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#31 of 83 Old 05-24-2011, 02:55 PM
 
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I'm so sorry for your loss.  (hugs)

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unfortunately that probably won't be the stupidist thing you hear.

I wanted to recommend you looking up a SHARE meeting in your area it is where you can connect with real life families who have experienced pregnancy and infant loss. I have found it a huge support and there are a few twin parents there (some of which have lost only 1 of the 2).

I will add your baby right now. Let me know if you decided on a name and I can change it.


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I hope and pray everything is fine with you. Look at it this way, the fact that it happened to me makes it much less likely statistically that it would happen to you too!

 

I had the most horrible phone call this morning from an older lady who's been like a grandma to our family. When I told her what happened, she said she wasn't very surprised because it's so common. Then she added, "And you're so tiny!" Great. So it's my fault?!?! My body was incompetent to grow 2 babies at once so I killed one of my babies by not being big enough? Thanks a lot!!! Then, as if that wasn't already enough, she attempted to continue in her "comforting" of my by saying, "At least you still have one." Oh, yes. I still have one live baby so I have nothing to grieve about, right? So if you lost a leg I could say, "Well at least you still have one!" Ugh.

 

Sorry for the sarcastic vent! I've gotten more support from you guys than I have from anybody in real life! I'm so grateful for your outpouring of support. I know we'll get through this eventually.

 


Lots & lots of {{{HUGS}}}!! I am so sorry you had to listen to that garbage. She was very rude and way out of line! It's not your fault, you did nothing wrong hug.gif . I hope you can find support IRL to help you through this.

I'm doing fine, I had an appointment yesterday, everything is OK.

We're here for you if you have to cry, vent, or just need some virtual hug.gif's .

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((HUGS)). I am so sorry for your loss and the unkind words you were told :( It makes me cry just thinking about it..I can't imagine how you must feel. My prayers are with your family.candle.gif


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So very sorry for your loss, mama :-(


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Oh no.....I just read this, and my heart is breaking for you!!!!  I am so, so sorry!!  You will be in my thoughts and prayers.....


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OMG, I'm so so sorry to hear your baby died. candle.gif Twin or not, it was a new life inside of you. If you find you are really struggling, some homeopathic Ignatia would help as well as Bach Rescue Remedy. Sending you love and comfort. 


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Thank you for the homeopathic suggestions. I may try them. The grief comes in waves. So far only our family and close friends know, but we live in a small community and DH is youth pastor at our church so somehow we have to get the word out to people...not sure the best way of doing that. I can't stand the thought of facing mass condolences at this point!

 

At my cardiologist appointment today the nurse was flabbergastingly (I know, not a real word!) insensitive when I told her I had just lost a twin. She immediately launched into a story of her niece who had 3 stillborn babies between 7 and 9 months, and then proceeded to tell me that the dr. thought her last pregnancy was twins. She said when he told her, she just looked at him and asked him which one he wanted because there was no way she wanted 2 babies! Wow. WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?!?! Did it even register with her that I just lost a twin, both of whom I loved and dearly wanted? I must have a magnet that attracts appallingly insensitive people lol!

 

Anyway, so far the remaining twin is fine. We see the perinatologist tomorrow for a more detailed scan and possible more definitive answers on what possibly happened and what to expect next.


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In the middle of our adoption journey and are excitedly waiting to get matched with a birth mom

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Thinking of you!  hug2.gif


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We lost our baby girl today. The placenta of the deceased twin separated and caused my body to miscarry both babies.


Married to my wonderful DH; Mama to DS born 6-07 and 4 in heaven brokenheart.gif1-06 (7 weeks) brokenheart.gif1-10 (6 weeks) and our twins 5-11, brokenheart.gifone sweet boy (17 weeks) and brokenheart.gifone precious baby girl (18 1/2 weeks).

In the middle of our adoption journey and are excitedly waiting to get matched with a birth mom

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I am so sorry.  Love and comfort to you and your family and your sweet little babies.


heartbeat.gif  Baby girl arrived 10/11/11 heartbeat.gif

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Oh, no. I am so incredibly sorry for your losses. There are no words. candle.gif candle.gif


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So sorry momma! Lots of love to you and your family in this time.

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My heart is breaking for you. I am so sorry. 

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I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet babies.


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bawling.gif Oh no, I am so, so sorry greensad.gif . Lots & lots of hugs and love to you.

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I am so, so, so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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Oh no! I'm so very sorry, mama.

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Oh god, I am so sorry candle.gif candle.gif


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I am so sorry for the loss of both of your babies. gloomy.gif


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Oh mama. I am so so sorry. candle.gif candle.gif


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Oh no... I am so, so sorry. guilty.gif  I will continue to keep you in my prayers. Many hugs to you. grouphug.gif


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Oh no.  Mama I am so sorry for your losses.  I will be thinking of you.

 

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I'm so sorry.  So sorry.  There is nothing more I can say. 


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I'm so, so sorry for your devastating loss :( :hug


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Oh no. greensad.gif So sorry for your losses. candle.gifcandle.gif
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So sorry....


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