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#121 of 349 Old 08-24-2011, 05:25 AM
 
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I lost about 35 lbs in the first week and I'm sure most of it was water weight. You can hate me if you want, but I'm pretty sure I weigh at least 100 lbs more than a lot of you did at 9 months pregnant thumb.gif


I have no idea exactly how much I weighed before I got pregnant or what I weigh now, but like you I weigh at least 100 lbs more than most of our DDC.  I'm having a hard time finding pants to wear because my pre-pregnancy pants are too big!!!  That's not something to complain about, really, but I would like to wear more than the one pair of dress pants I kept or the two pairs of velour jammie pants that are really too hot for the summer weather.  My pre-pregnancy jeans are almost falling off of me.  They would fall off if my hips didn't hold them up.  How am I going to go shopping with a newborn, though?  And what if I keep losing weight rapidly?  I almost wish the weight had stayed until she was a bit older. 
 

 


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re - exercise: sigh.  apparently my body is not quite ready to move on to bigger things.  just light cleaning yesterday had my bleeding starting back up.  So, I need to wait a bit longer, maybe another week, before actively walking.

 

That's a good idea about taking the older toddler on the walk.  I hadn't thought of that!  I was actually getting upset thinking about taking Finn on stroller walks w/o Nora, b/c that was OUR thing, mine and Noras, and she's already had to deal with Mommy Being Too Busy with a lot of our old activities.  I just think it would damage her to see me leaving with Finn on a stroller walk and her not going along with.  guilty.gif  But that's the perfect solution!!  Take her and leave Finn with Dad!  Awesome.  Awesome idea. Love it!!

 

The only sign she gives of being annoyed with the baby is when he cries.  She gets frazzled and usually screams or goes, "ARGHHHH!" I try to gently remind her that I'm sorry, babies cry, and he can't talk yet to tell us what he needs.  But I don't need her also screaming b/c Finn is loud enough!  It only takes a minute to XYZ (change diaper, get him on the boob, etc) and she needs to just ignore him.  When he's silent she loves him.  She's started touching him gently and last night he was on my lap, she hopped up and was counting his toes, etc.  And then she goes, "I'm gonna look for toe jam," and starts pulling apart his toes.  OMG it was so cute.  She's like, "Baby doesn't have toe jam, he doesn't walk yet," all matter-of-factly.  Adorable.  

 

TMI - I'm having some itching down below.  It feels yeasty.  Is that possible, or do you guys think it could just be tears healing/internal scuffs healing?  I can't imagine putting ANYTHING inside me right now, it's too soon.  How would one treat for yeast?  Diflucan?  That's safe while bf'ing right?  Hmm.  I might ask my mw if it continues.  


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carrie: did you tear or have any kind of road rash? Even a slight skid mark can cause major itching when it heals.


So my little guy is SO social. He spends a ton of time (for a 5 day old baby!) just staring around. He loves loves to look at faces. Way different than my other three were! I'm thinking he's definitely my little leo baby. joy.gif

Have you guys seen a "personality" yet with your babes? Do you feel like they are who you thought they were in the womb?

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carrie: did you tear or have any kind of road rash? Even a slight skid mark can cause major itching when it heals.


So my little guy is SO social. He spends a ton of time (for a 5 day old baby!) just staring around. He loves loves to look at faces. Way different than my other three were! I'm thinking he's definitely my little leo baby. joy.gif

Have you guys seen a "personality" yet with your babes? Do you feel like they are who you thought they were in the womb?


Yup, I did tear but minimally.  I chose to get sutures b/c otherwise I would have had to stay on complete bedrest w/my legs together for a week.  Uh, not happening!  You know the drill with that.  Ok.  I'm going to get different pads to wear that are a bit more breathable and see if it helps.  Thanks.

 

My little man is EXACTLY who he was inside.  MELLOW!  You said yourself he always looks zen!  Ha!  He's just a really chill little dude.  It's funny, Nora was gestated in a very high stress environment.  My admin job when I had her was NUTS.  I was always stressing and plus I was working full time.  She was as fussy as they come!!  This baby was grown in a spa where I only worked part time.  Ha!  Coincidence? I don't think so!


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Carrie: If you're allowed baths, take one with sea salt. Sea salt makes everything better ;)

I'm not allowed baths yet and that makes life sad.

 

I think I'm also smaller than pre-baby. I certainly look it, but it might be because now my belly is soft like awesome rising bread dough so it sag, instead of firm. Very fun.

 

My stitches are looking irritated. Not sure what I can do about it. Help?


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My kids and how they were inside never seem to match up. DD1 wasn't crazy in the womb and OMG, that child would drive a saint mad. She is 8 now and still can't sit still for 5 minutes, she is on the go nonstop. She'll hike 7 miles up a mountain and then still be bouncing off the walls, I'm already saying her profession will be a professional athlete. I worked 12 hour night shifts with her, I didn't work through my next two pgs. DD2 was average, and she is my highly sensitive child but I think a lot of that has to do with her extensive medical problems as a baby, poor thing never had a chance to develop her own personality. I think a lot of how she is today was created by what happened to her. greensad.gif DS1 was crazy active inside and he was a mellow baby and honestly, he isn't that bad today considering he can barely speak at 2. He tantrums but nothing how most kids would if they could barely communicate, now he is a little escape artist and wanderer though! DS2 was mellow inside and not so much outside. He is crashed out today because he was up all night. I'm guessing since I have to leave for school pick up in 50 minutes that in 45 minutes he will start screaming for the rest of the day. 


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I had one of my great babysitters meet me at the mall ... she was in charge of baby-holding while I tried on clothes (And also objectively, yet kindly, telling me what things really looked like!). A good friend or sister would do the trick too.

 

That way, I didn't have to try clothes on while babywearing, or wrestle a stroller into a change room, and I also didn't have to leave Cate for long with DH, who wouldn't have been able to feed her! (When DS was little, I did shop for pants while he was in a sling, and it is POSSIBLE to try on pants while wearing baby, but not fun!).


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Carrie- On the itching, I didn't have any tearing or skid marks and I seem to remember around 2 weeks going nuts with itchness down there. It only lasted a couple days and then was gone. No idea, I kinda just chalked it up to the delicate tissue going through healing. 


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Yes! She moved aroud soooooo much inside me, pretty much from 19 weeks on it felt like she was constantly stretching and kicking. Now that she's on the outside she's pretty much the same, always moving. Even in her sleep she moves a ton, I fear what she will be like as a toddler, lol. Also she is so much like her dad, very adaptible and easy going. Even when she got her heal pricked, she let out one cry and was calm again instantly.

 

As for the itching and irritated bottom/stiches problems, I took 2 baths with epsom salt a day for the first 2 weeks. The epsom salt really helped with the swelling, and in turn made it less itchy and irritated/painful. Those baths were a lifesaver for me!

 

Becky, I'm sorry you can't take a bath yet! Can you make an epsom salt solution and soak a wash cloth with it, and apply it to the stiches that way? Or do you have to stay totally dry?

 

AFM: Is it normal for a baby to spit up epic amounts sometimes? Eleanor has erupted a few times, like three good heaves worth of spit up that completely cover her whole front and mine. It also comes out her nose when this happens. For the most part this doesn't seem to bother her as long as I haven't eaten anything spicy or had any alcohol (those two things seem to upset her stomach). The first time this happen I freaked because it just kept on coming up, it was kind of scary. This doesn't happen every day, maybe just a few times a week or less.

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AFM: Is it normal for a baby to spit up epic amounts sometimes? Eleanor has erupted a few times, like three good heaves worth of spit up that completely cover her whole front and mine. It also comes out her nose when this happens. For the most part this doesn't seem to bother her as long as I haven't eaten anything spicy or had any alcohol (those two things seem to upset her stomach). The first time this happen I freaked because it just kept on coming up, it was kind of scary. This doesn't happen every day, maybe just a few times a week or less.



Is she a happy spitter?  No arching, crying in pain, etc?  If so, I'd say normal.  Its when the spitting up/puking is combined with lots of screaming that I'd personally worry.

 

 

AFM - took it much easier today, whew.  Chris goes back to work next Wed so I really want to be all healed up by then (as much as I can be, rather).  

 

We had our first "family visit" this afternoon and it went well!  Chris's aunt came by with my MIL and they hung out for a few hours.   Baby slept, ate, opened his eyes, looked cute.  It was nice.  He was quite the good baby.  winky.gif  Then he had a serious boob-a-thon and is now conked out in the swing.

 

Oh -- his cord stump fell off today!  happytears.gif  Time goes by so fast!  Feels like I was JUST complaining about wanting to have him, and already his cord is gone.  Wah.


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Carrie- On the itching, I didn't have any tearing or skid marks and I seem to remember around 2 weeks going nuts with itchness down there. It only lasted a couple days and then was gone. No idea, I kinda just chalked it up to the delicate tissue going through healing. 


Ok thanks for this!  I'm back to rinsing with the peri bottle (which I stopped for a day b/c I thought I was "better" hahaha) and it seems MUCH better now.  I think I'm just really trying to rush this healing process.


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As for the itching and irritated bottom/stiches problems, I took 2 baths with epsom salt a day for the first 2 weeks. The epsom salt really helped with the swelling, and in turn made it less itchy and irritated/painful. Those baths were a lifesaver for me!

 

Becky, I'm sorry you can't take a bath yet! Can you make an epsom salt solution and soak a wash cloth with it, and apply it to the stiches that way? Or do you have to stay totally dry?

 



I don't know! I can shower but don't know about lengthy wettening!


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I had one of my great babysitters meet me at the mall ... she was in charge of baby-holding while I tried on clothes (And also objectively, yet kindly, telling me what things really looked like!). A good friend or sister would do the trick too.

 

That way, I didn't have to try clothes on while babywearing, or wrestle a stroller into a change room, and I also didn't have to leave Cate for long with DH, who wouldn't have been able to feed her! (When DS was little, I did shop for pants while he was in a sling, and it is POSSIBLE to try on pants while wearing baby, but not fun!).


Good idea, thanks!  I'll take Marc as my baby-holder.  Whenever he's with me and offers his opinion I end up with clothes that are pretty and flattering.  If I shop without him I tend to buy plain long sleeved tees and jeans. lol
 

 


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GAAH! My little dude is a freaking barracuda. It's getting hard to get a nice deep latch...he'll arch and start sucking before I even insert my nipple, and OMG he's strong. He actually bruised my thumb from sucking! His upper lip is getting plenty of areola, but the bottom isn't. Any ideas on how to keep him from arching forward and how to get my nip in farther? They're starting to scab, and it needs to stop NOW! He's getting a good enough latch to get plenty of milk, it's just hurting ME!

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GAAH! My little dude is a freaking barracuda. It's getting hard to get a nice deep latch...he'll arch and start sucking before I even insert my nipple, and OMG he's strong. He actually bruised my thumb from sucking! His upper lip is getting plenty of areola, but the bottom isn't. Any ideas on how to keep him from arching forward and how to get my nip in farther? They're starting to scab, and it needs to stop NOW! He's getting a good enough latch to get plenty of milk, it's just hurting ME!


I've been dealing with some similar issues...  DD has such a little bottom lip, coupled with the fact that she doesn't really *need* to do much of anything to get milk.  So her latch just gets laaaazy.  The best thing I've done so far is to just keep unlatching and trying again.  Really tease with the nipple, get her just slightly frantic, and then when I can get a big mouth open I shove the boob in really quickly.  Sometimes she spits it forward and then starts sucking (which is where the pain comes), but sometimes the tease and jab works.  I think the key is the quickness -- as soon as you notice the wide open mouth, shove 'er in.  DH chuckles every time I go to latch, because it's so NOT gentle.  But the shove seems to work for us.  And I always reach down after the latch and give her chin a little tug down, to pull her bottom lip out as much as possible.  Even if it looks well out, I can usually flange it out a little more with a tug.

 

If that's helpful...  I remember DS doing similar things.  There's so much milk that they just don't have to work for it at all shrug.gif, so I'm sure she's just thinking, "why bother?"

 


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I don't own a scale so I have no idea how much weight I've lost, but I seem to be getting smaller and smaller every day, so that's cool.  I still have the love handles I acquired in my 2nd trimester though...that's not so cool.  I had a c-section, so I have no idea when I'll be able to exercise.  For the past couple of days I've felt really exhausted.  I realized I'd forgotten to take my vitamins, so I'm hoping that's it.  I'm getting a decent amount of sleep (thank you, baby!) but I'm still sooooooo tired. 


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so upon investigating further, I am even more confused. His suck is incredibly strong...way stronger than I've ever seen. It LOOKS like he's getting a good mouthful...his chin is way low and touching my breast, etc. He is certainly getting enough milk too. And my nip...it doesn't hurt under it where you'd think it would if he wasn't getting enough areola. It hurts on the SIDES of the nipple...what the heck? The top and bottom don't hurt at all, but the sides do. Any ideas? Going to xpost this in bfing.

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Are his lips out? I had the same problem and my friend saw he was pursing his lips in. I started pulling both top and bottom lip out and it helped relieve some of the pain.
I didn't unlatch and relatch a bad latch, I would just pull out his lips after the latch. I had blood blisters and the latching and relatching hurt too much.
They are healing and his latch is getting better, he's 2.5 weeks now.

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That's awesome to have such a good built in helper.  Fresh air might do wonders for you though.  How's the weather where you live? 

Also, do you have poke root?  It's powerful stuff and should break up those knots and the hot red spots in a day or so.  You can order it online - no need to run out.

 

AFM - Woo hoo, got on the scale this am and 172!!  Down 17 lbs in a week!  Today I'm going to try to tidy up the house (hahhaahahaha) and work on birth announcements.  

 

I weighed Finn yesterday just on the bathroom scale (holding him) and he's up to 8.8.  I want to get him back up to 9 (his birth weight) by Friday.  Ha, just a challenge for myself.  LOL!  

He is one week old today!! joy.gif

 

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Woow...looking good girls...ummm I can't talk I have about 65 pounds to lose and am so depressed about it.  I was about 20 pounds overweight when I got pregnant and add on to that 45 pounds during pregnancy.

 

No babycakes I've never heard of poke root but I will look for it online and keep it handy if I ever get like this again....it was awful...I was finally able to massage out the rest of the knots by having dd breastfeed football style.  The weather here is over 36 C  and will be like this maybe for another two or three months.

 

ds is doing good but these past two days has been breastfeeding like crazy and eventhough he is soo mellow he won't stay down for longer than ten or twenty minutes...lol at this point I feel all babyed out loool.

 

I wanna venture out but I think I'm feeling sorry for myself being this fat and it seems depression is setting in.  I don't wanna admit it but thats whats happening.  It also doesn't help that I have my husband's relatives commenting on how fat I got this time and how am I going to lose all this weight this time.  I told them kindly just how I did it last time.

 

Last time, when I had my dd who is now four I went on Atkins and I was running about 40 kilos a week when she was a year old and in 8 months I got down to a size 6.  But then before I got pregnant with ds, I started eating normal and gained back twenty pounds before I got pregnant.

 

I'm intending on starting some kind of diet but don't know what yet....maybe kinda like Atkins but not so low in carbs since Im not even two weeks pp and I would worry about baby and milk supply.  I think Atkins could effect the milk and anyways Atkins isn't recommended while breastfeeding.


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GAAH! My little dude is a freaking barracuda. It's getting hard to get a nice deep latch...he'll arch and start sucking before I even insert my nipple, and OMG he's strong. He actually bruised my thumb from sucking! His upper lip is getting plenty of areola, but the bottom isn't. Any ideas on how to keep him from arching forward and how to get my nip in farther? They're starting to scab, and it needs to stop NOW! He's getting a good enough latch to get plenty of milk, it's just hurting ME!


THIS!  He gets so frustrated because he arches his back and obviously can't reach the nip that way. Then when he comes in for it, he's only grabs part of it. 


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I've been dealing with some similar issues...  DD has such a little bottom lip, coupled with the fact that she doesn't really *need* to do much of anything to get milk.  So her latch just gets laaaazy.  The best thing I've done so far is to just keep unlatching and trying again.  Really tease with the nipple, get her just slightly frantic, and then when I can get a big mouth open I shove the boob in really quickly.  Sometimes she spits it forward and then starts sucking (which is where the pain comes), but sometimes the tease and jab works.  I think the key is the quickness -- as soon as you notice the wide open mouth, shove 'er in.  DH chuckles every time I go to latch, because it's so NOT gentle.  But the shove seems to work for us.  And I always reach down after the latch and give her chin a little tug down, to pull her bottom lip out as much as possible.  Even if it looks well out, I can usually flange it out a little more with a tug.

 

If that's helpful...  I remember DS doing similar things.  There's so much milk that they just don't have to work for it at all shrug.gif, so I'm sure she's just thinking, "why bother?"

 


I've been unlatching and relatching too, but it's so hard because eventually he gets to upset and frustrated that he falls asleep after only a couple of minutes of nursing. Which means starting the whole thing over again. But I guess it's better to make sure he gets his latch right now instead of creating bad habits. I'll have to try tugging at the lip, I haven't done that yet.

 

Also, anyone having problems with CRAZY STRONG hands in the way? He keeps hitting my nipples (ouch!) and grabbing onto them. His little arms are so strong that it's almost impossible to hold them down without an extra hand or two, and they just get in the way of him latching. After he's on, it's no problem. Anyone have any advice on this? Here's a pic to show off his sumo arms:

 

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THIS!  He gets so frustrated because he arches his back and obviously can't reach the nip that way. Then when he comes in for it, he's only grabs part of it. 



I've been unlatching and relatching too, but it's so hard because eventually he gets to upset and frustrated that he falls asleep after only a couple of minutes of nursing. Which means starting the whole thing over again. But I guess it's better to make sure he gets his latch right now instead of creating bad habits. I'll have to try tugging at the lip, I haven't done that yet.

 

Also, anyone having problems with CRAZY STRONG hands in the way? He keeps hitting my nipples (ouch!) and grabbing onto them. His little arms are so strong that it's almost impossible to hold them down without an extra hand or two, and they just get in the way of him latching. After he's on, it's no problem. Anyone have any advice on this? Here's a pic to show off his sumo arms:

 

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When Charlie gets too handsy, we wrap him tightly in a blanket so that he can't use his arms anymore ;)

Plus, the bottom arm is always pulled under the boob, so he can't use it for much anyway.

 

He really likes to try to nurse with a fist in his mouth. These babies. :P


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I think its hilarious when they root and root for the bewb facing the total wrong way, or their hands, lol!  Haha I agree, a nice tight swaddle always works.  Or one hand behind, one down in front.  Anything to keep them away from your nip and not in the space b/w their face and your boob.  Gotta get as close as possible!!

 

I also do the open-wide-and-shove method.  It works the best.  You have to be quick with these little babies, once they get older and their mouths grow, they stop doing that slurp to get the nip in.  Ouch that slurp is the worst!!


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I have not caught up on the thread yet and I want to comment on everyone's posts, but don't really have time right now. I just have a question. Kendra wont sleep without being swaddled, but during the day it is too hot and she sweats... What are you all doing? I made a couple blankets out of light weight material, but they are both in the wash right now... She has not slept since 8:30 this morning!


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I have not caught up on the thread yet and I want to comment on everyone's posts, but don't really have time right now. I just have a question. Kendra wont sleep without being swaddled, but during the day it is too hot and she sweats... What are you all doing? I made a couple blankets out of light weight material, but they are both in the wash right now... She has not slept since 8:30 this morning!


We swaddle at night only.  Do you have/use a swing?  Finn will totally conk out on the boob, and then I'll put him in the swing.  Usually, after a few minutes (15-20 min) I'll turn it off and he just lays there sleeping.  Though, I have to admit, he is a very chill zen baby.  Nora would only sleep in the swing if it was moving.  :-(  

 


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Thanks for the replies on the manual pump...I got the Medela manual...let's see when it goes caput on me.

 

I want to post so much...but feel exhausted..we got a case of thrush issue :( My right breast is beyond pain.....like I can't describe it. Baby has been super irritated few days...I thought it was due to her passing gas...and not pooping regularly...took her to doc and found out about the yeast infection..so we are on treatment..hope this goes away pronto!!!

 

Carrie and GC, I saw ur pics and u both look awesome!! I didn't even think of checking my weight...but u guys reminded me and thanks to u I checked....and can't beleive it..+/- I lost abt 20 lb!! I only gained 6 lb during pregnancy...(and 5 lb 13 oz of which was the baby)...though I was overweight...and now from pre pregnany to my current weight I'm -30 lb!!! I should have babies more often........LOL I never thought I would see this day...right before pregnancy I was my heaviest! damn....I love this baby....love love love her... LOL

 

Oh, also my baby went from only 5th percentile to 50th percentile in her weight!!! She was a five pounder (full term-39thweek..she stopped growing around 34ish week) and it caused so much drama amonng my doc and hospital....like I can't explain it. The other day, they checked her weight and now in about 3 and half weeks she is 8 lb!! I almost couldn't believe it. I was actually worried and asked doc if that's normal...she has gained 1 lb per week! yawzaa....Doc assured me it's fine...and she is playing catch up! And she showed me the chart that showed she is abt 50 th percentile and not quite yet the average! phew.... Though I am very happy that breast milk alone has gotten her weight up....means I'm good!

 


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so upon investigating further, I am even more confused. His suck is incredibly strong...way stronger than I've ever seen. It LOOKS like he's getting a good mouthful...his chin is way low and touching my breast, etc. He is certainly getting enough milk too. And my nip...it doesn't hurt under it where you'd think it would if he wasn't getting enough areola. It hurts on the SIDES of the nipple...what the heck? The top and bottom don't hurt at all, but the sides do. Any ideas? Going to xpost this in bfing.


 

i was having the same issue and leaning back to slow my flow is what helped, she had a good latch, but was biting down to slow the flow. leaning back made her have to open up and suck instead of being lazy.


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Random O/T TMI sort of question...Is it safe to have an orgasm?  I obviously don't want to have sex or anything but I've got my libido back for the first time in like 6 months, and all this one-sided stuff is driving me a little bonkers.  I'm just wondering.  


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thanks sarah...I think that may be a problem. He is NOT sticking his tongue out enough...silly little tongue sucker! So I have to hold his chin and lower lip down during the whole nursing session to make sure he latches right. Ugh. Have a call into the LC to see if there are solutions for tongue suckers.


Tina: I double up a swaddle blanket and wrap his ELBOWS...not just swaddling. If I pin him tight at the elbows he cant' move. lol

Ped called and wanted a weight check (there was concern on monday) and we went in and he went from 7lbs 8oz on Monday afternoon to 8lbs 2.5oz today!!! WOOT! That means I get to let him sleep when he wants to at night (4hour stretches!)

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Carrie - I would think you'd be fine. You may bleed a little more afterward simply from uterine contractions.

 

At three weeks, Ada has already gained a pound and grown almost two inches. She is getting chunky! My pediatrician said "clearly breastfeeding is going well".  lol.gif


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At three weeks, Ada has already gained a pound and grown almost two inches. She is getting chunky! My pediatrician said "clearly breastfeeding is going well".  lol.gif


I love it!!

 

We went to see our midwife yesterday and of course she weighed DD.  She had dropped down to 8lbs 4ozs from her birthweight (8lbs, 14ozs).  And she weighs 9 lbs now, just 6 days later!!  I was over the moon about it.  12 ounces in 6 days isn't too shabby!  They may be pornographically large, but that made me feel like my boobs have super powers orngbiggrin.gif

 


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