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#1 of 49 Old 09-04-2008, 03:05 AM - Thread Starter
 
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It is time for me to sign off of mdc.I have been on this board since 2001. It was the first site I came to when I first got a computer. I have seen it grow from 3500 members to over 100,000. it has seen me through the birth of my youngest, two bouts of homelessness, two cross country moves, an Asperger's diagnosis, homeschooling, public schooling, a home purchase, crazy neighbor, and subsequent home sale, the beginning of my college career, and my departure from conservative Christianity and politics. I have seen a lot of people come and go, and now it is time for me to do the same.
I am spending too much time here, and always have. I know a lot of people talk about popping in here on their breaks and whatnot, but I literally spend hours a day online. My house is a mess, my boys are growing up, I have a ton of shit to do and I can't do it with my nose stuck in the computer. I need to get out and live my life. Invest in my home, family, career, health, and community. It is time.
I am going to leave mdc and start thinking for myself again, instead of filtering news topics and ideas through a message board. This has become a bad habit of mine. I read a news story or watch a movie and then run to the internet to see what others think instead of digesting it for myself! Time to stop that.
You are all amazing people and I am glad to have had these opportunities. I am not yet ready to delete my account, but it may come soon. I will check back on this thread some, because goodbye is hard and I want to do it properly.
If you want to stay in touch, reach me here: http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=597521782
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Best wishes, boysrus.
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Good for you, really you are honoring yourself and that's always a good thing!!
Of course you will be missed.

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It is always best to be true to yourself...best wishes!

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I wish you well, mate, & good luck on your new adventures.

I will miss you, but I understand that it's what you need to do. :

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I know how you feel, boysrus, and I'm proud of you for taking a stand and going out to live your life! Best wishes on whatever path your life takes you!
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I can tell you really value yourself, your family, and your ideals. Good for you for making changes towards bettering your life on your own terms!

Kier: wife to Jared, mama to Emma ('05), Savannah ('07), and our newest little love Reid (June 30, '09) -intact because of all of YOU! I had an ecstatic birth, at home in the water!
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Best wishes t you!
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I'm so sorry that you're leaving.
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Take good care mama.
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Hi, I was just starting to get to know you.
Thanks for being the example and giving us permission to be who we truly are.
Take care and enjoy those boys.
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Sorry I didn't get to know you. You sound like a really nice person. Wishing you the best.
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best wishes in your future endeavors. I feel much the same way but lack the 'spine' as it were to make the leap right now with everything else in turmoil
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I totally understand.
I have to take 6 month to one year long breaks from this place from time to time.
I hope this is a positive exerience for you.


There is a crack in everything...that's how the light gets in.
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Good luck!

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I totally understand and wish you good luck. I, too, have had to be introspective in the past to try to determine how "AP" I can be when I spend too much time here. I've had to take week-long breaks, myself. A permanent vacation has not been beyond my thoughts, as well. Take care!!
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I took a 2 month break from MDC a few months back. It can be very addicting.

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I've enjoyed "reading" you here over the years. Good for you and best of luck
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Thank you everyone. I wish I could just take a break, but it doesn't work for me. In the 7+ years I have been here, I have tried everything!
Several years ago, I was the same way about tv. I would be so sucked into shows, and so excited to see what happened next. Then we got rid of our tv and there was a big period of adjustment, but after a few weeks I didn't really care about what was happening on these shows anymore and was able to focus on other things in the world. The internet is the same way for me, but I can't give it up completely because I am a student and I do find some useful applications online, like my google calendar and bill pay. But I can limit my social sites, and so that is what I am doing.
I don't think I mentioned it yet, but I am actually going to have dh block mdc from all my computers. And I am going to unregister. I am going hardcore. It feels kind of pathetic that I have to go this extreme, but I know myself well enough to know that these are the steps I will need to take. In my 7 years online, I have never found a board as addictive and time consuming as this one, so I think if I make this break I will be okay
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You'll certainly be missed. I'm sad to see you go, but I can understand your reasons.
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Just come back again every few months, like I do, don't stay away for good.
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Thank you everyone. I wish I could just take a break, but it doesn't work for me. In the 7+ years I have been here, I have tried everything!
Several years ago, I was the same way about tv. I would be so sucked into shows, and so excited to see what happened next. Then we got rid of our tv and there was a big period of adjustment, but after a few weeks I didn't really care about what was happening on these shows anymore and was able to focus on other things in the world. The internet is the same way for me, but I can't give it up completely because I am a student and I do find some useful applications online, like my google calendar and bill pay. But I can limit my social sites, and so that is what I am doing.
I don't think I mentioned it yet, but I am actually going to have dh block mdc from all my computers. And I am going to unregister. I am going hardcore. It feels kind of pathetic that I have to go this extreme, but I know myself well enough to know that these are the steps I will need to take. In my 7 years online, I have never found a board as addictive and time consuming as this one, so I think if I make this break I will be okay
I totally get this.

We have a t.v., but mostly I like the Saturday science fiction movies at night, and the weather channel and the news. I watch sporadically.

The computer, however, has been terribly addictive for me. I got on-line in 2000, it took me until 2004 to find MDC...and then my time on-line just MUSHROOMED!!!

I have taken breaks, but I always come back.

I AM thinking about not blogging anymore.

I NEED to clean my house more often and find "other" things to do...

GOOD LUCK!

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My house is a mess, my boys are growing up, I have a ton of shit to do and I can't do it with my nose stuck in the computer. I need to get out and live my life. Invest in my home, family, career, health, and community. It is time.
I am going to leave mdc and start thinking for myself again, instead of filtering news topics and ideas through a message board. This has become a bad habit of mine. I read a news story or watch a movie and then run to the internet to see what others think instead of digesting it for myself!
A lot of this resonates with me.

Best wishes for the rest of your life!
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Aaawwwww boysrus.....

I'm gonna miss seeing you around.


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