Originally Posted by heatherdeg
Eek. That's a good one. I wonder if they could do an ICPC to supervise the end of the adoption?
That was what we did...got an ICPC.
|Of course, unless you have a child with a goal of adoption, I can't imagine a state even considering that.
Even with the goal of adoption, they usually need to keep on documenting parental visits up to the very end, etc. A move out of state, unless within driving distance for visits, will be problematic.
We planned our move when it looked like our case was coming to a close. Our social worker was supportive when we first talked with her about it, and also believed we were just a tiny distance from finalization, so we went in confident. Then there were a whole lot of delays (you know how typical that is with foster care), and dd couldn't leave because visitations had to be extended and the judge wasn't going to okay us seeking an ICPC. I had to start my job in the new state, so our family ended up separated for several months while dw stayed back in our old state with the kids. The social worker was able to get court orders so that the kids and dw could periodically leave the state to visit me, but it was still really, really, really hard for all of us.
Then there was a period of time in which visits had been stopped (termination may have been granted in trial by then), and the social worker was able to get extended travel orders, but the move wasn't official yet (can't remember the delay...it might have been the ICPC...which did end up getting delayed in processing due to staffing, etc. etc.). During that time we had to maintain our old home in homestudy condition. We couldn't finalize a pending sale on the house, blah, blah, blah.
Then, eventually, we were able to move and just have the case under an ICPC. That was such a relief! Because the case was under appeal, we weren't able to finalize the adoption for a while, so we had the ICPC for some time. It didn't really matter to us except that the new state didn't have a relationship with us, and the social worker was very slow to warm up...which was sort of a drag.