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Old 11-11-2011, 06:44 PM
 
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So much going on.

 

Katico - so glad your dh recognizes how awesome you are. I must admit I am nervous to leave dh with both littles - I know he would struggle with it. For your migraine - have you tried alleve? It's something I save for only the worst of the worst but it really works for me when nothing else will.

 

mainebirdgirl - we just had a monster cold go through this house (actually dh is STILL struggling with it) & dd was barely affected. I found the same thing with ds. Bfing really does seem to help them.

 

saoirse - I am totally impressed with you doing a back carry. I would LOVE to get dd on my back 'cause quite frankly I find it so awkward to actually do anything with her on my front. What kind of wrap is that?

 

rosemary - I'm so glad everyone is ok. That must have been scary. Do you need to replace your carseat?

 

not_telling - the letdown sure can be weird. Some of the strangest things will set me off sometimes but it also kind of handy. When I would pump for ds all I had to do was look at him or even think about him & WOOSH!

 

leiahs - oh my - 4 kids out of the house on time! I bow to you!!! Amazing.

 

afm - I still very much want more babies but I am making major notes to myself that next time we most definitely need to be more organized with a little support in the first few weeks 'cause this has just not worked out well this time. Dh starts paternity leave when dd is 6 weeks (which is just kind of late) & my Mom whom I normally see regularly has been almost completely out of contact. I'm just so darn grumpy & overwhelmed all the time. Mostly I am just really lacking help with housekeeping (the washing machine being broken really doesn't help either).


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Warning: Vent.

 

Ugh. My mom hurt her achilles tendon, so I made dinner tonight, which was a new recipe--Mac n' Cheese Italiano. Turned out fantastic, the whole family loved it. I worked pretty hard on it, being a new recipe and all. Mom kept DS for most of it. Then DH got home. DH is really picky about food. Like, REALLY picky. Every toddler in the world eats a more varied diet and is more willing to try new things than he is. No kidding. So I put this bowl of food in front of him. This should be his ideal meal. Italian food... cheese... pasta... And he says, "That's not something I'm going to eat." ...excuse me?  splat.gifSo I say, "Why not? It's mac and cheese." And he says, " No it's not. There are all sorts of chopped up vegetables in it." It has onions, green pepper, and celery, in moderate-small amounts, DICED SO TINY THEY'RE PRACTICALLY MUSH!! I told him he wouldn't be able to taste it and of course he says "Doesn't matter, I can see them."Cuss.gifaf.gifhopmad.gif *all other angry emoticons* I left the room after telling him to try it. An hour later I walk back in and it's sitting on the coffee table absolutely untouched. He won't even make an attempt. Not even a bite. If it was my kid I'd tell him he'd sit at the table till he tried it. Doesn't work with husbands. I don't know why I even TRY to make him food anymore. All he eats is fast food, pizza, and chicken parm. I swear I could kill him. And I made an apple pie tonight too and I really don't want to let him have any... except he'll probably say he doesn't like it anyway.


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AAAARGH. I just accidentally erased a nearly completed post. Grr.

 

No time to retype, but in short, hi everyone! Rosemary, so glad you are all OK. Chelsea, you are NOT failing him. He needs to eat, and you are feeding him. You're in the worst part right now. It will get better. See an LC if you can (and if you want to.)

 

Things I learned today:

 

1. When going for a long walk, wear a nursing shirt. Even if you nurse baby right before leaving, he may still demand a refill about 1.5 hours later. Nursing on a cold bench with your thin turtleneck hiked up and the wind whipping off the water is less than pleasant.

 

2. I am not the only one who uses loud, beat-heavy music to calm my baby: http://boingboing.net/2011/11/11/notorious-b-i-g-calms-down-cr.html


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~pi ... biglaugh.gif That video is priceless! Thanks for the laugh! 

 

Rosemary ... SO GLAD that you are all okay.  How scary! One of my worst nightmares ...

 

Trinket ... That would make my blood b-o-i-l.  I'd be FURIOUS.


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rosemary- so glad everyone is ok! how scary.

 

pi- that video is hilarious, thanks for sharing!

 

katico- you baked bread? I just can't even imagine having the time, sound yummy though.

 

trinket- I would highly recommend having a very serious discussion with your dh about how you are going to handle that. It is NOT ok for you to make food that he refuses to try plus when your ds gets bigger he needs a role model so he can be healthy and you both need to be on the same page or it will be a night mare.

My dh has a few foods he doesn't like and ocassionally I cook with them, same rule applies for him that applies for everyone else. quietly remove it and set it on the side of your plate and eat the rest or take a few "no thank" bites.

That would really really make my blood boil. Ugggg

 

Poops- We are doing ec and are very lucky that we haven't missed a poop since she was about a week (she is almost 4 wks) so haven't had to deal with blow outs. She poops 4 or more times a day though, I don't remember when that slows down.

 

AFM- I am dragging today. I am not usually a home body but just don't want to leave my house (worried I might have very mild ppd bcs it is so out of character). I am hoping i can snap out of it soon bcs it isn't like I am hanging out here cleaning etc. I am just hanging out while the kids destroy the place. The 1 yr anniversary of my most recent loss is coming up and I think that is messing with me a bit. I am so grateful my dd is here safely but it also makes me realize what I have lost/ am missing out on with my angels.Saphira is doing great though (aside from her finicky latching episodes) and is a great sleeper (if only I would go to bed on time, I just enjoy the time alone:)).


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I fed my baby this morning!

 

Not the usual "fed", wherein I breastfeed, trying to get her to pay attention and not snooze, trying to hear if she is swallowing anything, switching sides and finally just expressing whatever little bit I can into her mouth, then feeding her a whole bottle of formula.

 

Nope.  

 

This morning, she woke up after several hours of sleep, I popped her on in a sidelay and watched as she DRANK!  AND SWALLOWED!  AND STAYED AWAKE!  And stayed on the same breast without losing interest!  And then was happy and satisfied for an hour afterwards, no bottle required!  

 

People, this is huge.  

 

I FED MY BABY!

 

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I fed my baby this morning!

 

Not the usual "fed", wherein I breastfeed, trying to get her to pay attention and not snooze, trying to hear if she is swallowing anything, switching sides and finally just expressing whatever little bit I can into her mouth, then feeding her a whole bottle of formula.

 

Nope.  

 

This morning, she woke up after several hours of sleep, I popped her on in a sidelay and watched as she DRANK!  AND SWALLOWED!  AND STAYED AWAKE!  And stayed on the same breast without losing interest!  And then was happy and satisfied for an hour afterwards, no bottle required!  

 

People, this is huge.  

 

I FED MY BABY!

 

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Beth!!! Congratulations! Sooooo exciting. That IS huge!


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I fed my baby this morning!

 

Not the usual "fed", wherein I breastfeed, trying to get her to pay attention and not snooze, trying to hear if she is swallowing anything, switching sides and finally just expressing whatever little bit I can into her mouth, then feeding her a whole bottle of formula.

 

Nope.  

 

This morning, she woke up after several hours of sleep, I popped her on in a sidelay and watched as she DRANK!  AND SWALLOWED!  AND STAYED AWAKE!  And stayed on the same breast without losing interest!  And then was happy and satisfied for an hour afterwards, no bottle required!  

 

People, this is huge.  

 

I FED MY BABY!

 

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Woot Woot! Yeah!

 

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Katico- where is the like button? That is so awesome! I actuallydreamt about you last night. You spent an entire weekendin bed w your baby w skin to skin time and nursing constantly and it worked and she was nursing without formula. How funny to see this post from you. Hooray!

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I fed my baby this morning!

 

Not the usual "fed", wherein I breastfeed, trying to get her to pay attention and not snooze, trying to hear if she is swallowing anything, switching sides and finally just expressing whatever little bit I can into her mouth, then feeding her a whole bottle of formula.

 

Nope.  

 

This morning, she woke up after several hours of sleep, I popped her on in a sidelay and watched as she DRANK!  AND SWALLOWED!  AND STAYED AWAKE!  And stayed on the same breast without losing interest!  And then was happy and satisfied for an hour afterwards, no bottle required!  

 

People, this is huge.  

 

I FED MY BABY!

 

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pumping at keyboard.  Hunched over, balancing bottles on my lap, trying to type.  feel like a cow being milked.

 

Katico, just got choked up reading your post.  Huge congrats- that is so awesome, and I'm so happy for you!

 

Rosemary, I am so sorry about getting rear ended, and so relieved you all are okay.  

 

I've been reading but not posting much.  Palesa is 19 days old today.  I'm still bleeding which sucks.  Yesterday and today it has actually increased and is bright red.  I've taken short walks (like 15 minutes) but far from anything strenuous.  

 

Saorise- we gave birth on the same day, so I use you as my little metric... I'm totally envious of the sex part- I feel like we're so far away from that.

 

Tuesday morning we're leaving for Colorado for almost 5 weeks.  We're going to spend time with my mom during her chemo, and just be with family.  DH is also looking for jobs out there, and though I'm overwhelmed by details at this point, but the plan is to move out to CO sometime in early 2012.  I grew up there, my family is there, and with my mom's cancer, her diagnosis is really not great, but could go either way, and I want to spend this time with her now.  Plus, due to my 9-5 day job, I haven't been able to focus on doing birthwork like I want to be doing, so this is a really good time to make that transition, and I have so many connections in CO.  The hardest part is DH's job though...  We're packing Palesa's stuff today, but it feels so hard to plan- we use cloth diapers, so I need to do laundry on Monday (and today) and I guess just bring dirty diapers with us?

 

I've nursed Palesa in the sling, but haven't figured out the Moby yet.  We've only tried side-laying a few times, but it is kind of fun!  We're much better on the left boob.  One of the reasons I'm pumping is to increase supply and be able to have extra breastmilk to share with my mom.  She has to take human growth hormone, and one of the big side effects of her chemo is the way it depresses her immune system, which is one of the reasons breastmilk is thought to be so beneficial for cancer patients.  Whether it is ever proven or not, there is no way I would not do anything I could to help my mom, and I'm so thankful that my supply is very abundant- I'm pumping between her feedings, and depending on when I last nursed, getting between 2-4 ounces a time.  

 

 

 


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Trinket- YES EXACTLY to what theboysmama said. We actually have similar food "rules" to what she describes... no complaining about food if you don't like it. Nobody MUST eat anything that they really don't like, but we have what we have, and we don't make special meals. You can eat or not. Within reason, you can have something healthy later if you are still hungry.
 

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Tuesday morning we're leaving for Colorado for almost 5 weeks.  We're going to spend time with my mom during her chemo, and just be with family.  DH is also looking for jobs out there, and though I'm overwhelmed by details at this point, but the plan is to move out to CO sometime in early 2012.  I grew up there, my family is there, and with my mom's cancer, her diagnosis is really not great, but could go either way, and I want to spend this time with her now.  Plus, due to my 9-5 day job, I haven't been able to focus on doing birthwork like I want to be doing, so this is a really good time to make that transition, and I have so many connections in CO.  The hardest part is DH's job though...  We're packing Palesa's stuff today, but it feels so hard to plan- we use cloth diapers, so I need to do laundry on Monday (and today) and I guess just bring dirty diapers with us?


 


Amy-- I hope Colorado goes well. Sounds like a lot of good reasons to try and make it work, and you know... work all those connections for job leads too...

Personally, I used disposibles when flying etc. You can do your last diaper laundry the afternoon before you leave, and then use sposies until you get there. that is what I have done with my olders (I haven't traveled yet with Vera, who is only 15 days old...), just so I don't have to carry dirty diapers with me on the airplane. I think sposies... like juice boxes and pre-packaged food... are GREAT when convenience really will make your life easier. Sometimes I also box and send cloth diapers to meet me at my destination. Though that has been when I was traveling alone with a baby and a kid, so trying hard to minimize what I had to carry.

 

 


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rosemary, so glad you are okay. yikes.


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katico!!!!!!! yAy!!!!!!!!!

 

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Katico ... WONDERFUL NEWS!!! 

 

Amy May ... That's a big trip!  Yep, you'll be bringing dirty dipes with you.  OR (and I strongly suggest this), get yourself some Seventh Generation dipes to use in transit and use your nice clean cloth dipes when you get there.  It'll be lots easier!  It's okay to use sposies once and a while.  If you want to, that is.  I hope your mother gets some good news about her health soon!  And I hope your DP finds a dream job out there!  Happy travels! 


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Trinket:  Ugh, I would go absolutely batty, especially after all that hard work you put into the meal!  My FIL is absolutely the same way.  Has a list a mile long of things he absolutely will not eat under any circumstances.  MIL and SIL (who is my age but single and lives with them, helps cook/clean for them, as they are aging) are constantly taking his list into account and cooking a separate meal for him whenever they make something he won't eat.  Which is nearly all the time.  I've said many time that if he gets too old to take care of himself, he can't live with me.  I can't handle cooking extra stuff to appease someone's list.

 

Katico:  SO THRILLED for you!  I can imagine your bliss just by reading your post, and I wish I could give you a gigantic high-five in person!  YAY! 

 

Amy May:  Good luck on your trip!!  I can't imagine such a big one with such a little baby.  I've done a 3mo old baby before, and thankfully that went well.  The one time I've traveled with cloth diapers in tow, it went pretty smoothly, but I remember being a little overwhelmed by the planning aspect of it, as well.  I'm so glad you'll be able to spend time with your mom, and hope your DH has good luck with job-hunting, too. 

 

P.S. - I bled for a month.  Never copious amounts, but I wasn't pantyliner-free for an entire month.  Ugh.

 

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Amymay- sice you are going to be there for 5 wks maybe you could look into a diaper service. or just take the dirty ones with you in a wet bag, that is what we have done.


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Katico- Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so happy for you!

 

Trinket- That really sucks. I hope he comes around by the time your little guy is eating with you guys. That's something I worry about, I am a picky eater (and hate that I'm picky) but I do NOT want Landon to be picky.

 

Amy May- Your trip to Colorado sounds nice. I'm so happy you get to go out there and spend time with your mom. Good luck to your hubby to find a great job out there!

 

AFM- Landon has been cranky today....and actually most days he is greensad.gif If he isn't on my boob or in my arms he isn't happy. He falls asleep and I try to put him down, and he wakes up and is so mad. He isn't really ever happy to "hang out." BUT, he is awesome at night. Sleeps for 4 hours, nurses, sleeps for 2 hours, nurses, sleeps for 1-2 hours, nurses and is up for the day (or for at least a few hours) He was so cranky today, I gave him a 2 oz bottle around 2. Which he then threw up half of it. Not sure why, first time he has threw up. Maybe he wasn't really hungry or something? He hasn't pooped yet today, but did poop several times yesterday. Hope he poops soon.


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Amy May: We've done lots of travel. I'vedone both with cloth and sposies. I vote for packing clean diapers to use once you are there and using sposies (we do 7th gen) for the evening before and day of travel. That way you can get your last load of laundry done without stray dirty diapers to deal with.

 

I hope everything works out and you can move! I dream of moving closer to family.

 

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Been reading, not posting.

 

Katico: I'm so happy for you!  That's awesome, i hope you guys are able to keep it up!

 

Pi: Love the video.  Mine is totally into Bob Marley (particularly Buffalo Soldier and Redemption Song), it is the one sure fire way to get her to hush.  I did go a bit batty the day I had them on loop for three hours while trying to do some work for a certification course I'm trying to do with a team while on maternity leave...

 

AmyMay: I'm with the other ladies if you are willing to go disposable for travel, packing the clean ones to use at your destination.  I'm just thinking airport security might be jerks with dirty diapers.  Right now, we're all disposable because DD is too little for everything in our stash (I don't see how people AFFORD disposables for two years...the past month has been painful enough!)  It is wonderful that you are trying to do that for your mom, it sounds like you have a lot coming up.  I hope that you all have a safe trip!

 

Trinket: I would so kick my DH if he pulled that crap right now.  I see why you're irked.

 

AFM:  How can my in laws be intrusive from 600 miles away?  What am I woken to this morning, but my Iphone chiming with Skype at 6-freaking-am because they are visiting my father in law's mom and they just can't wait to see the baby.  WTF?!?!?!  First off, baby was asleep...and had been for an hour...and stayed asleep another two hours which I could have desperately used.  Second of all, who does that?  Baby or no, at 6am, our hair is not brushed, we are not clothed, hell, if it is not a work day, we are not awake.  DH is now appeasing them with a skype session from the nursery, but this is exactly why I didn't want him skyping with the baby.  They feel as though they should have access whenever they feel like it, like it is a freaking baby satellite dish or something.  She's not entertainment!  

We took DD to her one month check up yesterday, she's up to 6 pounds, 12 ounces and 19.5 inches long.  The doctor said that was slower gain then they would like.  Two weeks ago, she was 6 pounds, 3 ounces.  I've read that .5-1 ounce a day in the first month is what most doctors expect, so it seems to me like she's just right.  Is it just that she was little to start with that they might like to see more?  She eats regularly and is satisfied after feedings.  I did notice today she has a little baby six pack.  She's ripped.


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Amy May - I'd go with the idea of using sposies and taking clean cloth with you....or just use sposies the whole time.  We also use 7th Generation when we're not CD-ing.  The first time we went on a big trip with DS (a 12 hour drive to stay with IL's for 4 days) we did just cloth.  Even since we decided to just use sposies for trips.  Takes up a lot less room.

 

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Katico - Awesomeness!!

 

Leiahs - I wouldn't think a caffeinated soda the night before would have  such an impact...  Do you drink caffeinated stuff at other times?

 

AFM - Oy.  DS has a cold with a fever.  Usually his colds are fever-free.  Hoping my fast breathing DD  is spared from any respiratory illnesses.  Glad we've been avoiding our weekly playgroups...one of the kids is in the hospital with pneumonia right now.


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AFM:  How can my in laws be intrusive from 600 miles away?  What am I woken to this morning, but my Iphone chiming with Skype at 6-freaking-am
 

that is why I turn my phone to silent most of the time and just don't answer if I am sleeping or busy. I swear. Some people apparently think that if you are home, post-partum, with your kids, that must mean you 'aren't doing anything' and can talk on the phone? I don't think so!


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All 4 of us are now sickly. Dh's man-cold is now in it's 3rd week (& it's unfair but I have no patience for him), ds is still sniffly & baby girl & I woke up with something this morning. She's snuffly & wants to nurse constantly, I have a sore throat, aches, headache & stuffed up. Yuck. It's too bad too 'cause it's supposed to be unseasonably warm today & we have some outdoor work to do.


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Ok....

 

Trinket:  Yeah, "That's not something I'm going to eat"????  Um, no.  I agree with all PP, that he needs to suck it up as a parent and role model.  That's just super rude, especially that he left it sitting on the coffee table instead of putting it away.  Nonononono.  That's the sort of thing that makes me mad at my MIL as much as with DH, lol.gif
theboysmama:  hope you're feeling better...I can only imagine how hard the anniversaries of your babies are  candle.gif. Also, I love that you had a dream about me - that must be good cosmic energy coming my way thumb.gif

 

Amy: Love the image of you hunched with your pump etc at the keyboard.  I agree with others and would definitely get some disposables for the trip - I'd use them the day or so before you go, too, so you can get all your diapers clean and packed, and it will give you one less thing to worry about!  My theory is that when you're good 99% of the time, disposables, and like emma said, things like juice boxes can be  lifesavers I don't feel guilty about.   Thinking about you and your Mom, hoping for good news!

 

Rosemary: Ugh, just the thought of any kind of collision with baby/little people on board makes me sick to my stomach.  SO glad you're okay.  Have to admit I was amused by your mom sitting in the middle of traffic trying to call 911, hehe

 

Chelsea:  How's it going? Re:spitting up bottles:  Claire has been having some belly pain/gas these past few days that cause her to act hungry even when she's not...so if I feed her, I see some of it coming back up again.  Ugh.  But what can you do?  Hugs!hug2.gif
 

AKIslandgirl:  I am so, so sorry about your nephew's friends.  That just makes me cry for their families.  I am terrified at the thought of my children leaving our protective little bubble....my sweet little babies out in the world where senseless things like this accident happen.   am so sorry your nephew will have to deal with this  

 

livacreature:  My father travels for work and has a habit of calling to talk because he's bored while on the road.  And because he's up and going and bored at 8 or 9 am he calls me! Yes, I'm awake....but am I in any shape to talk to anyone yet?  No.  I've just finished wrangling two little people through diapers and breakfast and clothing and am just sitting down with a cup of coffee to fortify me for the next phase.  6am?????? UNBELIEVABLE.    


Lifeguard:  I have no use for the man-cold.  None.  A friend with 2 kids has had bad colds circulating through their house.  She was home sick with two sick kids and her husband had the nerve to tell her it wasn't so terrible - after all, she got to stay home in her pajamas and relax when she was sick - HE had to go to work and that was so much worse!  So he gets the same cold and takes a day off, but he "CAN'T TAKE CARE OF THE KIDS" while he's home sick so she has to stay home from her part-time work that day.  !!!  Yeah, no.  

 

I hope you're all feeling better soon!!!

 

AFM:  Still working on the bf'ing.. I'm making enough milk to be uncomfortable between feeds but still not enough for her to take it seriously every time.  I need to get my pump working again!!  

 

Took both kids to the grocery store yesterday and then to a dr's appointment today - go me!  Thought Claire's eye was infected but the doctor told me it's just an immature duct....hopefully he's right, but it felt like a giant waste of effort - loading up both kids, parking, waiting, loading up again etc.  

 

Is anyone else feeling guilty for not meeting everyone's 'physical contact' needs?  Some days  I give DD a hug or rub DH's back for a moment and they enjoy it so much it's obvious they've been wanting for some basic affection from me.   I just feel like I always have a baby on one arm and am juggling the 6 million other things that need doing with my other hand.  It seems silly to feel guilty about it - you know men never worry about such things.  

 

I have a date with a boiling hot shower and new bar of chocolate-spice scented soap.  Ohhhhhh yes.  



 

 


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katico - that soap sounds heavenly!!! I totally use the shower as an escape - dh I need some time alone & disappear for 10 minutes all alone - the water drowns out the sounds of the house & I love water - could stay there all day.

 

I am absolutely at my end with ds. I want my sweet little boy back - this is not so slowly killing my spirit. I try SO hard to go into things calm & ready & with a plan but it doesn't seem to matter. He is fighting me on every. single. thing. EVERYTHING. We went to the grocery store today, & I promise I am not lying, there was a negative comment about every item I put in the cart all the way through the store (not that milk, that one; no, I don't want bread; don't get lettuce; that's the wrong yoghurt) & I was soooooo good & calm & patient & friendly. He even pocketed a package of halls after I said no (he thought it was candy) & I dealt with it totally calmly & immediately. Then he threw a fit in the parking lot 'cause I put the milk in the trunk the wrong way (he wanted it standing up - which it was so I still have no clue what he thought was wrong about it) & I lost it. I hate when I get like that but I just can't seem to keep my cool for hours on end with the constant tirade. Once again I had to hold him down in the carseat so I could buckle it up so we could leave & then he literally screamed at me the entire drive home. And I wish I could say this is an isolated incident or just one part of the day but the whole day is like this.

 

I am just so frustrated at how I am feeling towards him. I am head over heels in love with my little boy but right now I can barely stand him. Anytime someone offers to take him for an hour or an afternoon or whatever I jump at it. I am left every night crying & feeling awful. I can't seem to keep control of my emotions & even when I manage in front of him I then have a break down in the next room.

 

I just don't understand why he thinks when I tell him we're going to put on pj's (or whatever) he thinks if he's terrible enough I might change my mind - I never do. I've tried being playful but it really just prolongs things, I give him options but he'll just flat out refuse to choose, I make the "consequences" clear from the start but he still seems to be consistently choose the hard route. And he can drag it on for hours - right now he is in his bedroom screaming - bedtime was well over an hour ago.

 

I just feel like the worst mommy in the world & it's starting to cause a lot of tension between dh & I. And it's all so new - 6 weeks ago he was a totally different child.


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My neighbour's boy turned three recently too.  She's taken to calling him a "threenager."  I hope it get's better soon!


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starling - that's brilliant. The thought has crossed my mind several times that in many ways it is like he is going through what I would expect from an hormonal teenager.


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Lifeguard, so many hugs.  You're doing way better at keeping your cool than I would be, in your shoes.  Heavens, just last night my 3.5yo DS threw a fit over his pajamas not "matching" (they totally were part of the same set!), and then not "fitting" (he thought they would be too long, they were the perfect length once he got them on), and it just all exploded.  I lost it and yelled and started slamming things to accentuate what I was yelling about, and oy.  You get that horror of watching yourself being ridiculously out of control but not being able to bring yourself to stop it... serious guilt, afterwards.  Poor DS cried and cried, and once he was in bed (after still more yelling) I shut the door and walked away.  He quieted down pretty quickly, at least - DH walked in the door about 2 minutes later and would have had no clue how badly things went if I hadn't told him.  But really, all of that was after a pretty decent day, and he was only throwing a fit about his pajamas, which (had I been in a better frame of mind) I could have probably stopped just by switching pajama sets altogether instead of trying to rush through bed time.  I can't even imagine the rage I would feel if one of my kids were criticizing my every single move on a trip like that.  Please don't feel like you're the worst mom in the world.  Having a totally different child on top of a newborn would throw just about any mother for a serious loop, I think, and challenge the absolute best of us.  I think that's where today's society is lacking so much - so often, we're left to do it all on our own, instead of with a strong network of constant support.  It's exhausting.  I hope it will start to improve soon for your whole family.  hug2.gif  I also hope you all get over your colds soon.  That can't be helping things at all.  :(

 

AFM, just real quick, I looked up on KellyMom about caffeine, and it looks like you can have enough to impact a baby, especially if the baby is a newborn.  I don't typically have caffeine (no coffee, etc.), so maaaaybe that one soda was enough out of the ordinary to throw things off for Malcolm.  The symptoms would be excessive waking and fussiness, and also a potential increase in reflux, for 24-48ish hours after I have the caffeine.  Fits my time frame and his behavior.  So I think I'll be avoiding the stuff for the next few months, at least, just to be on the safe side.

 

Also, ACK!!, Christmas is coming soon.  I just put a ton of medical charges on our credit cars, so we're definitely going to have to take it easy (waaay easy) on Christmas gifts this year, and I'm so uninspired about gifts in the first place.  I wish I had enough evening stability to try to do a bunch of handmade items, but nope, afternoon-evening is when I'm most often juggling Malcolm to deal with his fussiness. Ugh.  I don't want to think about gifts.


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Thank you Leiahs. Thank you. I have been at that out of control too many times lately & I just hate it.

 

Caffeine - I went through this with ds. I think if you don't normally consume caffeine it can make things worse too. I hope cutting it out helps you both.

 

Christmas - oh my. I don't even want to think about it yet. I'm thinking there will not be much homemade under the tree this year.


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Caffine - how are you guys coping without it - I would be a couch bound jellyfish!!!!

 

I am glad I am not the only phsycho mama here.....coffee helps me though - also helps when baby sleeps so I can give some attn to dd - kids are still in be (7am here) baby fussing but not major - coffee going down nicely

 

now to get kids breakfast ready and get ds on the school bus

 


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