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#31 of 57 Old 07-27-2011, 11:03 AM
 
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QOTD #2:  At this point in my pregnancy with dd, I got super annoyed and grossed out by my (normally beloved and adored) cat and dog.  I start to look at them and think how dirty they are, and how much time and energy they take (they don't), and how I wish we'd never brought them home in the first place (What?  I LOVE them!).  I'm perplexed by this, because outside of about a five week period starting about a week ago in both pregnancies, I love our cat and dog immensely!   So I get snippy towards them.  And I have to watch my tone in general, with pretty much everybody.  Especially random strangers who annoy me or do something that I think needs some commentary.  And I'm more bitchy to DP, who is friggin' tireless saint who doesn't have a foul bone in her body and puts up with my moods as beautifully as if we were dancing.  So why am I being snippy?  Meh, dunno.  Hormones are no excuse, but are likely the culprit. 

 


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Thanks for all your lovely enabling responses regarding baby sweaters.   HA jacket has been ordered.   smile.gif

 

I love cheap used baby things.

 

QOTD #1:  I don't have a playlist yet, but I think it will resemble my normal work selections:  Leonard Cohen, Daft Punk, Animal Collective, Broken Bells, etc - I think it will be good for me to listen to albums I really know well, and ones I find relaxing/invigorating.  I definitely see myself wearing earbuds and focusing on music and blocking out other things while I'm in L&D.  I will ask to not be interrupted or talked to too much.  

 

 


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QOTD2- YES! So grumpy! I am getting so tired of the folks that are working for me- just the little lame excuses and feeling a little lack of respect lately. I finally snapped today and said that I was tired of feeling constantly questioned and like my decisions are not respected. I really didn't want to say things at the time, but someone was questioning literally everything I said. I think it made the person realize how their behavior was inappropriate, and I later apologized and we talked it out. I was horrified because my fuse is shorter than normal and I didn't plan out what I was going to say, but I guess it worked out. I wasn't the raving lunatic that I WANTED to be- I at least was keeping my cool as I expressed frustrations, so I guess it's OK... right? 

 

Part of my frustrations also stem from the wicked nausea that has returned complete with puking. UGH! 

 

You all are reminding me that I have to start thinking about that whole labor thing... yikes! I had been holding back since 50% of twins are delivered by c-section, but it's looking like I'll have head down babies if they stay how they are! So- I need to prepare.

As for all the visitors during birth- as a newbie I don't know what I'll want, but the thought of my mother being there is terrifying. I definitely feel like she'd be a hindrance to the process... I can imagine her talking about her 'easy' medication-free birth as I struggled along... oy. I love my Mom and we get along fine, but I definitely don't have that kind of relationship with her.

 

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QOTD2: I am Queen Bitchy of Grumpville. I am tired and just want to go live in a cave somewhere with no one bugging me. Work annoys me, chores annoy me, and this whole house-buying thing seems more of an inconvenience than a relief.

Oh, and speaking of, my landlord lives out of state and comes up to (illegally) hunt this time of year. We had a knock on our door at 6:25 this morning!!!!! It's him going, "What's for breakfast? Hahaha heard you guys moving around in here. Hey (DH), I need you this afternoon for a project I'm working on blah blah blah." I almost went through the roof. He's lucky I was still getting dressed upstairs or it would have been ugly.

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Thanks for all y'all.  It's very nice to have one place to go where I'm not the crazy one, the slacker one, the mean one, the crying one, or the pregnant one.    I have been totally emotionally unstable lately, and trying to keep it under control (or at least vaguely reasonable) means enormous stress for me and very out-of-nowhere interactions with those around me that confuse the hell out of them.   Except for DH, he's getting the most unadulterated version of me, and I know I'll hear about it someday, but for now he's been very good about it all. 

 

Mostly I'm cranky about work-- I feel like I'm being treated like I'm preparing for a 3 month vacation, so I should "pre" do all my work in addition to doing 50% more than my fair share now and I should be happy about it, yet I'm still being treated like a slacker for taking that time.   Someone actually asked today if I was going to take ANY TIME.  Really?  Seriously?  Can you imagine a world in which a woman pushes a child out of her body and is back the next day?  Ok, yes, that has happened, but that just shows the strength and fortitude of that woman and the ridiculousness of the world we live in, it does not give you, Miss, permission to ask if I'm "taking time" like that's a Problem for you.  And now I've got clients asking for written transition plans, and questioning the capacity of the person who will be covering for me while I'm gone.... and that person chooses not to attend meetings with the client, help me prepare for meetings, or generally learn anything about what he'll be doing while I'm gone.  (By the way, even if I wasn't going on maternity leave, it is his job to do all of those things.   He is just consistently busy with other things and therefore, is unavailable, so I do, as always, all the work.) So as annoyed as I am at the client, I see where they are coming from, since I can't actually be sure that my co-worker WILL know what he's doing.   I also know that my boss, as a practice, gives us way more work than we can handle (see the top of this paragraph) and he probably actually doesn't have time to do any of this work.   

 

I'm just so sad that they don't like me enough to help me, and I'm so angry that they think that my work is so worthless this everything will just happen by magic when I'm gone, and I'm so annoyed that when it doesn't happen by magic I will be blamed for poor training, terrible organization, or bad transition planning, even though I'm trying so FREAKING HARD.   That sentence is super pathetic, but that is the truest reflection of my feelings I can come up with. 

 

Also, midwives said no more lemonade (add it to the list-- no alcohol, no caffeine, no soda, no sweetened drinks of any kind- real sugar or fake) which was my "treat" to get me through and my husband has taken to hogging the bed so that even when my back pain and bladder aren't waking me up, I'm waking up because I'm falling off the bed. 

 

Yes, its the Pout>Sad>Tears>Anger>Guilt>Tears>Pout cycle, folks, and God willing it will be over soon. 

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So glad I am not the only cranky one. Misery loves company. smile.gif

 

puente, big hugs to you. That sounds like such a frustrating work situation. Can you have sugar-free lemonade?

 

I am traveling (again! third trip out of country this month!) and it is exhausting.

 

I had the first of many size u/s and BPP this morning. The BPP was perfect. Size estimate was 80th %tile, which makes me slightly nervous, but we'll see what the next one shows. The error range is pretty wide, but multiple measurements can give a decent picture. DS tracked 70th-90th all the way along, too, and was born at 9 lbs 5 oz, and my glycemic control was fabulous with him and has been even better this time, so I may just make big babies. The specialist said he doesn't worry at all until the estimates start to tip over 10-11 lbs and was very encouraging about VBAC.


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I had the first of many size u/s and BPP this morning. The BPP was perfect. Size estimate was 80th %tile, which makes me slightly nervous, but we'll see what the next one shows. The error range is pretty wide, but multiple measurements can give a decent picture. DS tracked 70th-90th all the way along, too, and was born at 9 lbs 5 oz, and my glycemic control was fabulous with him and has been even better this time, so I may just make big babies. The specialist said he doesn't worry at all until the estimates start to tip over 10-11 lbs and was very encouraging about VBAC.

 

Great news, ~pi!  That's fabulous!!

 

Sorry about the travel-- I had a lot in the past month too (although all in the country) and it's super exhausting.  I found I was useless for a few days after each trip and kept thinking that "today I'll be back to normal".   I hope you have some nice lulls between trips if you have to do so many!

 


 

 

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Wonderful news pi!

 

puente - That sounds so frustrating! For what it is worth my employer wasn't interested in talking about leave plans until a month out last time. Almost as if they just didn't believe or want to deal with it. I expect the same thing this time.


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This is a silly questions but I'm wondering.  I know, and it's obvious, if the baby moves significantly less one day than s/he does most days, that could be a problem and one should watch for that. 

 

Could there be a problem if a kid moves Way Hella More than s/he normally does? 

 

(No caffeine, adrenaline, or crack (that's a joke, to be clear) is involved.  I'm normal and I'm eating exactly like I always do.  She's break dancing and has been for hours.)

 

I assume its ok but just wondered...

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Puente, I think your baby just wants some lemonade. And, she wants her dad to stop hogging the bed (what size? we waited too long to get a queen, DH is too tall for a double so he really can't help being a bed hog in a double... his feet are, quite literally, hanging off the end!).

 

I cant' have sugar, juice, etc either. My favorite drink in summer is to have some seltzer with a tiny SPLASH of juice. Have found that 100% cranberry and 100% black currant juice are DELISH. very tart. And they are 100% not appealing to juice-drinkers straight up, way too sour. I do drink caffeine though (I did with both previous pregnancies and just can't stop now!)

 

Pi, I make big babies and assume this one will be too. I was tracking blood sugar very closely with number 2, it was excellent, like 100% normal, and I only gained 17lbs (have gained more than that already this time!), and she was 9lbs. She was born with 3 pushes. I swear. Crowning, head, body. That was it. And no tearing. And a really good, quick recovery for me. I think OBs and other scare-mongers make too much of it. Some babies are big. And those size measurements, as you are well aware, can be off by such a huge margin. (I realize that is not how it is for everyone, but heck, some people have really long crazy hard labors with 6 or 7lbs babies. I am convinced that fetal positioning has as much to do with it as size).


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Had my Glucose Screening (1 hour) test today.  Mmm...16 oz. of OJ (had to take some Tums a few hours later because of heartburn).  When I did my urine test it wasn't negative like usual.  It was at least 100 (mg?) but less than 200.  The midwife didn't actually ask me about my results...don't know if she just forgot or what (she was having a hectic day).  I'm assuming it's normal to have sugar spill 45 minutes after drinking all that OJ....I just hope I passed the test.

 

Here's a baby name question (lord, this name stuff is driving us bonkers!)...

I think I'm just gonna decide that I'll openly discuss baby names here even though we're keeping it all the down-low IRL.

 

So, our son's name is Aydin (no, we had absolutely no idea back in 2008 that Aiden/Braden/Jayden/etc. was so popular...honest.  I only knew of two Aiden's IRL; one was a little kid and the other was a teenager).  We're trying to figure out a girl first name.  We were into Sadie for a short while until I decided it just sounded way too similar to Aydin (with the /ade/ sound and being two syllables).  So Sadie was out.  Then we just couldn't find a name we were both into.  Then, a few days ago, we both got into Annika.  I went to bed feeling relieved that here was a name we both actually like, that sounded good with the planned middle and last name, etc.  Then, in the middle of the night, it occurred to me that maybe Annika is too much like my name - Jessica.  Most of my family and friends call me Jess, but I always introduce myself as Jessica.  Interesting that I'm being drawn to names that are similar somehow to names that already exist in our family.  Anyway, what do y'all think?  Is it weird to have a Jessica and an Annika in the same family?  I have a friend named Cecilia whose daughter are Mia and Sophia.  So they all end with /ia/ and it never struck me as odd or anything.  I really just want to get settled on these names!

 

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This is a silly questions but I'm wondering.  I know, and it's obvious, if the baby moves significantly less one day than s/he does most days, that could be a problem and one should watch for that. 

 

Could there be a problem if a kid moves Way Hella More than s/he normally does? 

I have no scientific kind of response, but the I can tell you the same thing happens to me. I'll have a day now and then when I feel very little movement, and other days when kiddo just won't stop bouncing around. I'm also assuming it's normal....
 

 

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not_telling, I'd go for it, personally. They aren't similar enough to matter (not that it matters at all, since lots of people give their children their exact names.) I like Annika.

 

In other news, I'm a mess today. Our Dr. office changed record systems and misplaced a bunch of DS's vax records (we delayed vax). I didn't know they'd misplaced anything until I asked for a printout of them for our preschool application, and discovered some missing ones, and one (varicella or chicken pox) that was on there that confused me...since he'd HAD the chix virus (our souvenir from our last trip to Italy, where all our friends' kids had it.) I asked the office to go through the records and varify that he'd had the Polio at least once and the influenza and Hep B. Well. No polio (a note that he should have it at next visit, but they didn't give it to him), just one hep b (also noted to give, but not given), three influenza completely undocumented, and a note that he'd had the varicella vaccine in 2009, not the shot. But then they went ahead and also gave him the shot in May (when I sent DS with DH who just didn't pay attention) because their records had not record of anything. I was SO upset, because now DS may not be able to go to preschool. Did the nurse apologize for their errors? Er, no, she blamed me for delaying his vax. ??? I started when he was 18 months, and they were told every visit that I wanted him caught up for preschool. I started crying very hard when I hung up, and how DH and DS are at the office getting one polio, because I did not want to go into that office and risk losing it in a very ugly way. greensad.gif


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TMI question for today.... is it normal to have "chunks" of discharge down there? This morning there have been a few "chunks" of something coming out down there (the biggest was about the size of a dime, the other few were about half that size). WTH is that?! I don't remember it happening with ds. blush.gif


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Chunks makes me think solids. I've been having huge globs/wads (more liquidy) for weeks. The first time it happened, I flew into a panic and went to see the nurse at the birth center who said everything was fine. Or, as my midwife so grossly put it, "we're just juicier when we're pregnant." if it is hard solid chunks though, I don't know if that's normal or not...

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Steph ... Is there an odour?  What colour are they?  My first thoughts go to a yeast infection.  Any history with those?


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i second yeast....i had itif for hte first time ever this time..no odour or itching...it was the only symptom...nurse sent off a sample and it came back yeast...


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Hugs, Rosemary. I remember when we needed DS' vax records for something once (daycare, I think?) and I had stupidly not realized that they were so important to keep to hand. (I am really horrible with paperwork.) We tore the house apart and never did find them, so had to get a whole new set written up. We vax fully and on schedule, and the records were all there, so we at least didn't have to deal with replacement shots, but it was stressful and annoying. So sorry you are dealing with all that!

 

Steph, my first thought was yeast, too. Might not be that, but it's a common thing, especially in pregnancy.

 

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Rosemary-- So crappy!  I'm really sorry about their total lameness and hope you feel better soon.  Really good call on sending your husband-- the stress of going isn't worth it right now.  Wishing you a restful weekend. 

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Thank you. The doctor's office claims that he should be able to go to preschool since he's "on a schedule" and "has started everything necessary." Preschool director on vacation until next week, so I won't know anything for sure until then, but it seems like it might work out. Thank you for the support.

 

That's great news, Pi. I'm doing a little dance for you!


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^ Swimming is great! I loved floating in my sister's pool and feeling the weightlessness. I just hung over the side of an inflateable ring and idly paddled around the pool. Made it out once to the swimming hole here. I think I scared some teenage girls with my belly, though, but I have since procured a tankini top from Target, so I'm all set to go once again.

 

I don't think Jessica and Annika are too alike. I like the idea of family names.

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Argh!!  New wrinkle in our ongoing Name Game.  So, we were pretty settled on a boy's first name.  Then, last night my parents and DH's parents were over for dinner, and just for fun I suggested we go around the table and they each suggest a boy name and a girl name.  It quickly became all four of them just throwing tons of names into the ring.  My dad and DH's mom were going through the address books on their phones reading off names, they were all recalling names of people they'd grown up with, etc.  And then...DH's mom started trying to recall the names of her nephew's two kids (these would be DH's first cousin's kids)...and turns out that they named their new baby the same name DH and I were thinking of for a boy.  DH wasn't in the room, but I told him about it later and he said his heart just stopped.  He's not close to this cousin...hasn't seen him in at least 8 years...and isn't even in contact with this cousin's father (his mom's brother) - they live nowhere near us.  But DH's parents do maintain sporadic (a few times a year?) contact with the cousin.  Now DH isn't sure we can use the name.

 

I understand where he's coming from, but I feel like, even though this person is technically a first cousin, he's really like a distant cousin and so it shouldn't matter what he named his kids.  And I REALLY don't want to have to start choosing a boy first name again...we're still trying to figure out the middle name.


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not-telling: the naming politics get so complicated sometimes!

 

afm: I've been away for a week at camp with ds. We had a reallllly good week but I must admit it was exhausting! I'm definitely feeling bigger & more awkward than I remember ever feeling with ds. I just feel so cumbersome & find even walking is getting to be uncomfortable. I can't believe there is still 10 weeks to go!

 

I'm pretty sure she flipped this week. I am feeling a lot more of the movement higher up & haven't been hit in the cervix for several days now! Unfortunately this means she is now pushing on my diaphragm at times & that is never comfortable. The other morning I woke up at 5 having trouble breathing - at first I thought I was having a weird asthma attack & then I realized it was the pressure on my diaphragm causing me the discomfort. I am very happy she is head down though. Dh even noticed right away that my belly looks different than last week.

 

I finally saw the endo this past week & he has started me on insulin before bed. Totally disappointing but in some ways easier as it brought my fasting numbers right down.


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not telling, that's very frustrating, but you're right that it doesn't have to be a deal-breaker.

 

I am planning a two-night getaway by myself for 2 weeks from now. I'm looking into a bed and breakfast or similar experience either in/near Portland, ME or somewhere on the Cape. But I am running into the problem of that week being the week that everyone else wants to be in those locations. So lodging is proving annoying to locate ( and it is at a premium.) Anyway, I'm looking forward to it, as it will be during my MIL's visit--and I'm really all caught up with her for now! I'll still be here for 4 days of her stay, but at least not the whole time. It is the first time I'll have been away from DS this long, also.


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not telling, that's very frustrating, but you're right that it doesn't have to be a deal-breaker.

 

I am planning a two-night getaway by myself for 2 weeks from now. I'm looking into a bed and breakfast or similar experience either in/near Portland, ME or somewhere on the Cape. But I am running into the problem of that week being the week that everyone else wants to be in those locations. So lodging is proving annoying to locate ( and it is at a premium.) Anyway, I'm looking forward to it, as it will be during my MIL's visit--and I'm really all caught up with her for now! I'll still be here for 4 days of her stay, but at least not the whole time. It is the first time I'll have been away from DS this long, also.


Well, the timing wouldn't be good if you're attempting to get a MIL-break, but we loved being in Maine last September (mid-month).  Easy to find lodging, get a table at restaurants, etc.  Not at all desolate...just not "summer-busy."  We stayed in Boothbay Harbor (if you haven't been to the Botanical Gardens there I highly recommend it...a great place to spend a few hours alone or with your family).
 

 


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My MIL misspelled my name on the baby shower invitation. Sigh. It's a foreign name, but it's only 5 letters with my last name included (Quinn is my American name).

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