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Old 04-23-2008, 08:45 PM
 
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My one and only also and very glad.
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I had a lot of fun, no way would I wish that away.
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No, not in the least. I had fun before DH and now I have fun with DH. I don't really see what waiting would have done. Besides if it wasn't for sex, we probably wouldn't have married. He was a one night stand that turned into 10+ years.
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I was molested as a child and violently raped when I was 19.

We didn't meet until I was in my late 30's (and, I had had three sexual partners between age 19 and when I met dh).

So, no dh wasn't my first. I wish he was.

What counts, though, is that he is my last.


I am someone else who didn't have any choice about the first time - I was too young to even know how to spell the words, let alone make a choice about what happened.

It was different when I chose it with my beloved dh. I just wish so many of us could have had the choice to wait or not.
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I wouldn't have DD1, then. So, no regrets.

To my husband I am wife, to my kids I am mother, but for myself I am just me.
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My DP had the least number of partners before me; and out of all my previous partners; he was the very best.

Personally, I don't think it's numbers that make you better; it's the ability to pay attention to what your partner likes; that what you each like matches and that you're a good *ahem* fit for one another.

I wish he had been my first (I believe it would have been just as great if he were); however, I don't regret the previous because there were few of them; mostly long-term; and I made good choices IMO (ie: didn't go home with strangers and such).

I actually wonder where I stand on the 'partner numbers' scale; whether I'm a rare case; or avarage; or what. When you have a minute, might you vote in my poll please?

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Nope. Of all the totally unimportant things in life, this would be right up there.
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I wouldn't have DD1, then. So, no regrets...
Oh, yeah...there would be that too. My DS is from a previous relationship; and it doesn't really 'occur' to me; if that makes sense...?

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Yes, very much so. I had no clue of the peciousness i was giving up, not to mention the complete and utter losers i gave it to didn't deserve a shred of it.

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Nope.
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Heck no!!!!!!
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ish I had more experiences before getting married. Way More. too late now.
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Nah. There are a couple I wish I just hadn't, period, but there's something to be said for experience in wow'ing that partner that's forever
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Nope, not a one. If we had got together before I had been with several guys, we would not have made it as a couple. I had a couple of previous partners introduce me to the concept called "Happy Fun Sex" . I introduced DF to the concept. I DO wish that DF's experiences before me were happier. Not that he was a virgin (I don't think I could have handled that) but that he had avoided the ice box girlfriend, the married woman who "helped herself"... yikes.

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DH and I waited til we were married and we're all we've both ever been with.

I don't regret it at all. We had fun "learning" together.

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Nope. I had some pretty good past partners. I wouldn't of missed that for the world.
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Yes, we both do. Our spiritual beliefs have changed since we were teens.

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We were both each others firsts and I wouldn't change that.

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::snort:: No.
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Not at all.
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Oh hell no. I'm not sorry at all, and like some others said, that's not something that would even cross my mind.

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LOL. no.
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No, I don't wish dh was my first or that I had less partners before him.
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weird, thought I replied and this is in my User CP but my response is not here.

I said:

absolutely not. And I dislike the phrase "saved myself." Blechy yuck yuck!
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I believe that if we both saved ourselves for each other, we wouldn't be as hot and steamy in bed as we are. Am I allowed to say that here?
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The question irks me......."saved yourself"? Like you're a piece of cake, or something?

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No, but I wish he'd have been my second (of only two). He was a 27 yo virgin when we met and, well, it shows.
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No way. I became sexually active at 13, and though that was too young for me IMO, I have few regrets beyond that. I absolutely do not wish I had "saved" myself for anyone. The idea is pretty odd to me.

Neither of my husbands was a virgin either, and that's just fine by me.

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yep! although I will say that he and I both came out of crappy relationships and were SO MUCH nicer to each other because of it.
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Not at all.

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