That's wonderful!! (Both that he remained intact and that he's here!!!) So happy for all of you.
Congrats, mama! Glad to hear EVERYONE is happy - bioparents, you guys AND the sweet baby who gets to remain healthy and whole!
- E . Single mom to DS E (15.12.05), T (reincarnated 18.04.08) and DD A (11.02.11) and Hoppy
This is so sad...
That said, if I were the adoptive mom, I would make the REQUEST on behalf of my son that his birthmother not circ him. I would also convey that request to the attending pediatrician, nursery staff, etc. I would want everybody to be crystal clear that I didn't want circ performed. Depending on the timeline, the birthmother could request circ and a sympathetic doctor and staff could find a reason not to do to in the first few days of life, before she signs the papers. If you don't make you feelings known, then neither the birthmother nor the hospital staff will have a chance to take your feelings into consideration. They may choose not to - but they will have the chance, if you communicate.
... healthy and whole and happy? I highly doubt the birthmom is happy right now... . She just reliquished rights to her baby.
CONGRATS on your new son. I am so happy he remained intact.! I wish you a great life with him.