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Getting Started

Ethica: A Voice for Ethical Adoptions. Articles and Webinars

A great book list! :

Agencies and Logistics -dharmamama

European Adoption Consultants Inc.
A really good website for just starting out and give a lot of information
For the latest on Guatemala adoptions -Starr

Excellent organization - Leatherette

For the latest on Guatemala adoptions:
World Association for Children and Parents (WACAP)
This is the web site for the US State Department and is very useful for those questions like, "What about adoption from [insert country x here.] You can see all of the requirements and also the countries where it's not a good idea for legal reasons.
Adoptive Families Magazine. I love this magazine and the web site. They sell an excellent adoption guide which is updated every year.

Quantum Parenting Articles on Adoption

Charts for their kids' records/pediatricians:

There are a number of great groups on yahoo related to adoption. Lurking is a good way to learn about a particular country or about specific issues.
Ethica. A Voice for Ethnical Child Placement. This is an interesting advocacy group for openness and ethics in adoption. Good updates and alerts on various international adoption issues.
University of Minnesota International Adoption Clinic resources. Some great articles on medical issues faced by internationally adopted children.
-Diane B

[/B] Phillipines adoption
- Niamh

State Dept. website:

Adoption Advocates International
An adoption agency in India

Holt International
Adoption from China, Korea, Vietnam, Haiti, India, Philippines, Bulgaria and Mongolia. - Wendy Nathan Advocating the Adoption of Special Needs and Waiting Children and Supporting Families who Have!

Adoptive Parents forum - lauren - Mongo Adoption of HIV+ children, from dharmamama contributed by NYC Girl

A great web radio show with many excellent interviews -

Financial Assistance and Information

Tax credit

National Adoption Foundation or call 888-627-8767.

The Shepherd's Crook Ministries

A Child Waits Foundation
Cynthia and Randolph Nelson
1136 Barker Road #12
Pittsfield, MA 01201
Phone# 518-794-8890 or 1-866-999-2445
Fax# 1-518-794-6243

Kingdom Kids Adoption Ministries: or call

Military Non-Recurring Subsidy
For active duty adoptive parents the military will reimburse up to $ 2,000 on adoption expenses for one child and $ 5,000 for siblings. Parents need to file after the adoption is finalized and if they worked with a licensed adoption agency. They need to file form DD 2673 and see the Defense Finance Service Instruction 1341 or call 303-333-0845 for more information.

Employer Adoption Benefits: Contact your human resources department and see if your employer offers adoption benefits.

The Gift of Adoption Fund
Gene Wika
101 East Pier Street, 1st Floor
Port Washington, WI 53074
Phone# 1-414-268-1368 (for application)
Phone# 1-877-905-2367
Phone# 1-262-268-1386

Bright Futures
Jill Tate - Executive Director
1509 Maurice Trull Road
Wingate, NC 28174

National Adoption Foundation
100 Mill Plain Rd.
Danbury, CT 06811
Phone # 1-203-791-3811

The National Adoption Center in Philadelphia
1500 Walnut St. Suite 701
Philadelphia, PA 19102
Phone # 1-215-735-9988
Fax # 1-215-735-9410

This site consists of a list of corporations who give grants for adoption contract. Additionally, the NACIP offers material on how to get employee incentive programs related to the adoption process. For more information on this call, 1-800-TO-ADOPT

The Ibsen Adoption Network
Marilyn Brisbane
2730 French Road. N.W.
Olympia, WA 98502
Phone # 1-360-866-7036
Fax # 1-360-866-8917

The Boatner Family Foundation:: The Boatner Foundation, P O Box 132272, The Woodlands, Texas 77393-2272.

Our Chinese Daughters Foundation Inc.
Dr. Jane A Liedtke, Founder
P.O. Box 1243
Bloomington, IL 61702-1243
Telephone: 309-662-1090
E-mail: or


God's Grace Adoption Ministry
Darin Denlinger
Modesto California 95353
Phone # 1-209-572-4539

Hebrew Free Loan Association/DOMOI Foundation: Provides loans of up to $10,000 for Jewish families who wish to adopt. Website is or call 415-546-9902.


Oxford Adoption Foundation. Provides low-interest loans for families who have exhausted other financial options. Telephone: 239-430-6240 Website is

A Child Waits Foundation
Cynthia and Ralph Nelson
1136 Barker Road #12
Pittsfield, MA 01201
Phone# 1-914-962-0886 or 1-866-999-2445
Fax# 1-518-794-6243
Website is or call 413-499-3992.

First Union Bank Adoption Loan Program: Call 888-314-5437. An adoption loan program available to families who live in those states in which First Union operates.

Adoption and Race

Attachment and Post-Adoption/Fostering

"Specific Techniques to Increase Family Attachment"

The Association for Treatment and Training of Attachment Disorder

Dan Hughes Ph.D. Info on Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy Treatment Model

Residential Treatment Options Grounded in Attachment/Trauma Theory

Post Adoption Depression.

Here is a Yahoo group on PAD:

Books has all sorts of adoption-related books

Adopting and Advocating for the Special Needs Child by L. Anne Babb, Rita Laws

Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families With Special-Needs Kids : A Guide for Parents and Professionals by Gregory C. Keck, Regina M. Kupecky

Adoption across Borders by Rita J. Altstein, Howard Simon

Adoption Nation by Adam Pertman

Adoption Parenting: Creating a Toolbox, Building Connections. Edited by Jean MacLeod and Sheena Macrae. Especially relevent to international adoption and issues for post-institutionalized children of all ages.

Adoption, Race, and Identity: From Infancy to Young Adulthood by Rita Simon (Introduction)

The Adoption Resource Book by Lois Gilman

Are Those Kids Yours? by Cheri Register

Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents by Deborah D. Grey

Beyond Good Intentions: A Mother Reflects On Raising Internationally Adopted Children by Cheri Register

Children of Open Adoption and Their Families by Kathleen Silber, Patricia Martinez Dorner

The Complete Adoption Book by Laura Beauvais-Godwin

The Complete Adoption Handbook by Colleen Alexander-Roberts

Cross Cultural Adoption: How To Answer Questions from Family, Friends & Community by Amy Coughlin, Caryn Abramowitz

Cultures of Transnational Adoption by Elizabeth Alice Honig (Contributor), et al

Facilitating Developmental Attachment: The Road to Emotional Recovery and Behavioral Change in Foster and Adopted Children by Daniel A. Hughes

International Adoption: Sensitive Advice for Prospective Parents
by Jean Knoll (Author), Mary-Kate Murphy

Is Adoption for You: The Information You Need to Make the Right Choice by Christine Adamec

Insight Into Adoption: What Adoptive Parents Need To Know About The Fundamental Differences Between A Biological And Adopted Child by Barbara Taylor Blomquist

LifeBooks : Creating a Treasure for the Adopted Child by Beth O'Malley

The Legal Adoption Guide: Safely Navigating the System by Colleen Alexander-Roberts

Making Sense of Adoption: A Parent's Guide by Lois Ruskai Melina

The Post-Adoption Blues: Overcoming the Unforseen Challenges of Adoption
by Karen J. Foli, John R. Thompson

Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child: From Your First Hours Together Through the Teen Years by Patty Cogen

Parenting Your Adopted Older Child: How to Overcome the Unique Challenges and Raise a Happy and Healthy Child by Brenda, Ph.D. McCreight

Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child by Nancy Verrier

Reaching Out by Nelson Handel (a book about writing "Dear Birthmother" letters)

Raising Adopted Children, Revised Edition: Practical Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent by Lois Ruskai Melina

Toddler Adoption: The Weaver's Craft by Mary Hopkins-Best (Author)

Talking with Young Children about Adoption by Mary Watkins, Susan Fisher

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge

The Whole Life Adoption Book: Realistic Advice for Building a Healthy Adoptive Family by Jayne E. Schooler

Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child: From Your First Hours Together Through the Teen Years

Feeding Resources and Information

Feeding can be a central activity around which attachment occurs in adoption. Secure attachment is essential to the emerging relationship in adoption. Parents and babies that are joined through adoption need to establish the attachment relationship and food (survival, trust) is a close way to do this.

Members need to know that there are adoptive parents that are seeking to establish adoptive breastfeeding and those that either cannot do this or haven’t been able to sustain it for one reason or another. Members should be supportive of one another and assume that the mother’s best efforts have already gone into any breastfeeding attempt, or that there are reasons that this is not an option that the member may not wish to explain. Resources on various methods of attachment-focused feeding are welcome here: induced lactation, herbal/medical supplements, supplemental feeding systems, best methods of “bottlenursing” and best bottles, how to help the baby that resists eye contact, organic formulas, formula and milk allergies, etc. In all posts please observe the User Agreement and keep in mind MDCs commitment to attachment parenting and natural family living.

Great scholarly article on adoptive breastfeeding:

http://www.internationalbreastfeedin.../content/1/1/5 on adoptive breastfeeding


Things to promote "bottlenursing" (from Queencarr)

* hold baby for all feedings; no wandering around with a bottle
* limit the number of people giving a bottle, ideally just Mom or Mom and Dad, especially in the first few months
* feed on demand--have bottles made ahead to make this easier
* sing, make silly faces, play kiss your toes--anything to get them to look at you and interact while they are eating
* hold them close, similar to a nursing position if possible
* bottlefeed with as much skin to skin contact as they and you are comfortable with
* hold the bottle for baby--(my rationale behind this is that if baby were nursing, he would be dependent on me to provide his milk, therefore I feel it is developmentally appropriate that he not feed himself. On the few times he has reached to hold it I let him hold my hands instead.)

Please PM lauren with any resources that you might like to add to this list.

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