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I went for my second u/s today (8 weeks) and they still could not find a baby.  My OB called and said he's also concerned it could be a molar pregnancy so I'm getting another u/s Monday and will be meeting with him then.  

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I'm so sorry.  I had a similar experience last pregnancy.  8 week baby at 10 week ultrasound.  It sucks, but you'll get through it.

 

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I'm sorry. 


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I am so very sorry.

 

 


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I'm praying its not molar. They should have seen something if it was molar though, I went thru a complete molar in 2008, so feel free to message me if you have any questions.((hugs)) mama.


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I'm so sorry. *hugs*


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I am so sorry :(


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Uuuggghh my heart is aching for you right now. I know sorry doesn't cut it, but i hope you find some peace for yourself and family in the weeks to come.

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I am so so sorry to hear that.  My prayers are with you and your family.


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I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you.


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Hugs, mama.  I'll be praying it's not molar.


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(((hugs)))  I'll be praying for you.


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I'm so sorry, callieollie. candle.gifhug.gif Good luck for your appointment on Monday.

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DDCC to say I'm so very sorry. I had a molar pregnancy last year so feel free to PM if you like. If that is what it is (and I hope it's not), it was very frightening to me at first, but my very reassuring and professional doctor helped me process everything quickly and allayed a lot of my fears. In my experience, a lot of the information out there in pregnancy books is out of date or overly simplistic, and made the experience seem a lot more foreboding than it was for me in reality. For instance, a lot of books and websites still say you have to wait a year before trying again, but really the standard for most doctors is now six months, and much research now is saying three months instead of six months, depending on your individual circumstances.

 

At any rate, I hope I'm not jumping the gun by telling you that. I'm so sorry for your loss. :hugs


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Blanca78, not jumping the gun at all. That is one of my biggest fears about it, having to wait even longer to have a baby (we've already been ttc for a year with 2 losses in that time).  I am hoping he's just being extra cautious. It sounds to me from what I've read that it's a blighted ovum but I'm not sure what he is seeing on u/s that is alarming him. I guess I'll find out Monday. But thank you for the reassurance.  

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Yes, I remember when I first read about molar pregnancies that was the most horrible thing about it, thinking we'd have to wait a year, but for me it turned out to be six months from negative hcg levels, and I got to negative pretty quickly. So I was lucky. The other thing that was very scary was hearing the word cancer in connection with my diagnosis--but what I learned from my doctor is a)just because the molar cells are persistent and MAY require chemo, it is NOT cancer (something that commonly seems to be falsely assumed in internet literature)--it is only considered cancer if it metastasizes to other parts of the body, and that is VERY UNCOMMON. Even the chances of requiring chemo are not that high--20% for a complete molar pregnancy, and 5% for a partial molar pregnancy. The chemo does not affect fertility, and is pretty mild compared to what you would get for cancer, with few side effects.

 

At any rate, I certainly wouldn't rule out a blighted ovum. For me, I was diagnosed with the molar at 8 weeks, and it was pretty obvious from the ultrasound that that was what it was--my doctor could tell instantly, even though the growth was quite small in my case. Only pathology reports can tell for sure, but if your doctor isn't sure, that makes me wonder if he is just being cautious. I hope so!

 

Again, I am so sorry for your loss. I remember what a blow it was to not only be told it wasn't a viable pregnancy, but that it was this weird, scary, uncommon thing. You will get through this, no matter what the final diagnosis. If it is a molar, I recommend checking out the molar/partial molar board at babycenter.com. The FAQ alone has a lot of helpful info/research, and the women are very supportive. For what it's worth, it's hard to believe that it's been just 13 months since my diagnosis, and I am six months pregnant with a healthy baby--at the time of the diagnosis, I couldn't wrap my head around the idea that I would EVER be pregnant successfully, but that's how it's worked out, and many many many people go on to conceive healthy pregnancies soon after their molars. The molar was not fun, but now that it's over it seems part of the distant past. I hope the same is very soon true for you.

 

Take care of yourself--I'm thinking of you.

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Blanca78, not jumping the gun at all. That is one of my biggest fears about it, having to wait even longer to have a baby (we've already been ttc for a year with 2 losses in that time).  I am hoping he's just being extra cautious. It sounds to me from what I've read that it's a blighted ovum but I'm not sure what he is seeing on u/s that is alarming him. I guess I'll find out Monday. But thank you for the reassurance.  


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