Do you throw away your DP's stuff?
No, I wouldn't just throw away his stuff.
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He on the other hand tries to throw my things away all the time and we get in HUGE fights about it. He gets it from his mother though who wants to throw all my stuff away. She was just here a few weeks ago and tried to throw a LOT of my things away. She did succeed in throwing out about a $100 worth of frozen food and 12 bags of breastmilk (each with 4-6oz in them) I was devastated!
I never want anyone to feel like I felt when they threw all my things away. I was able to save all the stuff they threw out but it still hurt that they tried.
Other than that I will pile it and ask if it's ok to toss before getting rid of anything. This man will hoard anything so it's hard but I do give him the option.
But, generally, we don't toss or get rid of things without asking the other about it first.
She once threw out a bottle of ebm that I worked sooo hard to pump! She thought cause it sat out for an hour it had gone bad!!! I freaked out on her so bad (partially due to PP hormones) that I don't think she'll ever do anything like that again.
Mother of 3, welcomed a new baby girl July 2011
Only one issue in all these years because I donated a book he never planned on reading again.
1) the baby is too young to really know the difference
2) the child had received plenty of warning to clean up the stuff him or herself, and refused to do so, knowing full well that I would go in and clean and make decisions about what to keep or throw away if I didn't at least get the child's help during cleaning. Generally this is over the course of a few days- and the child finally tells me 'OK, you clean it up, I don't want to."
Generally, when decluttering the house, I'll put potential give-aways into a bag or box, and let other family members go through the stuff before actually giving things away. If they choose not to go through the stuff and I give away something they would have wanted to keep, that's not my problem.
Ruth, single mommy to 3 quasi-adults
Yep. If I didn't throw away his old stained and holey shirts, he might wear them in public.
I toss all the old and holey undies and socks and put the ragged shirts in the garage for rags.
I have to rip them up pretty bad first or he'll rescue them and wear them some more.
My DS cries when he sees me decluttering his stuff, so I've stopped doing it.
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