Join Date: Sep 2004
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I think there are resources (especially books) in the adoption resource sticky.
We adopted our daughter from Korea, and we're a newly transracial family. Some of the things that have helped:
1. Reading! There are many excellent books on transracial adoption. In addition to that, we read childrens books on adoption and her country, adult fiction and memoirs about the experience of Korean-Americans or Korean adoptees, and books about being Asian in the U.S.
2. Classes. Many communities have adoption courses. We only took the ones related to attachment and transracial adoption. They were hit and miss, but the "hit" ones were fantastic.
3. Blogs. I dove into a lot of Korea-based blogs, and even contacted a few bloggers to ask for pictures taken on our daughter's birthday. That led to some really great relationships, and I was able to meet some of the bloggers. Also, some blogs (you really have to dig) give great cultural insights that are a lot harder to find in other resources, and too touchy to talk about in coversations.
4. Local groups. Look for local Ethiopian-American groups and try to get involved. It can be awkward to reach out to somebody just because of their race or heritage, but if you explain why you're doing it (we're adopting a child from Ethiopia and we want to make connections for our family) people are often understanding and even encouraging. One prof I had even went so far to say just this: "My son is from Korea and we need you in our lives." That's a little too personal for me, but whatever works.
5. TRAVEL!!!! Dive in, explore, prepare, anticipate, embrace. It's one of the best things about adopting internationally...meeting and learning a new culture.
Gotta go...but I'm sure others will have great ideas.
RedOak ~ Momma to DS (8) , DS (4) , DD (3) , & DD 9/10 ~