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#1 of 21 Old 11-02-2011, 07:33 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm from the september DDC, and while we were trying to survive the first month with our little ones someone from the august DDC posted a thread letting us know it gets easier (especially helpful for us first timers). I wanted to pass on the love and encouragement! Congratulations on the births of your babies, and remember...it ALL gets easier, even the breastfeeding!!

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This is very nice, thank you!  Julia is three weeks old and it's already getting easier... I think.  


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Touche! Kai is 8 weeks old and I still occasionally wonder when his mom is coming to pick him up...
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When, exactly, does it get easier? orngtongue.gif

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I'm from the september DDC, and while we were trying to survive the first month with our little ones someone from the august DDC posted a thread letting us know it gets easier (especially helpful for us first timers). I wanted to pass on the love and encouragement! Congratulations on the births of your babies, and remember...it ALL gets easier, even the breastfeeding!!
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MN BabyDust...I think the key is it gets easier, not easy (until they turn 30 maybe? Unless of course they still live with us at that point!)

In all honesty, it got easier for me around week 7, although I had some serious bf issues. baby boot camp does end!!

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I'm starting to believe you. My DD is almost 4 weeks now, and she is a little bit easier than even  a week ago.

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I have a 4 year old and I think you're lying. nut.gif

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Again...not EASY, easiER


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I have a 4 year old and I think you're lying. nut.gif



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In all seriousness, thanks, Mama2ChicknLil. It's very sweet of you to do this.

 

The way I've always thought about it is that it gets less immediate. Babies' needs are so intense and immediate. But at least they are simple. Feed, comfort, change, burp. Those can be overwhelming and demanding, but they are at least simpler than, for example, figuring out how to deal with the fact that your kid has decided he doesn't want to learn anything more, because he has it in his head that once you learn everything, then you die, and he doesn't want to die. dizzy.gif


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It gets easier by the third ;)

 

 


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It gets easier by the third ;)

 

 



Now THIS rings with truth for me. :D

 

And, I agree, that it was very sweet of you to post this. I remember how different and challenging it was with my first.


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I had an angel baby for the first 2.5 weeks, and now I have a wee hell-beastie.  I hate being an ftm.  I'm used to being good at my job, and I suck at this one. Never know the right thing to do.  I'm jealous of dh bc he gets to go to work every day and get a break from the screaming meemie.  I will look forward to week 7...


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I had an angel baby for the first 2.5 weeks, and now I have a wee hell-beastie.  I hate being an ftm.  I'm used to being good at my job, and I suck at this one. Never know the right thing to do.  I'm jealous of dh bc he gets to go to work every day and get a break from the screaming meemie.  I will look forward to week 7...



I forgot how challenging it was with the first one...

second is tough too...

 

6 wks is def a turning point -

 

with the second it actually gets harder when they are awake for longer periods

 


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You mamas who have done this more than once are my heros!!! I honestly could not imagine having to take care of this babe and an older child...I would completely lose it. ~ pi, you are totally right, easy/easier is the wrong way to look at it, the immediacy and guessing work is the hard part. I'm just now figuring out what all of DS's various cries and movements mean...and I'm still usually wrong!!! Good luck mamas!! If I could keep my son alive this long there is hope for ask:)

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I forgot how challenging it was with the first one...

second is tough too...

 

6 wks is def a turning point -

 

with the second it actually gets harder when they are awake for longer periods

 

I guiltily felt this way with my first, also. He smiled at me at 1 month and I cried like Sally Field at the Oscars, "You like me, you really like me!" I could not wait for him to be 6 weeks old because it was awful. Enjoying this time before dd is 2 weeks old, dreading the crazy that might ensue.
 

 


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You mamas who have done this more than once are my heros!!! I honestly could not imagine having to take care of this babe and an older child...I would completely lose it. ~ pi, you are totally right, easy/easier is the wrong way to look at it, the immediacy and guessing work is the hard part. I'm just now figuring out what all of DS's various cries and movements mean...and I'm still usually wrong!!! Good luck mamas!! If I could keep my son alive this long there is hope for ask:)



I am on my third kiddo and I actually never "got" different cries - If the mouth opened I just stuck a boob in it!!!!!

 

I am using the same strategy on this kiddo ...lol

 


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 If the mouth opened I just stuck a boob in it!!!!!

 

I am using the same strategy on this kiddo ...lol

 



 

 

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Baby was fine with the boob-for-every-cry thing until about 5 weeks, then he would just scream louder if I tried it and that wasnt what he needed...demanding little bugger! But I literally could not remember to burp him or change him regularly, I needed people to remind me! Now at least I can tell when he's got a burp or gas, and I can proudly say he gets changed a lot smile.gif

It's neat, now I can tell when he needs to nurse for comfort vs. hunger, that totally had me stumped!

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I think what has made this challenging for me, aside from the fact that its my first, is that Jasper was in the NICU for almost 3 weeks so we did not get to spend a lot of time together getting to know each other.

 

He has been home for 11 days now (and is a month and a day old) and things are getting a bit easier, he sleeps longer at night and Im starting to learn his cries.

 

 

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