I think the PC term these days is "Mother Blessing" I still don't see what the big deal is calling it a Blessingway but whatever. I've been to both Blessings and Baby Showers and definitely prefer Blessings. Baby showers are so typical and superficial....games, corny jokes, emphasis on presents. The Blessing stuff really brings people together in a way that our society is desperate for. However, I went to a Blessing recently that was simply too emotional, too many tears and somberness for the happiness of the occaision. One that I threw for a first time mama, we did a couple games, then Blessing activities, then some presents. I did a Blessing for another mama having her 2nd that was just Blessing activities but then we did presents afterwards because her mom and grandmother wanted that. Her grandmother kept saying how much she loved the Blessing. Anyway, I think a combo can work well. Or you could have 2 different ones.
"We shape the clay into a pot but it is the emptiness inside that holds whatever we want" Lao Tzu