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View Poll Results: Which Spelling is more feminine?
Finley looks more feminine IMO 52 100.00%
Finlay looks more feminine IMO 85 100.00%
I prefer Finley 99 100.00%
I prefer Finlay 21 100.00%
Other 37 100.00%
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#1 of 58 Old 02-22-2008, 12:22 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I've had so many conflicting responses to this question. We're naming our DD who is due in May "Finley". I *know* this is a masculine name that was originally a surname and traditionally spelled Fionnlagh.

I'm just curious in your opinion which of these two spellings looks more feminine to you? I'm mostly curious because people have said "I think Finley looks too masculine where Finlay is the more feminine version" and vice versa. Just wondering if I could get more of a general consensus.

If you hate the name that's fine, but we're already set on naming her this and my boys have been calling her "baby finley" for months now.

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Ok, I voted other, lol. I'll mess your poll up right from the start, sorry. To me Finley looks right, Finlay just looks wrong somehow. Plus if I saw Finlay I'd pronounce it with a long a sound at the end instead of a long e. How about Finleigh? Truthfully it still looks a little wrong to me, but the -leigh is a common ending for girls' names so it looks more feminine.

Sorry for the complicated answer.
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I agree with the above poster and would pronounce Finlay as "Fin-LAY" not "Fin-LEE". but I also think that Finley is a very masculine name and don't think there's a way to make it feminine. If you're using a unisex name or a "boy" name for a girl, I wouldn't worry about making it look feminine, really. She's a girl with a boy name, and that's okay just as it is.

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I voted other... I agree with the pp who suggested Finleigh. I think that definitely makes it look more feminine.
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I voted other... I agree with the pp who suggested Finleigh. I think that definitely makes it look more feminine.
I agree with this if you want it to be feminine, but meanwhile, a unusual masculine name for a girl can be really neat.
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I would stick to Finley. Our dd has a male name, we tacked an 'e' onto the end to make it look feminine and now I regret it. Too many times correcting the spelling. I like the name btw...too bad my last name ends in a y.
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Finlay. Finley looks like the surname; Finlay looks like a given name.
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I LOVE Finlay for a girl. I knew someone on another list with a dd named, "Finlay" and I was really struck by the name and spelling. I don't normally "do" non-traditional names but I think, "Finlay" is really beautiful.
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Thank you for the compliments on the name! I love it as well!

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I like Finley.

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Ok, I voted other, lol. I'll mess your poll up right from the start, sorry. To me Finley looks right, Finlay just looks wrong somehow. Plus if I saw Finlay I'd pronounce it with a long a sound at the end instead of a long e. How about Finleigh? Truthfully it still looks a little wrong to me, but the -leigh is a common ending for girls' names so it looks more feminine.

Sorry for the complicated answer.
I totally agree with all of this. I would definitely think to pronounce "Finlay" differently, and I just like Finley a lot better. I think that's a great name for a girl. But IMO it would be better to just go with what you like best and feel is right, no matter what responses you get from people.

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Finlee; Finli; Phinlee, etc.

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I voted other. I like the name either way and I think they look equally masculine.

I don't think that is bad for a girl. My dd's name is fairly masculine in all its spellings. If Finley speaks to you more than Finlay I would use that.

As others have said, I would probably see Finlay and pronounce it as a long "a" instead of an "e" sound. Finley I would pronounce as Fin-lee. If correct pronunciation and spelling are important to you that might be something to consider.

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Finlee; Finli; Phinlee, etc.
Well, I voted Finlay, but I think Finlee is much cuter!

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Finlay. Most people will know how to pronounce it.

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Finlay. Most people will know how to pronounce it.
Well, then am I pronouncing it wrong? I'd say long /e/ at the end for Finley, but I'd say long /a/ at the end for Finlay. I've never heard of it as a surname or a first name, but I think it is cute. I prefer Finley. I don't really like having the "lay" in there for some reason.
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I think you'll be happiest with Finley, since that's how you spell it in the post. I looked also at preventing dd from having taunts, or at least knowing what the taunts would be with her name.... "how does your fin lay, fish?" comes to mind
(sorry--I spend too much time with little people)
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Well, then am I pronouncing it wrong? I'd say long /e/ at the end for Finley, but I'd say long /a/ at the end for Finlay. I've never heard of it as a surname or a first name, but I think it is cute. I prefer Finley. I don't really like having the "lay" in there for some reason.
How do you pronounce Lindsay? The same as Lindsey?

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I think you'll be happiest with Finley, since that's how you spell it in the post. I looked also at preventing dd from having taunts, or at least knowing what the taunts would be with her name.... "how does your fin lay, fish?" comes to mind
(sorry--I spend too much time with little people)
This cracked me up!! Something to think about for sure. I always consider these things as well. I was teased all the time when I was in middle school about my last name and it was a big issue in my life at that age so I'm sensitive to it.

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I voted other, they both sound masculine to me and one does not seem more feminine than the other to me.
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I voted other, they both sound masculine to me and one does not seem more feminine than the other to me.
See to me I can't picture the name on a boy even though it is traditionally a boys name. To me they both sound fairly feminine. I was just surprised that the opinions differed so much between which sounded more feminine.

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I like the name for a girl, it does not sound like a boy's name at all to me. I prefer the spelling with an "ey" ending rather than an "ay" ending.

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If you want it pronounced fin-lee then stick with the Finley. If you go with Finlay she's going to get a lot of people mispronouncing it as fin-lay.

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I like the name for a girl, it does not sound like a boy's name at all to me. I prefer the spelling with an "ey" ending rather than an "ay" ending.
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If you want it pronounced fin-lee then stick with the Finley. If you go with Finlay she's going to get a lot of people mispronouncing it as fin-lay.
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I Love that name, great choice! To me I see Finn as a more masculine or even gender neutral name but Finley to me has a more feminine flavour. Maybe it will go the way of "Ashley" and "Leslie" and similar sounding names, starting out as male and eventually end up being almost strictly used as a female name.

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Finley. Very cute, by the way!
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I agree w/pp, Finleigh would give you a feminine spelling. I think it is a great name, too.

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Finley. Great name, btw!

I would not spell it finlay - which would be mispronounced as fin-lay. I think the word "lay" at the end opens the door to taunting.....
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To me Finley looks right, Finlay just looks wrong somehow. Plus if I saw Finlay I'd pronounce it with a long a sound at the end instead of a long e. How about Finleigh? Truthfully it still looks a little wrong to me, but the -leigh is a common ending for girls' names so it looks more feminine.
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Well, then am I pronouncing it wrong? I'd say long /e/ at the end for Finley, but I'd say long /a/ at the end for Finlay. I've never heard of it as a surname or a first name, but I think it is cute. I prefer Finley. I don't really like having the "lay" in there for some reason.
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I think you'll be happiest with Finley, since that's how you spell it in the post. I looked also at preventing dd from having taunts
I agree - and fish/fin/lay isn't what I'd worry about.... I immediately thought of high school and lay as in getting laid.

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How do you pronounce Lindsay? The same as Lindsey?
Well, I would immediately pronounce Lindsey as "lin-zee" but Lindsay would make me stop to think - though I'd likely guess the same because "lin-zay" sounds so funny to me - but so does "fin-lay" which is what some people will say. If you want the "fin-lee" pronounciation (which I think is DARLING by the way!), then I'd go with Finley.

I actually love last names as first names. My dd1 is MacKenzie, and I've always loved Kirby for a first name. Parker. Taylor. There are just tons of examples.

I think Finn as a stand alone name is more masculine, but Finley seems completely gender neutral to me.

My dd2 is Rylie - which I spelled that way to give people a clue she is a girl, since the name was originally for boys. But all the little (younger than eight or ten) Riley/Rylie/Ryleighs now are girls.
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I like Finley. I don't think it looks feminine, but who cares? It's a great name!!

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The "Leigh" ending made me think of another option "lea" Would "Finlea" work, or would you be afraid of her name being mispronounced as fin-lee-uh?

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I think Finley looks more feminine.

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