I tandem nursed my two oldest, now 7 and 5. They were 22 months apart and I nursed DS all through that pg'cy. I did night wean but mostly due to exhaustion and the fact that I knew he was ready. I LOVED tandem nursing!!! I think it went a long way in really cementing the relationship between DS1 and DD. They are best friends to this day. I loved being able to still nurse him since he was all about the boob. He lost a lot of my undivided attention after the baby and I felt like nursing was something I could give him that would keep us close and make him feel like part of the process with the baby... not an outsider looking in. To this day he REMEMBERS weaning (he was 2 1/2) and isn't thrilled about it and I'm really glad he doesn't associate that memory with his sister.
Im nursing my 13 month old DS now and I intend to keep going all through this pg'cy too. These guys will also be 22 months apart. My mw is fully supportive and I'm just extra careful to make sure I'm eating well and taking plenty of vitamins. I'm so glad that they'll be able to share that special bond too and that I won't lose our nursing cuddle time when the new baby comes. We have been night weaning but I actually started that before I knew I was pg just because it was getting out of control (every 30 minutes all night long and then non-stop from 4am on) and neither of us were sleeping.
So, yes, I'm powering through and I'm so excited to tandem nurse again!!! :D
I won't be tandem nursing, but not because i don't want to. I have low supply, and we had to supplement dd with donor milk at the breast using a Lact-Aid nursing system until she was one year old and eating more solids. So, not likely that I can continue to nurse her and still have enough for the baby. We'll likely have to supplement again ...
Oh, and a HUGE second to that!! I never had to wait for my milk to come in with DD because it was already there. No engorgement. No sore, cracked nipples after birth. It was awesome!! I was actually dreading the early nursing days when DS2 was born since I wasn't nursing already and I hate feeling engorged and sore! It was so much easier nursing DD after remembering with first few weeks with DS1! None of the usual first week issues at all!
Partly supply concerns (I had to supplement DD) and partly just remembering how exhausting it was to be nursing like 40 minutes on, 20 minutes off pretty much constantly for weeks (and then throw pumping in there, it was awful) and not being able to imagine where or when I would fit the other nursling in.
Me, DH, DD1 (5/2009) and DD2 (10/2011). DS due 6/2015.
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I am not trying to judge but just wondering why many of you are choosing not to do it. It almost sounds to me like the mom that has never nursed that would say oh I will never nurse my baby when they are THAT old. Sometimes that mom ends up nursing a toddler and sometimes not but they pass judgement before they try it. So I am just curious what it is about tandem nursing that seems so unmanageable?
I don't have any problems with tandem nursing... I tend to get "touched-out" easily and if I have a 3yo & a newborn bfing at the same time I honestly don't know how well I will take it. I LOVE breastfeeding, don't get me wrong- I'm just a really private person and I need time alone. That would be really intense for me and a bit of sensory overload. If my daughter does end up tandem bfing with the new baby we'll just have to have rules so that I don't lose it and have a mini breakdown (not trying to be dramatic, I've seriously cried before because I just need to be left alone). So I'm just taking it one day at a time and trying to mentally prepare myself just in case that is what happens.
Amy Lynn, Loving wife and mom to 3 sweethearts. Christopher (8/06), Katherine (10/08), and Matthew (09/11). 2 time VBAC Momma and NCB & BFing advocate.
I will tandem nurse if DS is still going when the babe arrives. I figure we've already made it well past societal norms (he is coming up on 5yo, we nurse at bedtime and first thing in the morning about 75% of the time) so I had might as well not worry about doing something different now.
Nursing an older kid is lovely in the sense that he can be reasoned with. If I say, "My breasts are hurting a little bit, we can't nurse for very long tonight," he is disappointed, but does not get upset the way he would have when he was 2 or 3. So I am willing to keep going through pregnancy if he still wants to. I've been doing "don't offer, sometimes refuse" for a couple of years now! We shall see what happens when the milk changes.
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My dd and I had made a plan to wean once she turned 4. Well, that just happened and she's kept true to her word! I keep asking her if she's sure, if she feels okay about it and she says she is happy to move on. I am a little shocked. I'm glad we made it to 4 years and that I get to experience a pregnancy without nursing since I nursed ds through dd's pregnancy. :)
I'm pretty sure we'll be tandem nursing. I want to pick up Adventures in Tandem Nursing. DD might surprise me by weaning during the pregnancy but I HIGHLY DOUBT IT as she is still very much into nursing. We are in the process of night weaning and nursing less and less out and about and more "once we get home" but she nurses no less then 6 times a day at least. I'm very comfortable with the idea of nursing them both. We'll just see how it goes though.
Sue, Mama to Fiona Aileen (2/1/09) and Maeve Penelope (10/7/11)
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Ok, so I didn't want to tandem bc I had supply issues with DS. I have hormonal probs and had to take fenugreek and pump to stimulate for months and DS didn't gain well from 2-4 mos and 9-12 mos. I'm worried about the same thing happening with the newborn if I tandem.
I wanted DS to nurse til age 2. He'll be just about 2 when the baby comes. He's very attached to the boob, so I don't see him weaning unless my milk dries up during preg. He still nurses 6-7 times a day. I think supply has already dropped, bc he is switching sides really often. He also always plays with the right side while nursing on the left, which I take to mean he's trying to get a better letdown.
I'm attracted to tandeming bc of the benefits for DS nursing longer, the sibling closeness, no sore nips from newborn nursing... but it also sounds really tiring! At this point, I'm feeling like we'll just see what happens. I dont' want to commit to weaning or tandeming I guess. lol.