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#31 of 38 Old 09-29-2011, 09:34 AM - Thread Starter
 
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The OB made an appointment for the first NST for tomorrow morning at 10 am at the local hospital, without consulting with me of course, and as it turns out, the hospital is dealing with a C Difficile outbreak and kids under 13 are not allowed up on the L&D floor. Since I have no one to take care of my 3 year old, I called to cancel and reschedule for next week. You'd think I was trying to get out of a meeting with my parole officer. They refused to just cancel and reschedule, having it done after hours when DH is home is not possible, and then they told me to talk to my doctor about it. At that point I was about to start crying, I said:"I cannot talk to that man! Just cancel the appointment, I don't want to reschedule, I will figure something out and call back next week." 

I am seriously so sick of this healthcare crap. I have my next OB appointment on Monday, when DH has the day off, and if I get anymore lip from that stupid doctor, I am going AWOL. I will show up at the hospital when I am in active labor, and they can all kiss my ass.

I think I'll go and cry for a bit now. Thanks for following the drama, you guys. I'm sorry, I know it must be getting really old. 


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gah they sound like jerks. how can they make an appointment without consulting you or giving you a choice of times? Personally I would jot down (in writing) how inflexible they've been about all of this... just simple statements (dates, people you talked to, your efforts to reschedule and their unwillingness to accommodate your needs for travel and childcare).

 

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is midwifery care an option for you? I know it is late in the game but there are mw's where I live that will take you on at last min. for a real discounted rate. You might even find one that is willing to barter or take payments or sliding scale or something.

I am just worried that this is not looking good as far as how you will be treated while in labor and birthing. They already want to be in charge and bossing you around and can't imagine that you can trust your body.

I will be praying for you (hey maybe it will be an all new dr when you show up in labor). This sounds like such a difficult and frustrating situation. you are so close, I would decide what it is that you and your dh want for the remainder of this pg and the birth and then stick to your guns.

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That is so sweet of you, Nicole. You're right, what this means for my laboring and delivery has been on my mind all day yesterday and today, and I think it's the main reason I'm so upset. I feel like they are not listening to me, they are not hearing me. I have asked for clarification several times, but I don't get an answer. My doctor doesn't suggest, doesn't discuss, but announces. This is what you are going to do. It makes me that much more angry because this is my third child, I am not an idiot, I actually have done this before and I know what to expect. irked.gif

I hit 40 weeks on Saturday, and all day today I have been feeling a bit off. Restless, quick to yell and cry, slightly nauseated at times, crampy, with pretty uncomfortable Braxton-Hicks. For some reason (and I may be way off) I feel like labor is not that far off. If that's the case, I will be in the hospital over the weekend, and this particular doctor will hopefully not be on call.

I need to make sure that DH is on board as far as refusing unnecessary interventions is concerned, but he really seems to be so far. When I told him the doctor had "threatened" induction, his first reaction was:"Oh hell no. Not until you are actually at least a week overdue, and only if there is an indication that the baby is not doing well." He's extremely annoyed by the whole process, thinks they are making things way more complicated and scary than they need to be, and I feel like he will be a good advocate for me.

Thanks for caring, you guys, I have been feeling incredibly alone today and your reactions really make me feel better. 


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Hugs, Irishug2.gif.I haven't had any advice for you or anything, but I have been reading along (in horror at the way you've been treated) and hoping that you would start to get some clarification and answers...instead it seems like they are just being more and more unaccomodating and authoritarian. I'm really glad to hear that your DH is supportive and will be a good advocate for you...I hope for your sake that labor isn't far off and that rotten OB won't be on call!


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so glad to hear that your DH gets it. You need some backup. (and, I am *really* hoping you go into labor when bossy doc is not on call!!)


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Iris- So glad you took that as supportive, that was my intent. After I posted i read it and was a little worried you might think I was judgemental or bossy. If you re-read this whole thread there are just a bunch of red flags in regards to your ob's bossyness and I am worried about you. Hang in there and know that prayers have been lifted up and you and baby are in my thoughts as well.


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No, that's the thing. I was never diagnosed with GD. One of my levels at the 2 hour test was wonky (the 2 our one, actually, the first two were on the low side), so I was diagnosed with being glucose tolerance impaired. Then at my next appointment I was sent for a random glucose draw and an A1C, and both came back completely normal. I never even saw a dietitian, was just told to not eat cake, ice cream and cookies. Weight gain, fundal height and fetal growth have all been exactly on par with my dates. 


Ah, I'm sorry, I misremembered then. Well, in that case, it definitely sounds like your OB's risk attitudes are incompatible with yours. That sucks, and I'm sorry. I'm glad you and your DH are on the same page and I hope you have good luck with the on-call doc when you go into labour.


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