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Did you know that Germany has the lowest birthrate in the world? 8 births per 1,000 people. The government there is implementing programs to encourage families to have children, including paying parents to stay at home to care for newborns. The government pays more if both parents take time to stay at home with newborns up to one year old, so there are many fathers that are staying at home with young children there.

This video is a nice documentary of the stay at home fathers in Germany, which they refer to as "the new man". (I, personally, like that a lot better than the ubiquitous "Mr. Mom" moniker we see so often.)

http://current.com/items/89141408_german_mr_moms

German Dads Jump at the Chance to Stay Home with Kids
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Designed to tackle Germany's shrinking population, the parent subsidy is worth up to 25,200 euros (18,129 pounds).

A parent taking time off work to care for a newborn is paid two-thirds of his or her net monthly salary, up to a maximum of 1,800 euros, tax-free for 12 months. The other parent can take a further two months off to extend the benefit to 14 months.

Officials expected mothers to apply for the full benefit, with fathers only joining in for the final two months.

But 20 percent of the fathers who signed up for the benefit planned to take a full year off. About 21 percent planned three to 11 months at home, and 58 percent planned two months.
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That's great!

I know that in Canada the stats on dads staying home with their kids have really skyrocketed since parental leave was introduced, and the benefits aren't nearly as nice as the German ones sound like they'll be.
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My DP was a "new man" for a long time.. People gave me funny vibes about it sometimes not so much what was SAID as the "look".. I still think that SAHM are still more socially accepted..
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My dh voluntarily quit his job to be the stay at home parent and has done so, full-time, for 6 years. The last time we were in a social situation and someone asked him what does he do, he replied that he is the stay at home parent, and the woman who had asked him paused .... and then said in a kind of monotone, "Oh." Then there was an awkward pause and then she said ....

"Well, that's okay."

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(We live in a fairly progressive university town with significant ethnic diversity in the eastern U.S.)
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I think that's great!

Dh would love to be a sahd. He's got his own business so our 6 year old is with him pretty much 24/7. He was just complaining today after dropping our son off at science camp that all the moms stared at him and he was the only dad. He loves doing it though.
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That's great! My brother is a SAHD.

I wonder why the birthrate is so low? Marc has talked about moving to Germany. His dad was born there, so apparently Marc is elligible for citizenship. (I don't know how it works, but that's what his dad has told him.) But before I move to a place that far away I want to know the answer to this question!

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My DH has been a SAHD for the last 18+ months, but he was a student prior to that so no benefits. However, we have friends where the dad is in the Canadian military and he always takes the full parental leave when his kids are born because he gets 100% of his pay while on leave. It's a no-brainer.
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DP might end up being one, at least part-time since he works from home and I don't.
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DH and I just switched roles...I'm back at the hospital and he's embracing his tartan sling and "daddy bag"!

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That is awesome.

My partner stays home for 4 months because that is how long his work tops up the governmental pay for parental leave, and I think it has been so great in helping me adjust postpartum, heal, and for us to get to know each other and bond as a family.

I would not have any more kids if it wasn't for that parental leave.

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I think that's fabulous!

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Originally Posted by *Jessica* View Post
That's great! My brother is a SAHD.

I wonder why the birthrate is so low? Marc has talked about moving to Germany. His dad was born there, so apparently Marc is elligible for citizenship. (I don't know how it works, but that's what his dad has told him.) But before I move to a place that far away I want to know the answer to this question!
Many studies have shown that the more education a woman has, the fewer children she is likely to have. When a woman has career options, she is less likely to have many children.
http://www.aag.org/Education/center/...on3_page2.html

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I wonder why the birthrate is so low? !
abortions are big there. women want to focus more on education and being career minded.

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I think its awesome.

it is only a problem when both want to stay at home!
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