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#1 of 40 Old 02-28-2011, 04:26 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I kept going back and forth on whether to write this bc I didn't want to upset anyone but I think I just need support. I lost the baby. I went in for my US on Thursday and there wasn't a heartbeat. I went in for my d&c on friday. i am devastated but i think i was more prepared  ( not really but just knew what to expect?) this time around. I want to go crawl in the corner and cry my eyes out but i have two little ones to keep me going :0 ) I just keep saying to myself - we did every precaution how could this happen again? I keep thinking that it really didn't happen- how can this happen to me twice in the past 8 months? I dont know I just want answers and to be pg again and carry to term. It just sucks. I am praying that I am the only one dropping out of the club. I wish you all the best and the pregnancy and birth that you dream of .


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I am so sorry mama. My heart is breaking reading this. Many hugs to you.

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I am so so very sorry for your loss!!!!

You absolutely should share this. Bad things happen and it is your right to share your experience and what has happened (happening to you). Your talking about this does NOT cause this to happen to someone else, just makes them feel less alone if it does happen. I am thinking of you and your lo and praying (as that is what I do) that you can take care of yourself physically and emotionally during this trying time.

I have lost 4 lo. 2 in a row each time and each within a period of 6 months. It is absolutely devistating. Hang in there mama.


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I am so sorry for your loss, MegEliz.  You and your family will be in my prayers.  *hugs*


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I am so sorry for your loss. Please don't feel like you shouldn't share. Good and bad things happen in childbearing, and you deserve support. I am so very sorry that you got the short end of the stick.


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I'm so sorry for your loss. Please don't feel ashamed in sharing it. You will find that many of us share in your pain with our own experience. Hugs to you and your family.

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I'm so sorry. I wish you and your family peace and healing in time.

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((hugs)) I'm so sorry.


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greensad.gif  I'm so very sorry for your loss. I pray you will be able to find some kind of peace with it. Many, many hugs to you. 


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So sorry.  :(


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I'm so sorry and thank you for sharing.

 

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I am so sorry for your loss.  There is no reason not to post here, if anyone doesn't want to read it they can just not open the thread.  Thank you for not pretending that this didn't happen for us -  it really helped me when I had my very early loss last fall to know that many women have miscarriages at all stages of pregnancy and then go on to have babies.  So thank you.  I hope that the near future holds the things that you want.


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I'm so sorry for your loss.  How heartbreaking! 

 

I don't know if it's something you'd be interested in, but I have a friend who started a miscarriage support network.  Basically "doulas" who offer comfort and emotional support for those who have lost their babies.  She herself has been through numerous miscarriages, and there's no easy answer for why, though I can imagine how that question must haunt you when you lose a baby.  If you want to look into that support network, the website is here: http://theamethystnetwork.org/

 

I wish you the best, and hope that you'll find comfort and strength in the coming days and years.  hug.gif


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Thank you for sharing.  Take good care of yourself and the precious children you have at home.  I am so sorry for your loss.


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grouphug.gif I am so sorry for your loss and hurt. There are no right words, just sympathy.


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I'm so sorry to hear that. Losing a baby to miscarriage is devastating. You didn't do anything wrong. I'm glad you came here to share and please don't hesitate to come back for support. I've been through 2 previous m/c's and they were both heartbreaking. You will be in my thoughts and I wish for you to find peace soon.


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Oh Mama, I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.


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I am so so very sorry for your loss!!!!

You absolutely should share this. Bad things happen and it is your right to share your experience and what has happened (happening to you). Your talking about this does NOT cause this to happen to someone else, just makes them feel less alone if it does happen. I am thinking of you and your lo and praying (as that is what I do) that you can take care of yourself physically and emotionally during this trying time.

 
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so very sorry to read this :(

take care of yourself, mama. 

 

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I'm so sorry for your loss. hug2.gif


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I'm so sorry for your loss. I have had friends discover thyroid issues, low progesterone, or Rh factor causes for their miscarriages. Not that any of those are an explanation for you, but it might be some place to start. Be gentle with yourself, mama.


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MegEliz: I'm so sorry for your loss. What a sad disappointment. I hope you have good support around you as you heal. hug.gif

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So very sorry for your loss. I am not sure of words that will comfort, but know that we are all thinking of you and sending you lots of hope and love

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Hugs Momma. So sorry to hear about your loss. You will be in my thoughts.


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My thoughts are with you. (((HUGS)))

Jennifer, mama to two beautiful blessings (ds 3/2000 and dd 9/2002) who are growing and amazing me every day and hoping for another!
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Thank you for sharing your story. I am going through my own possible (likely?) early loss of my own right now and it really helps to hear of others going through the same terrible thing. I wish you peace.
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I'm so sorry. hug2.gif

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

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