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This is a "Non Due Date Club" for all the Mamas waiting to adopt kiddos, whether newborn or older. We can share our stories, encourage each other while we wait and be patient (or not) for our little ones to arrive.

Feel free to join in if you are waiting for a foster kiddo, a relative or an adoption in any stage. We're not trying to be exclusive at all. Mamas who don't have any kids yet but who are waiting to adopt or foster a kiddo are also welcome. Also feel free to chime in if you have previously adopted and have stories or advice to share.

Please keep this thread supportive and gentle. We all have different journeys and different ways of "getting there".

Here is the link to July's NON DDC

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Waiting to Adopt DDC Roll Call!!!


BeckC (Rebecca)
Domestic Transracial Newborn Adoption
Homestudy approved 8/09
Waiting to be matched

Whistler (Erin)
International Adoption from Ethiopia
Waiting to apply

mamalemon
Domestic Newborn Adoption
Baby boy is home 9/09!
Waiting for finalization

mamarhu
Foster/adoptive parent, hoping to adopt DFC
Maybe waiting for 5yo twins, sibs of DFC

tiffani
International African adoption
Received referral for 2.5 year old boy and 5 mo old girl!
Waiting on a court date

lamamax3
Domestic Newborn Adoption
Licensed and waiting to be matched

curliemama
Private domestic adoption
Baby girl is home 2/10!
Waiting for finalization

HeatherAtHome (Heather)
Hoping to foster/adopt
Bought a house, renovating before starting the process

candm
International Haitian adoption
Finalized, our son and daughter are home!

crl (Catherine)
Updating homestudies for China and Kyrgyzstan
Homestudy for domestic adoption approved 12/09
Matched with an emom having a girl due in April
Baby girl is home 4/10!
Waiting for finalization

sesa70 (Theresa)
Domestic Transracial Infant Adoption
Homestudy approved 11/09
Waiting for a match

airmide_m
Adoption plans on hold

chanibell
International Adoption
Thinking stage for #2

angie6191
Hoping to adopt current foster kiddos
Starting process for domestic transracial newborn adoption
Approved 11/09
Waiting for a match

azedazobollis (Christine)
Domestic Newborn Adoption
DD came home 12/08
Waiting for finalization

Polliwog (Beth)
Hoping to adopt DFD who is free for adoption
Hoping to finalize summer '10

DTmama1
Matched with sibling group from foster care
Ages 6, 9, 10, 11, and 13
Kids are moved in!

raqmykds (Raquel)
Transracial domestic adoption
Matched with an emom due 5/8/10!

Alvenchrst
Foster/adopt
Working on paperwork

ftlmom2001
Domestic private adoption
Baby boy born 10/09!
Waiting for finalization

hdeering
Foster parents to 3 yo, 3 yo, and 5 month old.
Moving towards adoption with 2 out of 3, but maybe all 3.
TPR hearing for 1 or 2 of them in Jan.

excitedtobeamom
Adopting from Thailand
Waiting on referral (hopefully summer/fall 2010)

Crpsmnwife
International adoption from Ethiopia
Dossier approved
Received referral 4/26/10!
Waiting to travel

Ttoes
Domestic Newborn Adoption
Homestudy approved
Waiting to be matched

SimplyRochelle (Rochelle)
Hoping to adopt from foster care
Working on paperwork

griffin2004
State Foster-to-Adopt Program
Waiting for a placement
Signed with private adoption attorney

christophersmom
Hoping to foster
Approved 10/09
Baby girl placed 1/10!
Waiting for finalization

leahcar
Homestudy approved 07/09
Hoping to adopt an older child (girl)
Matched with a 9 year old girl
Waiting for ICPC

ladycop79 (Heather B)
Hoping to foster
Taking MAPP classes

Sbrinton (Sara)
International adoption from Rwanda
Working on homestudy

mightyisis6874
Domestic Infant Adoption
Applying with agency
Waiting for homestudy

willowbean
Licensing for foster hoping to foster-adopt
Working on home study

Bella Catalina
Hoping to adopt from Ethiopia
Researching agencies

Veronika01
Hoping to adopt
Researching programs

Mama K (Kim)
Domestic Transracial Newborn Adoption
Homestudy approved 12/09
Waiting to be matched

azmomtoone
Researching domestic and foster-adopt
Waiting to get on orientation list for foster care

just_lily
Domestic Public Adoption
Starting classes summer '10

Armom
Adoption through state foster care system
Homestudy approved
Waiting to be matched with a 2-5 year old

miche28
Domestic private adoption newborn through 2 years
Homestudy approved
Waiting for a match

alinae
International adoption from Taiwan
Received referral 4/10 for a little boy!
Waiting to travel

sagewinna
Foster to adopt
Waiting for approval

Ladyofmoonlight
International adoption from DRC
Just beginning the process

queenjane
Hoping to adopt 2yo DFS and his 8 yo sister

krisnic
International adoption from Korea
Researching agencies

veganjoy
Foster to adopt
Completed training
Waiting for approval

JoyfamMama
Fostering and Foster to adopt
Waiting for homestudy

Smithie
State Foster/Adopt Program
Older Child Adoption
Waiting for homestudy

Erintoadopt
Domestic Adoption
Waiting for a match

MovingMomma (Shannon)
International adoption from Rwanda
Just starting the process


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Graduates!!!

Whistler (Erin)
Domestic Transracial Newborn Adoption
Baby boy born on 9/29
Home on 10/9!
Finalized 4/10!

rebyell
Domestic adoption
Baby girl born 11/10/09
Baby is home!
Finalized 3/10!

someonenamedleah (Leah)
Domestic Transracial Infant Adoption
Baby boys born 1/09!
Finalized 5/10!

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I am still here, and still waiting. I am not very hopeful and still feel pretty negatively about things at this point, but here I am none the less.

I have stopped thinking about our lives in terms of 'when the new baby comes' and now think in terms of *if*. I have stopped planning for this child, stopped purchasing baby related itmes, stopped talking about our adoption. It is a pretty sad place to be, but we have been waiting 10 months now with no interest. We were told it would be at least another 10 months but most likely longer; they just couldn't say how much longer. So I am trying to move on with my life as though we will always be a family of 4 because the longer we wait, the more realistic of a possibility that becomes.

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We will finalize on August 23!

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We will finalize on August 23!
That's great news!

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I guess it might be time for an update!

My husband traveled to Ethiopia and brought our new son home on July 17th! He's been home now for just over 2 weeks, and we are all adjusting to life as a family of 4. My biological 2.5 year old is dealing with lots of sharing issues (parents, toys, time, etc), and we are trying to teach our Ethiopian 4.5 year old that he doesn't need to bend over backward for our attention and affection. Hard work, but it'll be TOTALLY worth it! I can't believe he's already home. It feels very surreal.

Looking forward to seeing everyone else's good news very soon!

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I am one of three families selected as "finalists" for a little boy from my state's foster care system. They will be selecting "the" family by mid-week next week. This is just nerve wracking! I really don't know the best way to deal with this. If I am selected, things will happen very quickly. If not, well....then not.
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Wow, exciting news all around! Homecoming! Foster approval! A possible pre-adoptive placement!

Armom: I'm sure there are merits to every method, but my state selects a "first-choice" family and THEN makes contact with the good news and does a presentation to that family only. If that family declines the placement based on info given in the presentation (which I don't think is a rare occurrence, the presentations are apparently brutally honest), THEN they call in the next-choice family and do it all over again. I am really glad that they do it this way - it eliminates the competition factor. Best of luck to you!!!
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Polliwog file should go to the adoption committee either next week or the one after and her adoption "should" finalize in September. Or October, who knows at this point. She's not going anywhere so it will happen when it does. I do want to send pictures to her birth father and schedule a park visit but I think I'll wait until after finalization.

My license expires in a week so I have to scramble to get everything done at the last minute. Eeek.
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I guess it might be time for an update!

My husband traveled to Ethiopia and brought our new son home on July 17th! He's been home now for just over 2 weeks, and we are all adjusting to life as a family of 4. My biological 2.5 year old is dealing with lots of sharing issues (parents, toys, time, etc), and we are trying to teach our Ethiopian 4.5 year old that he doesn't need to bend over backward for our attention and affection. Hard work, but it'll be TOTALLY worth it! I can't believe he's already home. It feels very surreal.

Looking forward to seeing everyone else's good news very soon!
Congratulations. That's totally wonderful.

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Armom: I'm sure there are merits to every method, but my state selects a "first-choice" family and THEN makes contact with the good news and does a presentation to that family only. If that family declines the placement based on info given in the presentation (which I don't think is a rare occurrence, the presentations are apparently brutally honest), THEN they call in the next-choice family and do it all over again. I am really glad that they do it this way - it eliminates the competition factor. Best of luck to you!!!
I would definitely prefer the way your state does it, Smithie. Here all 3 families get all the info there is on the child, and the assumption is that once you go to committee you would accept the placement if choosen (although, of course, I dont think its unheard of that something unpredicted happens). I know it is not supposed to be about the pre-adoptive parents, but about the child, but I really think they could make it less hard on us pre-adoptive parents and still find the "best" home for the child...you state's system sounds more in that category to me.
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I have been chosen to adopt a 4.5 year old boy from my state's foster care system! I am so excited! I have so much to do!
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Congratulations, Armom!! I will be thinking about you.

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Congratulations, Armom!! I will be thinking about you.
Thanks!
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When will he be placed with you ?

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When will he be placed with you ?
I will have my first visit with him in his foster home this coming Wed. My understanding (have been playing phone tag with his worker, so the communication has been through voice mail) is that there will be some seeing how it goes, but he should be moved in a week from Wed.
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Best wishes for your first visit and I hope that his placement is a successful one for everyone.
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DD's adoption has been finalized!!!!!

She was placed with us January 2010 and Finalization was August 2010, she just turned one late July. Very exciting times for us.

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Congrats, Carly!

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I have been chosen to adopt a 4.5 year old boy from my state's foster care system! I am so excited! I have so much to do!
Very exciting! Congratulations!

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We finalized yesterday!

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congratulations.

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Our country of choice just closed temporarily to transition to Hague compliance. We were ready to get the ball rolling after we find out what's going on w/DH's job next month. It isn't as devastating for us as for the families who were already getting close to finishing the paperchase, but it still feels like a blow. Now we have to decide whether to wait for who knows how long and for who knows what kind of changes or whether to look for a different country.

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We were contacted last week about a baby another agency was having trouble placing. Our SW sent over our profile for birthmom to look at. It was between us and one other family...they won. She had never mentioned to anyone that it was important to have a family with no kids. Last August, we weren't religious enough for a birthmom. Previous to that, we were white (hysterical, since I'm of Middle Eastern descent and have never before been considered white). We applied to adopt two years ago in June. In November, it will be two years since we completed our homestudy. Not sure when we'll give up on all of this.

SW says that she's got three birthmoms in the program, so there is hope...she's already discovered that they don't mind white parents or families with kids.

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