staring at this, how long do you think would pass before they realized that they could just move the timer closer to 0?


YES!! All of this crossed my mind, too!!! 60 *MINUTES!!*
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I'm sorry, but that bear makes me laugh and laugh for some reason. It's so... ridiculous. If I had to be in time out, a time-out bear would p!ss me off more than comfort me.

I like the letter Captain Crunchy suggested. That's great.

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Why is it a 60 minute timer? I thought the recommendation was 1 minute per year of age...so is Grandma going to be going into time out?



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Why is it a 60 minute timer? I thought the recommendation was 1 minute per year of age...so is Grandma going to be going into time out?
sounds like that would be a good idea
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eh, I'd honestly take it as an attempt (all be it a failed one) to support your parenting practices.

Great-grandma is coming from a period where pretty much everyone spanked their children without question. A "timeout bear" looks like progress to me.


Yes, I realize her heart was in the right place w/ this. This is the same lady that was having a fit that he didn't have rice cereal in his bottle to "help him sleep through the night."

I have to keep in mind her generation.
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I'm so glad I have the kind of relationship with my MIL I can laugh at her and say, "What were you thinking?"
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Dear Grandma
Thanks so much for the time out bear. It'll be perfect for the next time the kids are misbehaving and I need to put myself in time out so I can make sure to keep my temper in check. I think an hour is a reasonable amount of time for me.

Love,
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is there any way to return it to her?

i guess i'm the tackiest woman alive.

when there's a gift that's decidedly against my values, i return it to the giver. i do it in person, or on the phone so that they can hear my voice, and i thank them for thinking of me/us, and that i really appreciate their care and generosity.

i then explain that i am unable to use the gift--and i give the reason--and that i would prefer that they get their money back or use it themselves.

i don't think grandma has need for a time-out bear herself, but she could use the $18 on something else.
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Dear Gramma,

Thank you for the very sweet gift. Sadly DD loves it so much that "time outs" no longer feel like a punishment to her. Now we have to hit her with a belt when she misbehaves. But she sure does like that bear!
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Dear Gramma,

Thank you for the very sweet gift. Sadly DD loves it so much that "time outs" no longer feel like a punishment to her. Now we have to hit her with a belt when she misbehaves. But she sure does like that bear!
Sick sick sick......I love it.
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i would probably take this time to explain to your child what to do if you are gifted with something you don't like or would never use.


i would not be looking for a way to tell her it was horrible, that is just rude IMO. Instead I would mark out time out on his feet and just let my kid play with it like he wants. unless you have something against teddy bears. or stuffed animals..
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It's a grandmother. I would just thank her and move on.

If it was my or dh's mom I would discuss it but not dh's grandmother.

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Dear Gramma,

Thank you for the very sweet gift. Sadly DD loves it so much that "time outs" no longer feel like a punishment to her. Now we have to hit her with a belt when she misbehaves. But she sure does like that bear!
That's awesome. I mean, of course I'm not laughing at the idea of abusing one's child with a belt.

Maybe you could say you misunderstood the concept and have been whacking DD with the bear and oops, it's broken.

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Dear Gramma,

Thank you for the very sweet gift. Sadly DD loves it so much that "time outs" no longer feel like a punishment to her. Now we have to hit her with a belt when she misbehaves. But she sure does like that bear!
I shouldn't laugh... But it's so funny!

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i'd put socks on it and use it for a variety of other useful things and games. i sometimes use timers to show DD how long 5 min is, or a minute. or if i need to complete something by myself, a timer helps her wait. as gifts go, it is not THAT bad. the bear is kind of cute. and it is nice to have a timer which is not easy to misplace! and you can always ebay it, if you absolutely hate it.

just write a simple thank you note--i bet she didn't mean anything by it. probably other grannies were raving about it.
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You guys are eeeeevil

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Oh cool, now I can start the kids on those cooking lessons that 1 hour cooking timer will be so handy
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