So here's the deal. I'm working on baby #5. Our kids now are Hazel, Chloe, Calvin and Sammy. This baby is a boy. My husband is a quarter mexican, and we've been living in Mexico for the past year, he's been working there for quite some time, and Mexico is playing a huge part in our lives right now. So naturally he wants to give this baby a name that honors his heritage and this time in our lives. I totally get this.
But I just don't like the names.
He's wanted to name each of the kids something hispanic, but I've resisted--saying they were just too 'ethnic'. He thinks I'm being extremely bigoted, and that the kid makes the name and to let go of any random issues I have. I get that too.
So what to do--to make him feel included/opinions valued/all that stuff, while at the same time finding a name (a very permanent thing) that I can be happy with??
I've offered to give him middle name exclusive rights, but he says it's weak. He's open to an anglicized nickname of the baby, and I know if I go with a hispanic first name I can do whatever I want for a middle.
The names he really likes are:
Benito (nickname Benny, which is cute up to about 5yrs old. I don't really love Ben)
Carlos (the traditional nickname is Charlie, which I love, but I really don't like Carl)
Lorenzo--nickname of Enzo. Thinking on this one.
Probably just about anything else, if it sounds good and mexican.
My names that I love? Oscar. Elliot. Ezra. Theodore. Simon. Oliver.
If you've read this far, bless you. This is becoming one of those bigger-than-just-the-issue-at-hand type marriage things, if you know what I mean. I need some help!!! Suggestions?
Are you Mexican? What is his other 3/4 of heritage? The kid will be 1/8 mexican but the dad insist he honors mexican heritage? That sounds kind of like dad may have issues with his other 3/4 parts? It seems odd to me.
I could live with Enzo or maybe Benito. I suppose if you're going to live there forever maybe you want him to blend in more?
I think you both need to be happy so maybe keep looking?
I personally wouldnt give a name that was SO different from all of my other kids' names. What is your husband's name? Have you thought about just using that name?
Holly and David
Adaline (3/20/10), and Charlie (1/26/12- 4/10/12) and our identical twins Callie and Wendy (01/04/13)