Anyway, how do you think this is all going to play out for your family?
I can see my DD just doing her own thing and pretty much leaving us all behind. She is so independent and not at all needy. I predict that, if any of them will move far away (God forbid), it will be her. That makes me sad to think about! I think she'll be more likely to stay in contact with little brother than older brother. She and DS1 butt heads so badly, despite my best efforts to foster closeness between them. I can't see them ever having a great relationship, honestly. They are so, so different. She and DS2 are different in the same ways, but she is like a little mama hen to DS2. They are also only 20 months apart, so they play much better together (she and DS1 are 4 years apart).
I'm not sure what I predict for DS2's life, but I can see my oldest sticking around here and being the one to help with all my affairs in the future. He is a homebody and also very, very close with my parents, who he would never want to leave behind.
I'm trying to change that with my family now. Homeschooling helps because that allows us to have a lot of time together, for one thing.
My kids are still very young so it's hard to guess how they'll be when grown up.
My oldest (7) is very independent-minded, strong-willed, and has lots of ideas of occupations she wants to have. She wants to be a rock star, an astronaut, a cartoonist, and several other things. I can see her striking out on her own as soon as she can. At the same time, she still wants me to be with her when she's falling asleep--more so than her 4 year old sister!--and that, along with other things, gives me hope that having started out our lives together so attached we'll never go very far out of touch.
My daughters (2.5 years apart) play well together a lot, but fight about something at least once a day too. My oldest daughter dotes on her little brother, takes good care of him, and rarely does anything he does bother her. She watched him be born here in our big bed, and cut his cord. My second daughter and my son (3 years apart), however, don't get along together as well. She taught him the exclamation, "Mine!" and just seems to be bothered by him more than see him as a playmate. That's changing though, as they get older.
Only time will tell! I will continue striving to foster strong connections! I'm looking forward to being close to all my children as adults. And hoping to get to enjoy grandchildren! [Where's that "how not to be an annoying MIL" thread? I need to save that to refer to in about 15 or 20 years.]
Michele, mom of DD 5/01, DD 11/03, and DS 11/06
DD2 is a mama's girl and I think we'll have a more relaxed and constant relationship. Perhaps we'll take each other for granted somewhere along the road, but I think we'll be alright.
It's a little too early to predict how they will be to each other. They are 4 and 2. But, really, DD2 does her own thing and for the most part leaves DD1 alone. DD2 can respect boundaries. They are very different people, though, and I expect that before long their interests will be entirely different. Perhaps it's better that way, without competition. Who knows?
Wife to DH and mama to DD(7) and DD(5) ...Lola the Wiener Dog , Faulkner the Little Giant , Ginger the Wonder Cat , Azkaban the blue parakeet, Sunny the yellow parakeet, 3 nameless hermit crabs, and a whole bunch of fish!
Gone but not fogotten.
I suspect my son will always be a Mama's Boy, even when he's married and my little girl and I are alike in so many ways, it's scary- I suspect we will be quite close as well (though her situation is a little crazy, because at this point, she's being forced to choose between me and her Mother- hopefully that will change when she and her Mother grow up).
My son and my Hubby are very different- I'm not sure how they'll be together when my son is grown up, but I do know for a fact that my stepdaughter will continue to be a Daddy's Girl for the rest of her life. It's what she does.
I hope when they are grown that we have a reltionship where they feel free to talk to me about anything and do so. I fear that in reality they will think me crazy as a loon and avoid telling me things.
My parents rarely talk to their siblings. DH is not very close with his siblings, he does talk to the one weekly but the others only a few times a year. I have one brother. He is an adult (32 years old) but lives with my parents and acts like a teenager. He is quite self absorbed and doesn't really care about much other than his job and his friends, riding his quads, etc. I will go to my parents to visit once a month or so, and he does not talk to me for 5 minutes before going out or to bed or whatever. We get along just fine, he just has other priorities.